For the Newbies a little advice to help you guys out.

Escorts are not prostitutes. A prostitute charges for sexual services. An escort charges for her time and companionship only. Yes, escorts often have sex with their clients, but that is a matter of coincidence and choice between consenting adults... It is not the escort selling sex to the client!

Escorts are not free phone sex lines. Escorts publish detailed information about themselves online, so they don't have clients continually calling with questions. Read the escort's profile before calling! If you're not sure if you want to make a booking, make your mind up, and then call!

No withheld numbers, no texting, and a landline number may be required for outcalls. For their own safety and to avoid timewasters, most escorts will not answer calls from private numbers or text messages. If you request an outcall, you may be asked for a landline number to confirm.

Book in advance and at short notice. If you want to see a specific escort at a specific time or have a particular request about dress etc, it is a good idea to book in advance. On the other hand, if you are looking for something last minute, lots of ladies will be happy to see you on the day you call.

Declare any health issues you have. Mention any health issues you have when booking in case they are a problem. It is only fair to do so, and for health and safety reasons escorts have to be especially careful of viruses, cold sores, cuts, scars, sores or anything that could be infectious.

Don't worry if you're not a stud. Some clients fear that escorts will mind that they are overweight, inexperienced, short, not well-endowed etc. Don't worry. Escorts don't worry about things like this. Cleanliness and respectfulness is all that is really important to escorts.

The cleaner the client, the dirtier the service. The importance of hygiene cannot be overstated. You cannot expect intimacy, if you are not 100% clean. Have a shower, paying particular attention to your private parts (penis, scrotum and bum), clean your teeth, scrub under your nails and shave. You can go easy on the colone! Put on clean underwear and carry mints for fresh breath. Be prepared, even if you've done all this, your escort may still ask you to shower when she meets you. Don't be offended. Some escorts insist all clients shower at the beginning of an appointment.

Be on time and discreet. If you are visiting the escort, listen to her directions carefully, and ensure you are on time... Not early, not late! If you are unavoidably delayed, call to let her know. Do not walk into the lobby talking on the phone loudly repeating the room or apartment number!

Make sure your place is welcoming if you're getting an outcall. Ensure your escort has clear directions to your home or hotel room and it is clean and tidy when she arrives, paying special attention to the bedroom and bathroom. Offer her a drink, preferably from a sealed bottle, or a can.

Don't turn up hammered. Have a drink beforehand to calm your nerves if you like, but ten pints of Stella Artois is not a good idea. Most escorts will turn drunken clients away, for their own safety, not to mention alcohol breath is a turn-off and brewer's drop may affect your ability to perform!

Don't try to barter and expect to pay cash up front. You should have the exact fee in cash, pre-counted in an envelope. Be ready to hand it to the escort or place it on a table that's easily seen at the beginning of the date. Don't get the money out, like you're at the checkout in Sears!

Get off to a good start. Once you have met, the lady may want to make a brief call to confirm she has met you and all is ok. After that, just relax and chat with your escort for a few minutes. Don't be pushy or grabby. Let her guide the session at her pace. Everything in good time!

Tell your escort what you want. Your escort wants to please you. Don't be afraid to tell her what you enjoy and what you'd like to get from the session. She is a professional and she is not going to be shocked by any request you make! The worst that can happen is she'll say no!

Expect safe sex and nothing less. All escorts will insist you wear a condom for vaginal and anal sex and very possibly also for oral sex. If you meet an escort who doesn't insist on protection where vaginal or anal sex is taking place - leave - her health and safety standards are unacceptably low.

Do not expect kissing. Many escorts don't like to kiss their clients as they find it too personal for the escort / client relationship. Unless an escort specifically advertises the fact she enjoys French kissing or offers a G.F.E. (Girl Friend Experience), assume kissing is not likely to be on offer.

Don't expect anal sex, OWO, rimming etc. All of these are non-standard things that some people enjoy and some people don't enjoy. If you are looking for something particular that goes beyond the standard, seek out an escort who advertises the fact she enjoys that particular activity.

Be a gentle and considerate lover. You don't need to be the world's greatest lover, but mind that you are not rough. Your escort will appreciate it if you don't grab her tits, bite her nipples, attack her clitoris, go at it too hard or fast, squash her or ram your tongue down her throat!

