Liberator?

So what is the realm between options like The Liberator type furniture and outright device bondage? I’ve seen a few of the websites for the device bondage that make me think that would be interesting but since I’m not into being actually restrained or trusting a ‘safe’ word – I wouldn’t expect a provider to trust me, or anyone else for that matter, to let them restrain them either. (not unless they had someone there to keep them safe.) So what is the middle ground? Liberator? Swings? Slings? Are there any providers in the Dallas area that walk in this realm? This is my first foray into Another Realm so be kind…unless I ask you not too. Lol

Rule #1: First build the trust, then get out the toys. It often takes a few vanilla or near-vanilla sessions before both parties are comfortable moving forward, and then it may still be a gradual exploration. Eventually, though, it can get to the "Anything goes within preset limits and with a safeword" level.

Thanks Gryphon, but that sounds like how I would approach the subject with the S.O. Lol! I guess my inquiry was too 'vanilla' for Another Rhelm, which surprises me a bit because I've read & seen some pretty graphic things here. What I was looking for was a provider who was already comfortable with what i described or into , for lack of a better phrase, simulated bondage. (I'm actually ok with actual restraints as long as they are on her and not me.) The only reason I say 'simulated' is since I admit to being too paranoid or too much of a control freak to be actually restrained - i extend that consideration to the provider as well. Ya know - asume the position but with the knowledge you can slip out when ever you want. What can i say, my experiences with SERE left me untrusting to say the least. lmao. Anyway, thanks though for the reply. Guess I'll head back over to the other realm of independent reviews & weekend line-ups...yeah...

I just SAW this topic!!!! I'll chime in!

The Liberator company also has those wedges and things like that. I actually bought a vinyl mat for Nuru massage or other messy play so they offer items for sale that go past just the bondage stuff.

As far as playing a little bit like this with escorts, there are more that are open to it then they will admit. Advertising that you go a little further than some will isn't a good idea. For example, I'm a fairly vanilla escort.

But I have this other side (a fairly adept other side as of now). In the process, I have managed to alienate many potential clients because they're nervous or they're afraid that I'll have them in a vise grip before they get to the bedroom.

I'm slightly kidding but that's the truth of it.

If there is someone who trips your trigger, I would suggest bringing it up to them. You don't have to do everything. Ropes can be tied with a slip knot. Under the bed restraints systems aren't too scary.

A little spanking or anal play never killed anyone (probably a poor choice of words) and using a Liberator wedge to get her bottom sticking up in the air (or in various other positions) is hot.

No. Not a too vanilla question in this area. But sometimes, a topic can get overlooked (like I did!) and well, it happens.

Thanks for presenting a topic in another realm. And WELCOME!!! Hope to see you around again.

Sincerely,
Elisabeth

A good starting place is a search for "submissive" in P411. It will at least start the conversation.

As Elizabeth said, more providers are willing than are advertising as such. I have found that a small upcharge is often requested and that a few rules are stipulated, e.g. she must be able to escape her bindings without assistance.

So loosen the buckles a couple notches and go to town.