DO NOT USE ME AS A REFERENCE if I only met you one time.
Do not use me as a reference if I went by another name.
If I saw you 3 or more times, by all means, use me as a reference because we have built a solid friendship and I can give a lady an honest recommendation.
If you pissed me off with your bullshit, it would be advisable to not use me as a reference, because everyone knows that I am brutally honest and I will tell your shit.
I.E., if you made a comment about my daughter in order to be able to see me, don't use me.
If I met you once, trust me I do not remember you.