Turning into BP

I have been here for a bit and lately , like the last few days, all the new ads seem to resemble a certain site. Maybe, I have seen them wrong, but I don't recall in recent history phone numbers being blasted everywhere. And most are not even verified.

Weird... Happy Saturday !

You have noticed correctly. Many newbies lately but I expect it to be like the gym in January vs. February.

lol. They come, they go...<3

lol. They come, they go...<3 Originally Posted by Alana kay

Yes they do!

I agree. Even their ad titles look like something they copied from their ad on BP.

I'm afraid they won't go; I know several that are verified providers here and on other verification sites. I'm on places like eccie because I don't want to see BP ladies.

Some BP ladies belong here, most don't. A poll of most local areas would produce surprising results as to the number of established, well-reviewed and highly thought-of ECCIE ladies who started out on BP and/or CL. It's the same natural progression for most mongers, too. We take our chances with BP because we don't know any better, until we discover ECCIE and other verification sites.

Personally, I do not see the concern in practical terms. I actually find those BP-like headlines are useful.

First, ladies WILL migrate from places like BP to places like ECCIE. Why wouldn't they? This is not a perfect environment by any stretch, but in general it is far safer than the swamp that is BP.

Additionally, there are many, many smaller places where BP is about the only game in town for advertising. Take a look at even some of the cities here--you can go days without a post, and the number of views is probably measured in the single digits. BP is not inherently evil--it is a tool. All tools have their uses.

And, as has been mentioned above, many high quality people--men and women--used BP long before they discovered other sites.

All that being said, the issue is not BP ladies coming here, it is ladies (and guys) who do not understand that this social group has different norms and expectations. Most ladies who first arrive here will assume the expectations are similar to where they came from. They will assume that the titles, the way of posing a phone number, and the kind of ad/photo that will be successful here is the same that worked there. Some learn--quickly or slowly--that this IS a somewhat different audience and adapt their persona and posts accordingly. Some find that the BP style DOES work here--for them--and so they have no reason to change. Others find it doesn't work and either adapt or leave or get little business from here.

Personally, I do not find BP-like posts problematic on ECCIE. It usually flags a lady as someone I probably won't hit it off with and thus it is a useful screening tool for me. I would argue that is good, not bad. The ones who change their posting style but keep their expectation that I am similar--and am looking for similar things--to their BP clients that concern me more. Those take more of my time to screen out.

I was told early on not to use BP because it was dangerous. Then I see the same ladies on BP. Lol. I sensed an agenda.

The agenda is rather simple to discover. Some women may feel small because they do this for a living. Some people may and do put others down to attempt to make themselves feel better. So, if ladies trash BP girls it is usually to make themselves feel better about having sex for money. Have you ever run into the whore that says she is not a whore, she is a courtesan or an escort. That tries to make them feel better about being a woman so desperate for money she has to fuck for it. Problen is making fun of others never really fixes our own feelings, just sort of pushes it down. The fix is to stop having sex for money and for me would be to stop paying for sexual attention. There is no difference between BP and Eccie. It is all fucking for cash, no one way is better than the other. I have seen all types BP, strippers, Eccie, top reviewed all the same thing. Less than the best sex I ever had and poorer for it. Does anyone here understand the terms Denial and Addiction?

Less than the best sex I ever had and poorer for it. Does anyone here understand the terms Denial and Addiction? Originally Posted by Boudin3112

If you don't enjoy it.. how did you get addicted? Did you hate Brussel sprouts as a kid but got "addicted" to them anyway? How does that work?

Bottom line, the problem with BP is most times you can't RESEARCH the lady posting the ad. If she's from ECCIE or TER or some other review site where you can research them, then the danger is lessened and the fact that they advertise on BP should not be a problem. Its not "BP" per se, its being able to research the person putting up the ad.

If you can do your research, go for it, regardless of it you saw it on BP or Eccie or Date Check or P411 or whatever.

lol. They come, they go...<3 Originally Posted by Alana kay

I see what you did there...

I have been here for a bit and lately , like the last few days, all the new ads seem to resemble a certain site. Maybe, I have seen them wrong, but I don't recall in recent history phone numbers being blasted everywhere. And most are not even verified.

Weird... Happy Saturday ! Originally Posted by Addison Nash

What I said was not against BP, it was the style of the ads. And I thought it was somewhat odd, that on that 1 day, there were many of them posted around the same time.

I think it is wonderful that there are new members. I have met some nice people on here on both sides of the bed

Peace & Love & Safety

What I said was not against BP, it was the style of the ads. And I thought it was somewhat odd, that on that 1 day, there were many of them posted around the same time.

I think it is wonderful that there are new members. I have met some nice people on here on both sides of the bed

Peace & Love & Safety Originally Posted by Addison Nash

Good point about the ad styles. For reasons easy to understand, you see a lot of these in the "new member / introduce yourself" forum. Here's an example. Marilyn may be a perfectly nice lady, making an honest living at her craft ... but when you see all those funny symbols interspersed in the text, I'm guessing that's what happens to some emojis and/or special characters when you highlight your BP ad, hit "copy," come over to your ECCIE post, and hit "paste." And, as Old-T suggested above, that's not altogether a bad thing, as a rough, quick screening tool: a bunch of nonsense characters means "go on to the next one."

I also think that BP has its place in a lady's advertising arsenal. I know a couple of very high-quality, upstanding ECCIE ladies, with whom I've spent some very pleasant hours, who also use BP, especially if they're going on tour. I'd guess there's a fair amount of ECCIE providers who additionally use BP.

Holy Moses, Alana Kay, you are gorgeous. Good thing I live way far away or you'd beak me.

... That tries to make them feel better about being a woman so desperate for money she has to fuck for it. Problen is making fun of others never really fixes our own feelings, just sort of pushes it down. The fix is to stop having sex for money and for me would be to stop paying for sexual attention. ... Originally Posted by Boudin3112

Sir, I doubt that withdrawing from the demimonde will fix your problem, although it would probably be a good first step. Ultimately, you'll have to stop transferring your bad feelings about yourself to others, and make whatever changes in yourself are needed to relieve them. Each of us has to do his or her own personal work.

You know, all sex, ultimately, is transactional. I don't think there's a single exception. But then, I don't think there's anything wrong about that. I could be mistaken. But I don't think I am.