Handling The SO/BF Question

I know its not really anyone's business if you ladies do have a SO/BF but this question has always intrigued me. So ladies, how do you handle the question of having a SO/BF when a client asks? Is it better to admit it or deny having one?

Shorty, I always asuume if the lady is HOT she has someone in her life! Its none of my business, so I would never ask. I just need to know there not in the room! LOL

Last time someone asked me where my so/hubby was my brain to mouth filter wasnt working and before I could stop myself I said "with your wife"..Glad he had a sense of humor about it

Shorty, I always asuume if the lady is HOT she has someone in her life! Its none of my business, so I would never ask. I just need to know there not in the room! LOL Originally Posted by Still Looking

Its better to know than to find out like, Oh Shit My SO/Hubby Just Got Home And He Doesn't Know I'm Doing This!

I don't at the moment but hypothetically if I did - I would say no. Just for the fact that it might "ruin" the fantasy.
Although, a few of my hobby friends know me in my real life and would probably figure it out if I ever did. Highly unlikely that I would date anyone while participating in this hobby, though.

I have had at least fifty percent of the providers I have seen over the years aske me if I am married. So what is the difference if they are asked. I have had several volunteer that they had hubby/bf/so and I did not find it to be a problem. What is the issue?

I don't ask men about their marital status unless they offer that info willingly. And I would prefer to focus on the person who is in the room with me rather than talk about certain aspects of my private life. I wouldn't say anything wrong with asking but I wouldn't be answering them.

I don't have either one, 10-4. if that SO.B is brave enough to be in the room he can tell me what she likes best and he remains in that closet. A big 10-4 good buddy.

I know its a private issue but wouldn't coming out that you had a SO/BF be more practicial than saying Nothing or NO? Unfortunately there's a lot of guys that does buy into the illusion of the lady is available. So ladies how do you handle someone thats bought into the illusion of you being available?

What difference does it make? *They are available... an hour at a time!

I never ask, my guess is that most provider have a BF/SO in their life. I just like to make sure there are no size 12 cowboy boots in the closet when I'm in the room(has happened). My point is I don't care what the the providers personal status is I just don't want the guy lerking around or see any signs that he even exsist.

If a guy is so far down into that fantasy that I have to pretend to be single when I am not....well, he is not long on my list. It is a slippery slope that can end in arguments and violence. Enjoy your fantasy, keep a grip on reality.

If a guy is so far down into that fantasy that I have to pretend to be single when I am not....well, he is not long on my list. It is a slippery slope that can end in arguments and violence. Enjoy your fantasy, keep a grip on reality. Originally Posted by SillyGirl

Well said!

Freaking awesome

What difference does it make? *They are available... an hour at a time! Originally Posted by MrGiz

I get asked all the time if I have a boyfriend, but it's not really a big deal because I'm single. When I did have a boyfriend early last year it was irritating to get asked about my personal life.

I usually just assume most of my clients are married. Sometimes I ask, sometimes I don't. It doesn't matter to me as long as I'm getting paid.