I'm relatively new to this hobby after I decided to put it on my bucket list. Then I found out I was having too much fun to scratch it off.
I started off with a BP lady I knew was local and didn't ask for references. It was outcall, so I controlled the situation a little more and I saw her drive into the lot and met her at her car. I asked her if she'd like anything to drink as we got to know each other, and she made her request. It was easy for me to see that I was OK with this gal after we drank most of the bottle and had a really good "get to know each other" conversation.
The second lady, (a popular provider) asked for references and I gave her the 1st lady's name. I don't think she did much in the way of checking me out, but that visit went very well and it was my first incall at an upscale hotel.
Now, after several different providers, and only 1 bad experience, I feel pretty confident in my selection process. The bad experience was in Columbia and was only due to the service.
I asked one of the ladies what she would do to be safe when selecting a provider and she said GOOGLE, GOOGLE, GOOGLE. That's what I do and read as many reviews as I can find. If I GOOGLE a number and can't find anything, I pass, no matter how appealing the lady might be.
Now, some of the ladies I've seen say I sound like LE on the phone. Maybe that's because I'm polite and don't ask stupid questions. Be polite and don't ask questions that sound like entrapment! When I show up at the incall location, most of the ladies are comfortable because I'm an older guy and sure don't look threatening.
So, my suggestions....GOOGLE, research, read reviews, and be polite, and then be a GENTLEMAN with the lady
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