Remember no means no. If you want something that your escort is unwilling to go for, even if you have been led to believe it would be available to you... Back off as soon as she says no! An escort, just like any woman, always has the right to say no at any time and that must be respected.

Always treat escorts with respect. Money buys you some time with an escort... The right attitude buys you a great time with an escort! Be a gentleman. Treat the lady as you would like to be treated. She is a human being, not an object. Never think, because you are paying, you can be rude and nasty. Always be respectful, kind, caring, and sensitive. Escorts care very much how you speak to them and behave around them. Treat the lady like the lady she is and she will respond positively. Being nice costs no more, but it will get you a free upgrade!

Don't overstay your time. You are entitled to the time you have paid for, and most escorts don't mind clients taking a few extra minutes, or having a quick shower after the appointment, but be fair. Some escorts work to a tight schedule which is easily messed up if clients overstay.

Don't get too personal. Don't expect your escort to tell you her life history or innermost secrets. Detailed personal questions are a no-no. Don't ask unless you are looking for a very cool reception! And don't fall in love or try to make your relationship with an escort more than business!

Gifts, tips and saying thanks. Clients are not expected to bring a gift or leave a tip. However a small gift, like chocolates or flowers, can get an encounter off to an extra good start. If you feel the escort has provided a very good service, always remember to say thank you, and leave a small tip only if you want to.

Do not expect kissing. Many escorts don't like to kiss their clients as they find it too personal for the escort / client relationship. Unless an escort specifically advertises the fact she enjoys French kissing or offers a G.F.E. (Girl Friend Experience), assume kissing is not likely to be on offer.

Don't expect anal sex, OWO, rimming etc. All of these are non-standard things that some people enjoy and some people don't enjoy. If you are looking for something particular that goes beyond the standard, seek out an escort who advertises the fact she enjoys that particular activity.

Remember no means no. If you want something that your escort is unwilling to go for, even if you have been led to believe it would be available to you... Back off as soon as she says no! An escort, just like any woman, always has the right to say no at any time and that must be respected. Originally Posted by wildcat4fun

You make some good points for Newbie Hobbyist's. It is also very important that Newbie's do some research to determine if the escort they wish to see meets their expectation before ever scheduling an meeting. They should read reviews, check out their websites, look at provider verification boards. This avoids an uncomfortable situation during the session. There is already too much anxiety when your new, and help insure a good time for all!

For the safety of the ladies, I personally will not respond to PM's from newbies.

Always treat escorts with respect. Money buys you some time with an escort... The right attitude buys you a great time with an escort! Be a gentleman. Treat the lady as you would like to be treated. She is a human being, not an object. Never think, because you are paying, you can be rude and nasty. Always be respectful, kind, caring, and sensitive. Escorts care very much how you speak to them and behave around them. Treat the lady like the lady she is and she will respond positively. Being nice costs no more, but it will get you a free upgrade!
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Remember no means no. If you want something that your escort is unwilling to go for, even if you have been led to believe it would be available to you... Back off as soon as she says no! An escort, just like any woman, always has the right to say no at any time and that must be respected. Originally Posted by wildcat4fun

If you treat a lady with respect, you will be rewarded for you efforts.

I would like to add a few as well..

1) The weight listed in show cases can be total bull shit as well as her age. Don't be surprised and like myself just tell them if you plan on bringing a digital scale up front and see if she still wants to have the session.

2) If a provider has more rules than menu items available you might want to move on to a provider that has less rules and a better attitude.

3) If a provider demands her money up front even after screening then she is obviously worried there will be a problem. Big RED FLAG. Move on to a provider that does not demand this.

4) If a provider tells you gifts / tips are not required but appreciated or that this will help improve the session it's time to look else where. She obviously doesn't appreciate the fact your paying your hard earned cash as being enough.

5) Any provider that feels she needs to point out standard common sense conduct is an accident waiting to happen.

6) High volume shitty service providers run into more issues than most other providers and lose focus. When a provider warns you up front that you are paying for their time and companionship you best be "ONLY' wanting time and companionship because 6/5 the BCD activities will be iffy at best.

7) Take the time to evaluate the show case pictures. If the provider is NOT smiling in any of the pictures that's NOT a good sign.

