What Makes a Quality Experience?
In my opinion, these are some of the things that make for an overall quality experience. How about you? I'd love to hear from ladies and gents.
Research: Men - Due diligence in selecting and engaging your partner has, IMO, a great deal to do with having a successful encounter. Once you're satisfied that you've made a choice that seems to provide a high likelihood of a great encounter, then the following from the ladies will help to ensure a good experience.
Screening: Done with tact, discretion and promptness.
Communication: Timeliness, Tactfulness, Responsive, respectful, prompt, relational with a touch of playfulness. Communication which promotes a desire to connect can really help to heighten anticipation, set the mood and build chemistry. Clear and concise location information and directions.
Incall: Safe, discrete, good parking situation, easy access, clean, well kept, appropriately decorated, smells good, comfortable. Regardless of the "level" of incall, low-end to high-end, the previous are minimum staples IMO. A clean and well stocked bathroom and shower, fresh towels, soap, body-wash, mouthwash, disposable toothbrushes and toothpaste, wipes, etc. It's just really nice and thoughtful to have at least basic toiletries and amenities.
Outcall: Provider is on time, clean, well prepared.
Encounter: First and foremost: Your appearance (height, weight, body measurements, amount of tats, hair length and color, makeup, overall style, etc.) is exactly in line with the images and stats presented in your showcase and ads.
You are clean, smell good (all parts of you), and you have fresh breath.
Your phone, laptop, tablet, TV, etc. are silenced and put away. Your attention is wholly devoted to our time together, for the entirety of our encounter with one another.
BCD activities match what has been communicated in ads, showcase, private messages, text messages, and phone, etc. If for whatever reason, one or both feel the need to conduct activities differently, then good, open & honest communication and consideration is key here.
WALDT: Of course we do. These are just some things, that for me, help to make an encounter a good overall experience.
So, what helps to make a good hobby experience for you ladies and gents?
Great post well written and thought out
When I was married and the relationship lacked intimacy, I looked for IOP, GFE, affection and attractiveness. Now that I'm single and choose to devote my time to advanced education, work, savings and vacations with my kids for the majority of my time and financial resources, I enjoy a more "party sex vibe". Drinks, lust, (drugs are optional if it's her thing - I'm good with my alcohol), and an overall vibe of being each other's fuck toys for a couple of hours and then I'm good for a while. From that stand point the more the merrier.
Several aspects enter into this equation, but here are my thoughts....
TCB/Engagement - I gauge lot from the interaction beforehand, Is she cooperative, engaging, professional, and seem to want to meet me as well (after reading my P411 profile)? If she is one of my ATF's or someone I've seen multiple times - does she even remember me?? This sets the tone of the meeting.
1st Meeting - I DO feel a 1st meeting is somewhat of a "get-to-know-you" kind of a thing, at least for a little while. We are human, and I am looking for a human experience, enjoyable for both, with personalities and sexuality that are fun for both.
Of course, physical attractiveness is an aspect, but I do enough research that I kinda can sense if our personalities and activities are going to be a match. It's VERY rare (zero?) that I've been disappointed.
Encounter - Hard to put into words, but......you can tell *Magic* when it happens. Natural, fun, enjoyable playtime with enjoyment for both. Spontaneous, maybe experimental, and some feeling and emotion entering the equation. Sometimes - raw, pure energy and excitement takes over. Other times - a more romantic encounter results. It's always different, but a quality experience for me is defined by a feeling of fun and happiness during and after.
Afterward/Future Meetings - I post a lot about this, but - I look strongly at how we interact on subsequent meetings, or even reaching out, occasional texting from time to time. If I've seen someone multiple occasions, I find it VERY NICE if we each have the comfort to engage occasionally, and as I tell my ATF's - "Hey, if I've been delinquent for a few weeks, feel free to slap me, and say "Hey dude, where've you been?"
And when that occurs - I will ALWAYS SET AN APPOITMENT, as I consider this a sign of trust and affection. These ladies rise to my top favorites, and I will see them again and again and again and again and again and again and again.
Those are my limited thoughts for now, could probably post all day on this.
OP and SchnellerFahrer
100%
Put simply, I don't want it to feel mechanical. I've had this. It sucks. I'd rather fire up Pornhub.
Now, what makes a great experience: when you hit it off initially and the whole thing feels organic. Like, she is legit wet for you and makes it seem that you can get it in real life. If she texts you in the days or weeks after, even if not for an appointment. If you can tell she legitimately finds you physically attractive.
Put simply, I like the raw, primal experience. I want it to feel like I'm fucking a girlfriend who's crazy about me, a chick who "super-liked" my profile on Tinder or a one-nighter who was grinding on me all night on the dance floor.
Truth be told, I love primal, passionate, raw-emotion NSA sex. A good provider can give me this experience without wasting time on dating app flakes, money on drinks, dates, or waiting to get on that ass after last call.
For me
Responsiveness. Over my time in the hobby, I bet I get a response to 1 in 20 requests. Absolute silence from the overwhelming majority I made inquiries to. I had to ask a well known provider 5 times, literally begging her to respond to my request before I actually got a response. Once she responded, we hit it off and I saw her numerous times. So first is merely responding.
Great communication - TCB - some engagement prior to meeting. A little bit goes a long way towards making me want to not only see the lady, but want to see her repeatedly.
Discretion - in dress and behavior goes a long way. Save the jaw dropping outfits for behind closed doors, not the hotel lobby.
Have fun - just have fun.
The ladies love me. I am clean, quick, and have legendary 1.3" of dangling death. After two minutes of intense action it goes to 58 minutes of nap time.
IOP and GFE with just plan Nice
Well said OP..great answers!
To me its about connection..attitude..compatib ilty..respect..open mindedness
Follows along with the other post in here about “why I hobby” going in. Two very great threads. Makes me smile going into a new week.
Excellent Post. Thanks to all.
Sorry, but while I do make new "friends" occasionally, I prefer to find ones with a mutual connection...and we're both looking forward to the next visit.
It takes time and more than one visit to see if things really "click", but if they do, I've found that QUALITY increases over TIME.
It takes time and more than one visit to see if things really "click", but if they do, I've found that QUALITY increases over TIME.
Originally Posted by DownForWhatever
Excellent point. I couldn’t agree more.
What makes a Quality Experience?
A quality Provider!!
Shut this bitch down and let’s go home!