Advice needed - threats from provider

I tried to set up a session today with an Austin provider, we started texting at about 1245 today and it continued sporadically until just now. Problem is, in many cases it took 45 minutes to over an hour for the provider to respond. Some texts were very quick response but some were not. Compounding that was the fact that I got held up at work so couldn't leave on time. However I communicated all this to the provider.

Long story short, the timing just didn't work and in large part because I didnt get timely responses from her. By the time she responded I had already missed my window.

She let loose with a string of profane texts and said she was going to post in Providers Orly that I NCNS even though I had been attempting to have timely contact. She further threatened me with her close relationship with the mods and called me a lot of derogatory names.

I basically said let's just part ways amicably and accept it didn't work out, accept that we both played a part in the timing but she says I fucked her over and that no providers will see me now.

Is there any recourse for this? Obviously I can't respond in the PO section, and I don't want to out her or post the texts here. I want to take the high road but would prefer not having my reputation damaged. Any advice? First time I've run into his in 11 years of hobbying.

Thanks!

So yall texted for over 8 hours? Why I'm not sure! After 30 mins of talking to someone if they havent booked with me it's the end of the conversation..I don't play games. You either want to see me or you dont! You both are in the wrong here. You shouldnt have reached out for an appointment unless you knew for sure you were available and that nothing would keep you from making it. Shes in the wrong for having horrible tcb. She should have screened you, locked down a time and thats that. The back and forth sporadic texts over an 8 hour period are unprofessional.

I agree completely Brittany, thanks for your response.

I would post this in the guys section and see what they say. That's crazy. Judging from your posts, you seem like a reasonable person. Smh. People are just nuts.

that sounds like a bitch provider, dont sweat it man.. plenty more fish in the sea

I tried to set up a session today with an Austin provider, we started texting at about 1245 today and it continued sporadically until just now. Problem is, in many cases it took 45 minutes to over an hour for the provider to respond. Some texts were very quick response but some were not. Compounding that was the fact that I got held up at work so couldn't leave on time. However I communicated all this to the provider.

Long story short, the timing just didn't work and in large part because I didnt get timely responses from her. By the time she responded I had already missed my window.

She let loose with a string of profane texts and said she was going to post in Providers Orly that I NCNS even though I had been attempting to have timely contact. She further threatened me with her close relationship with the mods and called me a lot of derogatory names.

I basically said let's just part ways amicably and accept it didn't work out, accept that we both played a part in the timing but she says I fucked her over and that no providers will see me now.

Is there any recourse for this? Obviously I can't respond in the PO section, and I don't want to out her or post the texts here. I want to take the high road but would prefer not having my reputation damaged. Any advice? First time I've run into his in 11 years of hobbying.

Thanks! Originally Posted by newfor2005

Don't sweat it.

Two things:

1. Name this psycho

2. Tell her to 'fuck off' if she continues her tirade against you.

Posting in the ML would let you know if anyone else has had this same thing happen to them or if it was just a bad day.

Fuck posting this in the ML. Be a true soldier and post her name out here so she can have a chance to tell her side of the story. Unless there's more to the story that you don't want to get out???

You both are in the wrong here. You shouldnt have reached out for an appointment unless you knew for sure you were available and that nothing would keep you from making it. Shes in the wrong for having horrible tcb. She should have screened you, locked down a time and thats that. The back and forth sporadic texts over an 8 hour period are unprofessional. Originally Posted by Britttany_love

Hit the nail right on the head.

Thank you for all the responses. I always try to see the best in people, and am hoping that she was just having a bad day. She made a comment that my donation was her rent money, so I can understand why she would be upset. At the same time, had her TCB been better, she would have gotten the donation, so as many have said, including myself, there is fault on both sides.

It's funny, I have been doing this over a decade, probably averaging six or eight providers for a month, but I really do not post many reviews. I tend to review my really good and really bad experiences, and the rest I do not enter.

I think that I will take the same approach to this incident. If she does not post anything uncalled for in providers only, I will drop it on my end and not out her. After all, this is a business for her. I have plenty of regular providers who will vouch for my TCB and don't really want to turn this into a mini version of the presidential campaign, mudslinging and name calling lol.

Hopefully things work out. Its been slow for many of the girls here and we all have rent due. If she was tripping about her rent she would have made the appointment right then and would not have been going back and forth for over 8 hours. We also know that you said you contacted her for an appointment but then had to push it back because you were at work and were not able to keep the time you set. Both are responsible for what happened. I say from now on if your not 100% sure about a time do not book. Don't book appointments when you're at work when we all know how many last minute meetings get called and how bosses make employees stay late. Book when you have the day off or have already left the office. I say if you brought this alert to attention then you either need to name the provider now or drop it all together. Saying you will only post her name after the fact if you "hear" she has alerted on you in the ladies room sounds pretty vindictive and I would love to know whose leaking private information.

Hit the nail right on the head. Originally Posted by Kitty Bunny Fuck

Thanks

BFD, tell her to post what she wants. If I had a nickel for every BSC provider that made threats...

She let loose with a string of profane texts and said she was going to post in Providers Orly that I NCNS even though I had been attempting to have timely contact. She further threatened me with her close relationship with the mods and called me a lot of derogatory names. Originally Posted by newfor2005

Once they threaten to blacklist you with other ladies and bring up their close relationship with the mods, you know they are full of shit or just bat-shit crazy. This behavior is equivalent to a guy threatening to write a provider a bad review or posting an alert in the Men's Lounge...

Is there any recourse for this? Originally Posted by newfor2005

If you aren't willing to name her (publicly or privately) then no. Just move on. There are plenty of worthwhile ladies around without fussing with this one.

You shouldnt have reached out for an appointment unless you knew for sure you were available and that nothing would keep you from making it. Originally Posted by Britttany_love

If all guys did that, none of you ladies would have any appointments!

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Texting for 8 hours, who does that?? Pm the lady with your references and ask what time would be best. I got shit to do, I can't be texting you for 8 hours. Talk when you're standing in front of them, or after playtime.

Granted I might text a couple providers some dirty talk, but I've seen them already and with the understanding of when I'm stopping by and etc.