Sorry but doesn't cut it yet.
We only know each other here by handles, and real personalities are anonymous. Providers here don't want me to know who they really are. I've tried. But they insist on knowing who I am.
Holly smoke! Not suggesting ALL independents are crooks...never said that. All it takes is once....one crooked girl to ruin you're whole life. Why play Russ Roullette when you don't have to. If you want to know who I am why not tell me who you are? Not saying I don't play. Just need to screen you...that's all.
Verified Provider here means she/he has good services, not that a background check
has been done to see if that person is a crook, predator, scumbag or armed robber.
For example....
Started doing business with Wildflowers, which I found on this site. Turned out the owner, calls himself "Max," but doesn't want anyone to know who he really is.
If someone like that can be a verified provider then what does that tell you?
Originally Posted by barrister
If you believe that "Max" is a crook, then ignore it. I don't really deal with Wildflower agencies.
Plus, why would you want to know a private life of women? Oh, is it because it makes the screening on both sides easier than said, "Oh, well what if you have a SO or a boyfriend pimping you?"
Can you please explain to what you mean by your personal experiences? Have you ever been mugged by a bad reviewed provider's SO or pimp?
Have you ever consider trying to get to know the provider by a conversation or just meeting your favorite ATF? If they trust you with their personal life. Sometimes a indy doesn't trust you if you seem a bit untrustworthy.
78704 also stated that you are a criminal because you are hobbying just like us. But, consider this a valuable advice,
If you consider that it's dangerous to book with an agency due to the fear of being robbed, then just quit.
Don't put your fear on any provider or activity that happens outside of the hobbying world because you fear someone like "Max" because of a criminal record.
Plus, Sophia also stated that she never heard of a girl in Austin getting busted by police as in "An independent hobbyist getting arrested by police for soliciting prostitution." The ones that get arrested are most likely the Street Walkers.
You are not seeing the difference between a street walker, a escort provider, and a escort agency. Maybe being a hobbyist is too dangerous for you and I would consider for you to just quit if your spider senses are acting up badly.
Budman...There are plenty who "require" not only your first and last name, but verifiable work info as well...I think the point that Barrister is making is that for their own safety the girls want to know as much about us as they can, but as their customers we don't even know their real names. They guard their identities and info, but want to know all about us...In other words "trust me with your info, but I don't trust you with mine".
"Safety" is a 2 way street and I think we can all agree with a providers need for it.They never know for sure who is walking in the door of their incall, or what they might be walking into during an outcall..The same is true for us as their customers though. It works both ways, and I personally refuse to give any info about myself other than my first name untill I'm I'm good and ready to. But that's just me and that's how I roll. If a providers screening standards are too rigid to suit me then I don't even bother trying to see them. They have their rules, and I have mine. The word "discrete" has become a buzzword, is overused and worn out as far as I'm concerned.
I was at a party a year or so ago and ran into a provider that I'd recently seen. She glommed onto me, chatting incessantly and wouldn't get the hint when I kept trying to get away from her...The entire time she was following me around the party I was getting a hole stared through me by her creepy looking boyfriend/friend or whoever he was that she came with..I'm real glad that she knew nothing about me other than my first name...Screening info might be safe with a provider, but there are certainly no guarantees about how safe it is with psycho boyfriends/significant others who could also have access to it.
Originally Posted by Libertine
Edit: I never had a problem with a psycho boyfriend who kept calling. Like I said, maybe it's the CL/BP girls who seem to have those types. There are a few of the girls here who post on BP/CL but are not at all bad.
Again, it's the "hoodrat providers" you are dealing with. Maybe it's safe not to know the provider's name at all. If you consider just to say your screenname and all. They ask me all the time when I meet them. I have proof, but to make sure you are not a cop or a stalker like some people who will spend their hours stalking a girl after work because he really likes her.
Maybe the problem is the stalkers and LE who invade the girl's privacy just to either arrest her, or rape her, or try to abuse her out of anger. On both sides of the fence it's not a dun deal if you want to know a girl by their personal preference, then ask them the type of questions that doesn't make you seem like a stalker. Just ask these,
Are you single?
Are you a college student?
How old are you (sometimes)?
I ask for age because I do not like seeing 18-21 year old providers or ones who are 18-23. That's just me.
Don't ask these silly questions like,
Do you work besides providing?
Do you have children?
What's your real name?
Because sometimes they see that you are trying to dig too deep and will either damage their personal stuff and all.