Slow and Sensual vs Fast and Hardcore

Ladies - I've been thinking about this for a while, so thought I'd ask.

Is there generally one style you prefer over the other, or does it just depend on the mood at the time? The person you're with? I'm not speaking about this just in hobbying, but in general.

I'm pretty young (30) and hadn't been with many women before I started hobbying couple years ago, so I've used the hobby as a way to learn. Over the past year I've treated every meeting as an experiment in learning the slow and sensual way, and I'd say I have it down (last person told me to write a book, so I thought I'd learned enough for now).

Being somewhat of an academic, I wanna move on to the next chapter and challenge. If you have any tips or what you prefer personally, I'd love to hear and try it out.

I know this sounds like a juvenile post lol, but I appreciate any help in my academic pursuits.

I think it depends on my partner and my mood.
There are certain guys who are better with the slow and sensual and I wouldn't want to change that. Plus there are other guys who are better with being more on the rough side.
But it's also great to have a combination of both.

I think it depends on my partner and my mood.
There are certain guys who are better with the slow and sensual and I wouldn't want to change that. Plus there are other guys who are better with being more on the rough side.
But it's also great to have a combination of both. Originally Posted by TemptationTammie

This, exactly.

It is always different with each guy.

That's what's one of the wonderful things about the hobby.

You get to experience so many different varieties of sex.
And then you get to have regulars who learn what different things work together for the both of you.

Just like things worked well together when I was with my long term relationship a certain way, doesn't mean I enjoy those specifics now with the long term relationship I'm in now.

Each situation is different and yes, mixing it up is always fun.

But usually a good fast and furious at the end is a good way to go out with a bang!

I totally agree with the above. It depends on the guy and situation. Most of the time it is a combination. Slow and sensual and very very deep so I feel every inch of your hard cock as it rubs my clit, g spot and cervix is so hot. Hard pounding is fun for short bursts only))

I totally agree with the above. It depends on the guy and situation. Most of the time it is a combination. Slow and sensual and very very deep so I feel every inch of your hard cock as it rubs my clit, g spot and cervix is so hot. Hard pounding is fun for short bursts only)) Originally Posted by Teagenluv

Yeah, I had a guy book two hours with me, and 90 minutes into straight hard pounding and all kinds of contortionist positions (which I was not used to by any means, and had never advertised) I had to throw in the towel, literally, and give him some money back and say, "sorry man, I didn't sign up for this shit".

Yeah, I had a guy book two hours with me, and 90 minutes into straight hard pounding and all kinds of contortionist positions (which I was not used to by any means, and had never advertised) I had to throw in the towel, literally, and give him some money back and say, "sorry man, I didn't sign up for this shit". Originally Posted by tntangie

And that gesture is simply why you are a Pro !

Atta girl ! You show wonderful heart !!!

Slow.

Add some alcohol = Fast.

And that gesture is simply why you are a Pro !

Atta girl ! You show wonderful heart !!! Originally Posted by crashkopf

LOL,

I was thinking to myself the whole time, "Ok, how long can he do this? 20 -30 minutes then a pop? Take a break and then do it again? A little convo and some water?" But nope. It just kept going. I swear, I couldn't keep enough lube on myself. It was a session out of a nightmare.

I don't know if that made me a pro or seasoned or what. I don't know if a younger girl would have just taken the pounding and just kept going. But hell, I was past 30 and I'm not that hard up for money to take that from anyone.

He was bragging that he does that with RL girls all the time and they just love it.

No way do I believe that shit.
I wouldn't even put up with that if someone was paying ALL my bills. I have too much respect for myself.

I do love sex, I have a great sex life with a great guy as well as with the clients I chose to see and who chose to see me. If I didn't enjoy sex, I wouldn't chose to do this for 12 years off and on. (I've stopped for RL relationships and done it part time while going to college). So it's not like I was just anti sex for that session.

Sorry, didn't mean to hijack this thread.

I am fast ... two minutes of action then its nap time.

I'll smash that box for the whole hour if she wants.

^^^^ Ex Whore... don't you believe it!

Thanks for the comments, ladies.

I prefer slow and sensual myself, so that's how I always start off, and then try different things to see what the lady prefers.

I think it's all about setting the mood, so I often go 15-20 minutes just kissing and caressing the whole body except the clit and vagina, to tease and get her heated. At that point I've learned enough from her cues to know how she wants me to proceed.
But one time a lady turned the tables on me and did all my tricks on me, and I hated her for it lol---the teasing is amazing and awful at the same time.

And I totally agree with the sentiment on hard pounding---not a fan as a guy, and not so enjoyable for me. Glad I didn't learn to have sex from watching porn.

At the end of the day, I just want to make sure there's enough variety in my repertoire to keep me and the lady satisfied.

I wonder how providers are thinking the answer is whatever gets them off and out of here first...You're probably one of the special ladies that actually love the sex..

I totally agree with the above. It depends on the guy and situation. Most of the time it is a combination. Slow and sensual and very very deep so I feel every inch of your hard cock as it rubs my clit, g spot and cervix is so hot. Hard pounding is fun for short bursts only)) Originally Posted by Teagenluv

I agree. It's the slow build that makes it exciting. I prefer to keep it slow and sensual with plenty of foreplay and once the desire has built up enough in both partners, end in a crescendo of fucking.

It does depend on my mood ...and my gents mood at the time