I know this is primarily a men's topic, but why hide it in the lounge? I got caught spanking little JC the other day by my SO. I wasn't happy about it, not that I was really embarrassed, she just laughed and teased me, it was a topic of conversation the next few hours more than I'd have liked. But it works politically; growing up I had a few older friends who claimed they'd be sure to get caught once in awhile just to 'let her know I still have my independence.' I've been caught twice, neither time on purpose, but it does kind of work. On a day I've hobbied and have no edge for home-play, she assumes I worked on my bad self too much that day.
Anyone use that approach?