Hand Jobs

So, I am a fan of the hand job. But honestly, I have not found many ladies that do it well. Perhaps it is from the hours of practice that I have in handjobbing myself that I have become so astute.

These questions and comments are for coed discussion. Here is what I have encountered. When asking for a hand job, many ladies simply treat it as though they are weeding or harvesting mushrooms. Grab firmly at the base and tug upwards. For me (and I would be curious about other dudes), that does not work. I am not sure if most ladies realize this but there is little if any sensitivity towards my base. But it seems like most ladies spend most of their time there.

What has worked to an excruciatingly fun time is when the lady either lubes the unit herself or applies an ample amount of oil to the unit. Starting at the base is ok and movements up and down the shaft will feel ok but it won't be enough to push me over the top.

What I have found to be incredible are long movements in the beginning that work from the base to the top. These can be slow and lingering movements. This is "foreplay" for the handjob.

These movements can be enhanced with chat i.e. the lady speaking to me, commenting or showing her loveliness. This is an opportunity for me peruse the lovely lady who is now attached to me.

So this can happen for 30 seconds or can go for 5 minutes. I would not expect an entire 5 movements of up and down movement as that can be tiring. A lady can intersperse light caresses of the ball area, blowing or even licking of the shaft (although this moves it a bit away from a traditional hand job).

However, at some point we need to get "over the hump". And here is where many ladies fail. These ladies simply, "compress" that is squeeze the unit (that does not work). The ladies increase the frequency of the motion but that is more of the same. Stroking the shaft is not a closing move.

What most ladies fail to understand is that the most sensitive spot is not the head or the shaft but the loose skin under the head towards the "front of the penis".

Towards the end of the hand job, the lady should move towards the top of the penis. Now, the movements quicken and shorten. There is no need to move the entire length of the shaft. The lady can shorten her strokes 1/2 to 2" just at the top. The idea is to move over the "sensitive spot" as much as possible.

Remember, I am working with you. I want the release as well. So listen to your man. When you hear his breaths shorten realize that he is close. I have had too many good handjobs go bad when I am very close to ending it all and the lady stops...

Once the cart is over the hill, the lady needs to stop with the action at the top. She can move back to working the entire shaft and squeezing out all contents. To which the session ends with an exhausted and satisfied me.

The sad thing is that many ladies do not understand this. Is the case of "guys know better what feels good to guys"?

Do the ladies find the hand job as just intermission? Is it something that most ladies would like to avoid?

Just curious.

I think handjobs are underrated. A woman that can deliver a good one along with the right attitude, as you note, is a Queen!

IMO, the worst thing is, as you said SC, is stopping just before the critical stroke, (unless this is intentional, and is just done to drive you to distraction.)

Second worst is continuing at a rapid pace when the tipping point is reached. At that point, movements should be slow, slower, and very deliberate.

And please, for the love of God ladies, don't stop and drop your hand(s), just slow down.

Definitely underrated. Russian and HJs, the red-headed stepchildren of the family.

I will never turn down a good handjob, more the better after a good massage. I still haven't found a provider to give me "The Perfect Massage". I always return the favor and most times start with giving a provider a massage, most seem to enjoy it.

A slow, sensual, two-handed hj is great! Mutual masturbation while making out still my favorite. Gotta be slow, though, and lady using both hands, paying attention to the whole package makes it best. Being straddled and the lady's very wet pussy being near, even touching and/or being touched while she does that slow two hand wet maybe even touching herself stripper slide kinda thing while looking you right in the eye and best of all cumming together can be unbelieveable. Ladies??? Who's ready ??? hehe

I agree a mind blowing hand job is a lost art.
When I started a ISO thread in Houston about this subject I was almost laughed out of town. I did get one poster with a good snappy reply......"How to give a great hand job, start with your lips."
Good luck with your search!

Not to advertise a provider, but Ms. E does a great job with the HJ's!

If anyone remembers Candy of Omaha (gone for more than a few years now), She was pretty good at the HJ. Took her for surprise once when I accidentally shot her in the eye.

I luv giving an oily HJ---twisting & twirling and covered with lots of oil.... and getting worked up to explode like a volcano!

Not to advertise a provider, but Ms. E does a great job with the HJ's! Originally Posted by TRex1176

And then some!

Smile, I agree with you. It is a lost art form, much like seduction.

A lady needs to think of the cock as her clay and mold it with just the right amount of pressure and touches.

Thank you TRex and Gladiator for the compliment. If I say so myself,I'm very good at HJ's because I don't rush it, I like to tease, I like to talk dirty (but I also know when to shut up), I love it when he closes his eyes and I press my body against his. I'm seducing his mind as well as his body.

I understand the art of a great HJ.

I luv giving an oily HJ---twisting & twirling and covered with lots of oil.... and getting worked up to explode like a volcano! Originally Posted by DallasRain

Yes you did! Great technique very much like the OP describes. I would say Dallas is a jedi master!

MsE is also a sensei when it comes to digital seduction. The 'tease' is becoming a lost art but glad some still practice the old ways!

Yes you did! Great technique very much like the OP describes. I would say Dallas is a jedi master!

MsE is also a sensei when it comes to digital seduction. The 'tease' is becoming a lost art but glad some still practice the old ways! Originally Posted by Netx9

awwww my pleasure luver!

maybe me & Miss e should do doubles----sounds yummmmmmy!

awwww my pleasure luver!

maybe me & Miss e should do doubles----sounds yummmmmmy! Originally Posted by DallasRain

I don't think these guys could handle it. LMAO

Dallas,

Anytime darlin'. But, I think we might get carried away with each other and forget about the guy. lol

JB.....you just might be right.