8) The show case pictures will always be the very best scenario as to what you will see when you actually get there. Ladies that wear tight jeans to hold there shit together or conveniently hide body parts with a scarf, pillow etc. can be a big RED FLAG. I have reviewed many a show case and it's seldom that a provider will mention big ass stretch marks, facial scaring etc. Ladies with nice tits will show them off. Raggedy ass sagging tits will always be in a bra or covered.

Thanks WildCat4Fun between your 22 and my 8 I think we have come up with a good top 30! This should be very helpful to all the newbies coming on board. Hell this may have "Sticky" written all over it!? (I actually had to more for an SL TOP 10 but WTF 30 seems like enough!)

contact her the way she wants to be contacted.
some like PM or email
others text or call with some wanting a phone chat

I have seen many bitch about she never answered me.
then I ask how did you try and contact her. And the answer back is not how she list wanting first contact. Its useless to PM or email if she wants over a phone if she dos not know you. Also useless to call if rather PM or email for the same reason. But most guys seem to always get it ass backwards of the way provider want to get to see them.

Escorts are not prostitutes. A prostitute charges for sexual services. An escort charges for her time and companionship only. Yes, escorts often have sex with their clients, but that is a matter of coincidence and choice between consenting adults... It is not the escort selling sex to the client! Originally Posted by wildcat4fun

I know that's what's supposed to be said, for legal reasons, but the passages below are contradictory...

This one is borderline, but if we're not going to be touching, why does she need to know about my cuts, scars, etc.?

Declare any health issues you have. Mention any health issues you have when booking in case they are a problem. It is only fair to do so, and for health and safety reasons escorts have to be especially careful of viruses, cold sores, cuts, scars, sores or anything that could be infectious. Originally Posted by wildcat4fun

I'm not worried about being not being a stud, being overweight, etc., cuz I should have no expectation of sex, right?

Don't worry if you're not a stud. Some clients fear that escorts will mind that they are overweight, inexperienced, short, not well-endowed etc. Don't worry. Escorts don't worry about things like this. Cleanliness and respectfulness is all that is really important to escorts. Originally Posted by wildcat4fun

"Dirtier service", intimacy? Sounds kinda sex-y,

The cleaner the client, the dirtier the service. The importance of hygiene cannot be overstated. You cannot expect intimacy, if you are not 100% clean. Have a shower, paying particular attention to your private parts (penis, scrotum and bum), clean your teeth, scrub under your nails and shave. You can go easy on the colone! Put on clean underwear and carry mints for fresh breath. Be prepared, even if you've done all this, your escort may still ask you to shower when she meets you. Don't be offended. Some escorts insist all clients shower at the beginning of an appointment. Originally Posted by wildcat4fun

"Ability to perform"!?! Again, with the sex talk.

Don't turn up hammered. Have a drink beforehand to calm your nerves if you like, but ten pints of Stella Artois is not a good idea. Most escorts will turn drunken clients away, for their own safety, not to mention alcohol breath is a turn-off and brewer's drop may affect your ability to perform! Originally Posted by wildcat4fun

So, non-sexual stuff that I want?

Tell your escort what you want. Your escort wants to please you. Don't be afraid to tell her what you enjoy and what you'd like to get from the session. She is a professional and she is not going to be shocked by any request you make! The worst that can happen is she'll say no! Originally Posted by wildcat4fun

Wait, what? SEX???

Expect safe sex and nothing less. All escorts will insist you wear a condom for vaginal and anal sex and very possibly also for oral sex. If you meet an escort who doesn't insist on protection where vaginal or anal sex is taking place - leave - her health and safety standards are unacceptably low. Originally Posted by wildcat4fun

Getting sexy again...

Do not expect kissing. Many escorts don't like to kiss their clients as they find it too personal for the escort / client relationship. Unless an escort specifically advertises the fact she enjoys French kissing or offers a G.F.E. (Girl Friend Experience), assume kissing is not likely to be on offer. Originally Posted by wildcat4fun

I shouldn't expect ANY sex, right?

Don't expect anal sex, OWO, rimming etc. All of these are non-standard things that some people enjoy and some people don't enjoy. If you are looking for something particular that goes beyond the standard, seek out an escort who advertises the fact she enjoys that particular activity. Originally Posted by wildcat4fun

So, a lover, but without sex....

