i'm assuming that the 'scolding' you received was from someone trying to pressure you into believing something that's completely untrue, because you're new here. you could read hundreds of reviews from hobbyists all across the board without a single one stating they received bbfs. i've also read comments from hobbyists who stated they would never see a provider if she did provide bbfs, because that's just cra-cra. and you never stick your dick in cra-cra.
now, bbbj,... that's a whole other situation.... you would definitely be on priority lists.
/that, and greek!