Playing Dirty While Being Respectful

This may go all over the place so bear with me.

There are lots of women on this site who fully embrace being slutty and have no issue with being referred to by a long list of terms we all know.

Then there are the women who in the profiles, ads, and other posts on the boards, demand to be respected.

Those same women who demand respect will then engage in many acts and in their reviews at least speak and are spoken to in a manner that seemingly disrespectful.

I think this is where there is a disconnect between some hobbyists and those ladies. Can't a lady act dirty?

A hobbyist reads another review where hobbyist said to the lady, "get on your knees and suck my cock, you nasty slut." Then he reads that she said to the hobbyist, "Shove your hard cock up my ass..."and " I'm such a dirty whore, I wanna taste...."

He also reads a rather plain sensual GFE review from the same provider. He needs to ask respectfully to disrespect her?

Also, take for example some of the gonzo porn out there. Are the female performers who do gangbang, bukkake, DP scenes not respected by male performers? Is the question rather if any male performers in those scene respect their female counterpart? They both seem to be having fun.

The same performers do "classy" porn too, for lack of a better word.

Should women feel disrespected in the dirty scenes or the dirty sessions when it's all just to fulfill a fantasy?

How do we communicate a dirty desire without offending providers?

I would just ask ahead of time if it's ok to do some name calling type of roll play. Say that you respect what she does and her as a woman, however as many people have fantasies you enjoy the name calling and dirty talk.

I really enjoy that myself. I think I might have plain jane gfe reviews and then really raunchy dirty talk reviews with face fucking, ass fucking...you know, fun dirty stuff.

With some of the ladies you might have to read a lot of reviews before you find that she is like that.

But my best advice is that you ask about it before you book your appointment.

Also.. bear in mind... some reviews are likely pumped up with a bit of chest thumping fiction as well. One of the things about providers not being able to see their own reviews here... how are we going to argue about what we can't see?

I love lots of very dirty talk. I know I am a total cock and cumslut so feel free to talk to me like you know I LOVE cock in my mouth and pussy. The wilder the better in both talk and play to a certain extent. It just turns me on more to know what you guys think of me when you fuck me. I certainly don't take using dirty talk as disrespectful as long as you treat in a respectful manner meaning don't violate my rules of no greek and no BDSM or pain. You can never be too wild in your words!!! Tell it to me like it is)))

classy porn? LOL, Watch this clip and learn a few things with some comedy but very true

Just imagine if it were you...

Even if you and any of your friends/family like to tease/insult one another, that doesn't mean you would allow just any old person off the street to do it.

There has to be some kind of rapport built first, and most of the truly freaky shit probably needs a bit of working up to. If it's something you're interested in, just let her know. If she says, "yeah, sure, but I don't like...." or "no, thanks!!" then you have to be OK with that, even if you know for a fact that she did the same dirty things with a hundred other guys before you. That is what "respect" is.

I also agree with GP, though, there's probably more than a little bullshit in most reviews lol!

Also.. bear in mind... some reviews are likely pumped up with a bit of chest thumping fiction as well. Originally Posted by GracePreston

NEVER ...

Just imagine if it were you...

Even if you and any of your friends/family like to tease/insult one another, that doesn't mean you would allow just any old person off the street to do it.

There has to be some kind of rapport built first, and most of the truly freaky shit probably needs a bit of working up to. If it's something you're interested in, just let her know. If she says, "yeah, sure, but I don't like...." or "no, thanks!!" then you have to be OK with that, even if you know for a fact that she did the same dirty things with a hundred other guys before you. That is what "respect" is.

I also agree with GP, though, there's probably more than a little bullshit in most reviews lol! Originally Posted by Y0yoY0

You my friend have dry balls.

You my friend have dry balls. Originally Posted by BLM69

I just spit out my coffee, ffs. Epic CR reference!

Interesting post. I'm very respectful to any lady I'm with but I like the slutty talk BCD too.

"Easier to ask forgiveness than to ask permission."

"Easier to ask forgiveness than to ask permission." Originally Posted by HobbieMan

Not sure that applies to fuckery, Banksy.

You my friend have dry balls. Originally Posted by BLM69

Ask your wife lol!

Woah, dude. Flag on the play. No need to bring in his SO.

I have a client who enjoys this. It did take a few visits for me to feel comfortable with him Those few early sessions included defining limits. It's a fun way to add variety to a session.

That's just me, though. I'd highly recommend talking to your provider about it. One person's kink could be another's trigger.