Be a gentle and considerate lover. You don't need to be the world's greatest lover, but mind that you are not rough. Your escort will appreciate it if you don't grab her tits, bite her nipples, attack her clitoris, go at it too hard or fast, squash her or ram your tongue down her throat! Originally Posted by wildcat4fun

Free upgrade? Like, more time or more companionship?

Always treat escorts with respect. Money buys you some time with an escort... The right attitude buys you a great time with an escort! Be a gentleman. Treat the lady as you would like to be treated. She is a human being, not an object. Never think, because you are paying, you can be rude and nasty. Always be respectful, kind, caring, and sensitive. Escorts care very much how you speak to them and behave around them. Treat the lady like the lady she is and she will respond positively. Being nice costs no more, but it will get you a free upgrade! Originally Posted by wildcat4fun

CAFriend and SL makes great points - three most important words? Research, research, research. Use the BIG head and research the ladies you wish to meet. Use this site and a few others to make sure that they are 1. legitimate, 2. they provide what you wish they do, 3. check their website (if they have one)... 4. hobby phone and e-mail account...Good luck, have fun, stay safe...

I will agree with Plainjoe that all the lists really boil down to two basic commandments:

--Do your research (read her reviews, her web site, her profile, her posts, ....)
--Be respectful (on time, clean, pay attention to her face and her body language, don't overstay your welcome, ....)

Do those two and you will be well rewarded.

Don't get too personal. Don't expect your escort to tell you her life history or innermost secrets. Detailed personal questions are a no-no. Don't ask unless you are looking for a very cool reception! And don't fall in love or try to make your relationship with an escort more than business!

Would it be ok for the client and provider to exchange emails once and a while just as 'friends'? I like to keep in touch with the special regular providers I see. I don't know if that is pushing the limit. Any thoughts?

Don't get too personal. Don't expect your escort to tell you her life history or innermost secrets. Detailed personal questions are a no-no. Don't ask unless you are looking for a very cool reception! And don't fall in love or try to make your relationship with an escort more than business!

Would it be ok for the client and provider to exchange emails once and a while just as 'friends'? I like to keep in touch with the special regular providers I see. I don't know if that is pushing the limit. Any thoughts? Originally Posted by ridgecrest

I keep in regular email contact with a provider I see regularly/monthly. Its how we arrange our appointments, plus we exchange friendly chat in between to keep the interest up. So in my case, my provider obviously is "ok" with that. But it is something to confirm with the lady when you start.

Would it be ok for the client and provider to exchange emails once and a while just as 'friends'? I like to keep in touch with the special regular providers I see. I don't know if that is pushing the limit. Any thoughts? Originally Posted by ridgecrest

As with most things in this business, be respectful and read the signs. Her responses will let you know what she thinks of it.

I typically like dinner dates, and the dinner conversation gives a lot of feedback whether she finds you interesting and trustworthy. The same with the good bye moments. I will almost always follow up with a thank you e-mail or text, and see how she replies. At that point I have a lot of clues, and if I am interested in staying in touch I will use my crystal ball and just ask her.

For those I keep in touch with, again I generally let her dictate the frequency and topics. An occasional note or PM (or for a few, phone call). Many of these ladies have said they like to have someone who is a "guy friend" who they can talk to about the bumps in the road of travel, a restaurant suggestion, or common interests we have. Often they appreciate just someone they can let off steam to about a canceled flight, bad hotel experience, or a jerk client--often they have no one in their family/world they feel comfortable talking about that to. I often find they want to talk about what guys really like, how we think, etc.

Anyway, that is what has worked for me. If you open your eyes and ears, the ladies here are no harder to understand than any other ladies (but also no easier!)

Treat the taint well and the universe will open up.

Treat the taint well and the universe will open up. Originally Posted by pyramider

I must have missed that episode of Star Trek

Spock understood the taint.

Escorts do not use low-class prostitute sounding names such as: wildcat4fu.

Escorts do not use low-class prostitute sounding names such as: wildcat4fu. Originally Posted by Stanfeld

And it looks like your name is not the only low-class thing about you, is it?