Normally I do the good old oil check to verify if a provider is real before even talking about money. Most are fine and understand that I'm being cautious but others are so scared that I want to touch them for free. Like I'm going to waste hours of my time to touch a vagina for 3 seconds. I've walked out on girls that seemed adamant about me not touching them but want to get them donation right away.
So how do you make yourself comfortable when seeing someone new?
Originally Posted by Wizbull0
And, by the way, I have yet to discuss money at an appointment, ever. The way it works for me is: she publishes her rate structure online. Assuming I'm booking an appointment that's covered by her published rates, I simply ask to book
x hours, and bring the appropriate amount of cash with me in an envelope to the appointment, where I hand it to her without comment and then excuse myself to the shower, during which time I can assure myself that my butt's free of dingleberries, and she can assure herself that her consideration has been covered satisfactorily. And if I'm booking some amount of time that isn't covered by her online schedule, I tell her in advance, by email, how much time I'm asking for, and whether such-and-such an amount of compensation will be sufficient. Easy, simple, and straightforward. I realize that my approach may not work well in a backpage situation. But I've never involved myself in one of those, and I think I'll keep it that way. You know, in this modern day and age, it isn't really a problem to find established, reputable, research-able providers. And if it's that easy for me, tucked away in the northeast corner of Indiana, I can hardly believe that it wouldn't be even easier, pretty much anywhere else.
But I could be mistaken.