I'm a switch but I was born a sub. ENTJ's are just used to being the leader either by group consensus or their own force. When you constantly have to tell people what to do it tend to leave an impact on writing styles and how you approach others. Don't think of is as "bossiness" but she/he has knows that if people start running around like chicken with their heads cut off it's most likely will fall her/him to calm everyone and set them on the correct path. They lead because they want order and to reach goals not for personal ego.
Originally Posted by SAangel27
I don't know why,but I had this image in my mind of you in that outfit in your avatar standing over some Caucasian 'monger with a whip..
No, it's not me, either.
I get that there's a difference between "bossiness"(=aggression) and assertiveness. Which is which often depends on the perspective of the person on the receiving end, though.
HeatherDAngelo, do you feel like you *have* to be gentle in your persuasion or is it a case of *wanting* to be gentle? I'd consider the latter more of a feeling trait.. and that's not a bad thing at all.
Kaylen, you're actually one of the Myers-Briggs types that everyone on that board associated with porn stars & providers. Some things just go together naturally..like peanut butter and jelly.