My opinion may not be the best but since I advertise on several sites that are at different levels, I tend to shy away from the "dinner and drinks" approach. I would suggest joining a site like P411 or datecheck as not all ladies shy away from a newbie if they've passed the checks. Also, some ladies are comfortable with doing employer checks, although I've never done that myself. I offer to newer hobbyists that I can see them in their homes if they have no references, of course I proceed with caution.
This is difficult to engage in if not interested in those who are willing to ignore references, I wish you the best of luck in finding, and engaging, with your first exciting endeavor.
Originally Posted by Hailey Starr
Hailey, I'm just wondering why you might shy away from the dinner and drinks approach. If that's not too nosey, I'm just curious.