question for the ladies.....

I'm in serious need of some company..... However I'm concerned about how I might be percieved...... 3 weeks ago a couple of guys tried to mug me, and as a result of the situation I'm still pretty banged up....black eye is almost gone but but I still have some pretty obvious indications of being involved in a scuffle of some sort....

Its been a really long time, and I'm really craving a womans touch....

So, the question is, if I try to book with a provider, do I give a heads up and does it really matter? or do I wait until I'm healed up and its a non issue.... since I'm a newbie I'm really sensitive to the impression that I make....

I know this sounds really funny but intimacy isn't always about the sex....

So here is another question... does anyone else get an almost intoxication from skin on skin that isn't sexual?

Based on this site I'm prepared for the ridicule..... I'm hoping that the responses are better than what I would have gotten for the same post on ASPD.....

I think as long as you have references, any lady would be fine with seeing you, based on what you have said. If the bruises or injuries make you feel uncomfortable, then maybe you could mention them prior to meeting so that you won't feel a need to explain them upon meeting.


As far as skin on skin intoxication, yes, I understand what you mean.

Good luck

First off sorry about your misfortune. Here's the long and short. As Ms Foster stated if you have good references and attempt to explain beforehand your situation you might find a kind hearted provider. On the other hand as you are a newbie, you might "fight" the urge until you are a little more healed. Once you are, establish a good reputation with a couple of good providers who can be your "go to" girls if need be. Never forget how important it is to make a great first impression. Best of luck.

J

that is the problem... I don't have references....and from what I have been reading..... some providers require p411 AND 2 references....

I have a problem with seeing providers that I don't want to see just to build my references so I can see the ones that I do want to see.... in other words...spend money on something that does nothing for me so I can spend money to do something I would enjoy....

this hobby is very frustrating for the fng.....

Why not just pick a couple providers from your list (it appears you've started to compile one) and see what they have to say? It sure never hurts to send and email or make a phone call. What's the worst thing they can say, "no"? Doesn't seem execptionally painful. You might be surprised, there are some exceptional women on here in the brains, beauty, skill AND humanity departments.

It's only as difficult as you make it, don't overthink things and let the game come to you (have I been watching too many sport interviews?). You get the point.

warlock thanks for the advice.. so far I have heard from the hobbiests.... but non of the providers... I really would like to hear from thieir viewpoint..

Well, you did hear from Reese and she's an escort.

Just tell her when you're booking. You can also add that you feel uncomfortable about it on some level. I would probably ask you WHY you got in a scuffle although I know that it isn't my business ... but if you're the sort that serendipitously gets into bar fights a lot, I might be a little nervous meeting you.

Oh the other hand, if a 350 pound woman attacked you in the parking lot, then I would most certainly be understanding of your plight.

You getting mugged is completely understandable.

Skin on skin contact is very erotic. I'm not sure why you're asking if it is ever not. If I'm hugging a relative, it's not sexual. If I'm giving affection in a way that is not being with a man in an intimate setting, it's not sexual.

If I'm with a man, alone, generally ... unless it's a friend and a hug or a handshake is done for a greeting, then yeah, skin on skin is sexual. But I'm a bit of an animal in that way.

Hugs,
Elisabeth

join P411.I know you can find lots of sexy ass ladies that are "newbie friendly" and do not require references on there.Then you are off and running.

You getting mugged is completely understandable.
Originally Posted by ElisabethWhispers

So do you already know nervousnewbie, EW? Haha, jk!

When I was a newbie (3 years next month), my first hobby experience was Macy/Mandy from BP (not British Petroleum) in the wee hours of the morning - I did not have references. My next was Brittany Paige a few months later and Macy/Mandy was my only reference but still worked. Then I joined aspd but still no references so I saw BP Stephanie (now Scarlett) and did a review. The first aspd girl I saw was Charli Knox who kind of opened it up for me on seeing other girls because she vouched for me.

Ok, so my experience seemed like a pain in the ass to get started - it was kind of like climbing a corporate ladder, haha.

So I guess my only advice for the newbie could be to follow my architectural plan that worked for me - start at the bottom and start working your way up.

PM me if you want some info, later,
CanDo01

Well, you did hear from Reese and she's an escort. Originally Posted by ElisabethWhispers

Thanks Elisabeth, for a minute there I was getting a complex.

Reese, I didn't mean to slight you.... mentioning that I needed references, I thought had touched on what you said..... I received a good number of PM's from hobbiests offering advice.....

In regards to my injuries... I went to a place that I wasn't familair with to meet some friends.... and was involved in an attempted mugging with 2 characters.... who ended up with more than they barganed with....thanks to my military traing 20+ years ago...

nervousnewbie...

1. Sorry for your misfortune and I am glad it turned out better than it COULD have.

2. Skin on skin IS very good! As a massage therapist, I LOVE touching folks skin all day!

3. Perhaps you should seek out newbie-friendly providers (<---) that would see you so you would HAVE references.

Sounds like you NEED a nice, relaxing massage type session after you ordeal...let me know!

--v