A few thoughts

brookebutler's Avatar
There are countless times I can freely admit I have been less than enthusiastic about this hobby/business I'm a part of.
I don't care who you are, or which side of the coin you're on, you can probably agree that we lose sight of what this hobby is about. It's connection. When I started in this business, I was a FBSM girl. I quickly came to realize that yes, it's the "happy ending" but equally important were the physical touch and the energy connections made. I almost immediately got a regular clientele and it always fascinated me why they came back to see me instead of others. In other realms it's called customer service, relationship building, building a rapport.
It's all about connection.

What's motivated this post? I got an email inquiry from a gentleman which seemed pretty standard so I replied and he just answered me back.
I wasn't prepared for his response but it certainly made me appreciate things I'd forgotten about. His first words to me were "Well hello to you too. Nice to know your not just a dream, you're real." He then proceeds to tell me in a four paragraph love letter so to speak that I am going to be his first experience
in this hobby. He tells me about his career successes which have been his first priority for the last two decades and chose not to have a family. I know his hobbies, which sports teams he likes, where he likes to travel, etc. He's a successful businessman but has very few personal and intimate connections as a result. I of course screen him well and he checks out so I'll make it happen. I don't get opportunities like this very often. I'm going to be his first.
It's an honor, ego boosting, sweet, and also big responsibility to get it right. I suppose there's a bit of pressure but to be honest, for some reason I resonated with him and so I'm going to be "me". I'm thankful for this reminder especially in our world today that there is someone for everyone. I'm reminded to be open to all of the experiences I have and enjoy them all.

We're a community here. A perfectly dysfunctional community connected to one another. For good and bad, we're in this together.
Bravo!
ck1942's Avatar
Thanks for your very penetrating (in a good way!) thoughts. Wishing both of y'all a solid experience.

Just a word of caution is in order imo since all of us are quite anonymous you should of course apply your customary screening process to even the most sincere-sounding of letter writers.

Not meaning to sound a downer, but there all sorts of folks in the hobby.

Let us know how this turns out, please.
brookebutler's Avatar
Thank you for the sound advice. I assure you, every potential friend of mind gets a very stringent screening process.
Wow, thanks for the interesting post. Still relatively new to the hobby myself, I was worried I was giving out to much info at the beginning. Apparently, I'm probably doing the bare minimum. Still, this gives me some additional insight on how to approach potential new providers.
Keep those thoughts hon, and you will have plenty of positive reviews.