Is this safe or unsafe? Originally Posted by CavalierFan11Only you can answer that.
If you don't have provider references, and don't want to give an individual provider your I.D. information, perhaps sign up for a verification site like P411 or Date Check. Anyhoo, if that's what she requires and you're not comfortable with it, move on. Originally Posted by Lena DuvallSolid advice right there.
A provider I currently have my eye on lists taking a photo of me next to my Drivers License (info must be visible) as one of the ways I can verify myself. Is this safe or unsafe? I ask as someone who's relatively new to the hobbie. Originally Posted by CavalierFan11It is standard to use some type of employment verif if you are absolutely new. If your employment info cannot be used, or verified, then you sort of leave her no other option. As was stated, you could try one of the verification services stated, which will still require similar verif - so your in the same place, but only providing it once rather than a to a few ladies. However, some of us still require our own screening on top whatever the verif site did, because you don't have references, so you're still at square one.
95%+ of providers are just girls trying to make a living who would never do anything untoward with that information. However, 5% may be batshit crazy. The problem is you can't tell which is which from a distance.The idea of " How much personel information to give" has come up again and again. Spiceitup is spot on! If your despiration makes you willing to risk your safety, you need to reconsider what you're doing here! There are a lot of great ladies who will entertain a "newbe". Especially if you expose a respectful personality in your interactions. There are a lot of ladies who really just want to know that you aren't some kind of freak. You might miss out on some "really hot chicks" who only want "whatever". Get past it, be patient, keep your cool, and move on. You'll have lots of opportunities on this site to meet other great ladies. Don't worry about those who aren't available to you. The ladies I have had the best times with, were not that difficult to see. Enjoy the journey!
There are other ways to get past the newbie stage without giving away your personal information to a stranger.
Create a hobby identity for yourself with hobby number, name, and email. Then find a newbie friendly girl or two who will act as a reference and enjoy your own anonymity the same way the providers do. Originally Posted by SpiceItUp
95%+ of providers are just girls trying to make a living who would never do anything untoward with that information. However, 5% may be batshit crazy. The problem is you can't tell which is which from a distance.A newbie friendly lady requires your real information. She doesn't ask for dumb stuff like taking pictures and recording numbers from your identification. The information you give to verify yourself you'd give to a stranger on a bus or in a bar. A woman with a great reputation can be a great reference for you. She values your privacy like she values her own, much like if not more than P411.
There are other ways to get past the newbie stage without giving away your personal information to a stranger.
Create a hobby identity for yourself with hobby number, name, and email. Then find a newbie friendly girl or two who will act as a reference and enjoy your own anonymity the same way the providers do. Originally Posted by SpiceItUp
A newbie friendly lady requires your real information. She doesn't ask for dumb stuff like taking pictures and recording numbers from your identification. The information you give to verify yourself you'd give to a stranger on a bus or in a bar. A woman with a great reputation can be a great reference for you. She values your privacy like she values her own, much like if not more than P411.You're doing quite a bit of generalizing. Yes some newbie friendly ladies require those things. He may be rejected by some if he is unwilling to provide alternate screening.
What you're asking him to do is get rejected by a newbie friendly lady who cares about her safety. Who you're asking him to find is someone who doesn't care enough to screen. That's not newbie friendly. That's stupid.
And we don't keep any privacy. Every time you walk into an apartment, a hotel room that's not yours, you are put into a position of TRUST. Call it an equal exchange of power. Originally Posted by Tiffani Jameson