a question for the guys

Hey guys I was having a conversation with a friend of mine and wanted some input...I know men like selection....but if you had the opportunity to an arrangement with one female and only one female would you do or ask her to be exclusive with you and only you in an agreeable preset arrangement?? I am curious. Have a wicked day..i am going to post this is a few different areas to see what the general opinion is....
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Hey guys I was having a conversation with a friend of mine and wanted some input...I know men like selection....but if you had the opportunity to an arrangement with one female and only one female would you do or ask her to be exclusive with you and only you in an agreeable preset arrangement?? I am curious. Have a wicked day..i am going to post this is a few different areas to see what the general opinion is.... Originally Posted by Irish Vixen
I wouldn't ask a woman for an exclusive relationship unless I intended to be exclusive with her, and so far the only woman I've found in the past, oh, 5-6 years that I'd even consider being exclusive with wants no part of an exclusive relationship.

More likely, if I were rich enough to have "an arrangement", I'd propose it with my all time favorite, and basically I'd shoot for, say, putting her up in a magnificent apartment and giving her a generous allowance, in return for which she'd give me priority in arranging times to see her, up to and including canceling set appointments with other guys if I asked. But that's an "if I won a 9 digit lottery prize" fantasy; I know I'll never have to consider proposing such an arrangement.

Cheers,

bcg
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Hey guys I was having a conversation with a friend of mine and wanted some input...I know men like selection....but if you had the opportunity to an arrangement with one female and only one female would you do or ask her to be exclusive with you and only you in an agreeable preset arrangement?? I am curious. Have a wicked day..i am going to post this is a few different areas to see what the general opinion is.... Originally Posted by Irish Vixen
Pretty Lady:

First, I hope you have not gotten such an offer and are considering it - I REALLY want to meet you, and such an arrangement might prevent that.

Now for my answer:

The short answer is - No.

The long answer is in two parts. First, I have fantasized about how things might have been if I had met my ATF provider long ago and drugged her into a relationship with me. But I realized that one of the reasons she is my ATF is that she is the most sensual, sexual, and uninhibited woman I have ever met. What that means is, that while she could easily satisfy me, I could never satisfy her. It's one of the things I love about her - she is completely sensual, sexual, and uninhibited. Our relationship is more than just that, but it remains within the hobby.

Second, I also enjoy variety. I tried being a one woman guy, and it just doesn't work. So, I can not expect my "partner" to be a one guy woman if I'm not a one woman guy. It's not fair

So, back to the short answer - No, I would not enter in an exclusive relationship with one lady. It would have to be exclusive in both directions.

But, in some ways, I envy those guys who can do that and have a fully satisfying relationship with just one woman; I just don't envy them for very long after I see a pretty lady who seems interested in me...

JaG
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Hey guys I was having a conversation with a friend of mine and wanted some input...I know men like selection....but if you had the opportunity to an arrangement with one female and only one female would you do or ask her to be exclusive with you and only you in an agreeable preset arrangement?? I am curious. Have a wicked day..i am going to post this is a few different areas to see what the general opinion is.... Originally Posted by Irish Vixen
Hey, maybe I'm misunderstanding the question, Vixen. If it's exclusive for both of them, and he is financially supporting her, then isn't that the equivalent of a civil marriage, but without ring, preacher and certificate? Or at least an exclusive SO arrangement?

Like another poster here, my ATF would be my first choice (no, I'm not giving out names), and it would be unfair to her, because she is insatiable, and craves variety.

But that is one of my attractions to the hobby is that regardless of marriage, SO's (most of us seem to have one of the other situations), we all do seem to like the variety the hobby presents.

But maybe I'm wrong?

Full time sugar daddy? Not for me. But sugar daddy for the moment? Hell yes.


Brer
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Hey, maybe I'm misunderstanding the question, Vixen. If it's exclusive for both of them, and he is financially supporting her, then isn't that the equivalent of a civil marriage, but without ring, preacher and certificate? Or at least an exclusive SO arrangement? Originally Posted by Brer Rabbit
The one advantage to "the equivalent of a civil marriage, but without ring, preacher and certificate" is that it's a lot easier to end that relationship if and when the time comes. Lawyers aren't involved, and the odds of keeping your house increase substantially.

Cheers,

bcg (as I've said many times, if I ever find myself wanting to get married again, I'm going to take a short cut: I'm finding a woman I hate and buying her a house)
  • MrGiz
  • 10-27-2010, 12:18 PM
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Like another poster here, my ATF would be my first choice (no, I'm not giving out names), and it would be unfair to her, because she is insatiable, and craves variety.

But maybe I'm wrong?

Brer Originally Posted by Brer Rabbit
Heh-Heh..... No Names Necessary
Most multi-orgasmic female I've ever met!!

I just wish she lived along my commute route!

Giz
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Yeah, Giz. So true. But regardless of name, any woman like that in an exclusive relationship could not be kept truly happy with just one guy, IMHO.

And, not to put too fine a point on it, I'm sort of like the Toby Keith song: "not as good as I once was, but as good once (or usually twice, lol), as I ever was." Ladies have an advantage on us (or most of us) in that department! Just speaking for myself, of course, wink, wink.
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Having tried the " I'm yours & you're mine" arrangement once I will vote no on the exclusive arrangement. It was very satisfactory for me but it led to too much idle time for her. We discussed it and by mutual agreement ended the affair.
  • MrGiz
  • 10-31-2010, 10:37 AM
No! I enjoy the generosity that you and every other girl in the hobby offer.... but it's the smorgasboard variety aspect of the hobby which keeps me shopping like a kid in a candy store!!

BTW.... you are a delicious looking piece of candy that I would luv to taste!

Take Care , Play Safe ,

Giz
no i wouldn;t consider it and and update my friends situation is full of drama..and drama is so not me...and thank you for you sweet comments I will be in mississippi so come for your taste if the vixen...lol...
No! I enjoy the generosity that you and every other girl in the hobby offer.... but it's the smorgasboard variety aspect of the hobby which keeps me shopping like a kid in a candy store!!

BTW.... you are a delicious looking piece of candy that I would luv to taste!

Take Care , Play Safe ,

Giz Originally Posted by MrGiz
Outside of the hobby, I don't think I could ever be exclusive. I'm too insatiable for one person (sometimes 2, 3, 4, people hehe) to handle, plus I crave variety. Tess was born partly due to these needs (economic being the other part, of course). I have tried exclusivity a time or two and it was difficult. I was able to do it for about a year, with only a few indiscretions (which he knew about). He finally accepted that I am who I am and understands that sex does not equal love to me.
Within the hobby, I have been approached about exclusivity. He is a good friend and offered out of concern for my safety within the hobby. While I would consider it, unfortunately he can't produce the monthly support that Tess needs to be able to retire from the hobby. I don't think my real life persona could handle strict exclusivity for long, if at all.
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I must say after reading your reviews and seeing your pics, it could be very tempting to take you home as the one and only, but most of us would not be on the board checking things out if we could remain true to one. There are many beautiful ladies on the board and that is what makes this so enjoyable, looking and reading and searching for someone and something different. Stay safe and keep us hoping to meet you one day.
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great post/answers!!!

well said TOPSGT!!!!!