What does it take...???

Ok I have a few gents that I see that I consider "Regulars" simply based on the number of times they have visited me and/or how long they have been visiting me but my question is mostly for the guys (but ladies feel free to chime in). What is that a provider does , says, or offers that appeals so much to a guy that would compel him to want see her regularly is in on a weekly or biweekly (or even more frequent) basis? Whether incall or out he just has to have his "fix" of said provider . Just curious guys,... What does it for you?

In order for me to be a regular, we have to connect in & out of the bedroom. We talk & laugh as if we have known each other for years, our BCD activities are top of the line & she makes me feel as if I am all she wants (at least for an hour). The BCD activities cannot appear scripted. It has to go with whatever flow we're feeling. It could sometimes be porn star like & other times nice & slow. Just my thoughts.

Fyi, I hope to one day be one of your regulars.

1. A woman that a man has some kind of connection other than sex. The ability to talk about things other than, sex. Shared interest.

2. A women with a great body with a great attitude.

3. A woman that delivers a little more for the money than anyone else.

All three at the same time would be great or hope the three woman never meet and discuss me.

One word: Chemistry.

Its a rare thing.

1. Availability - Everyone has a life, but in the hobby (fantasy), a provider's life "appears" to revolve around the hobbyist's wants and desires.

2. BCD time never feels like it is about money or about "time"! If a hobbyist feels rushed, like he is using a provider's time in a way that she does not desire it used.


3. The provider "appears" to really enjoy time spent with the hobbyist. She acts like when the hobbyist is with her, he never has to leave.


4. Most guys want to feel wanted and desired. Every guy hobbies for different reasons, but whatever the reason that he hobbies, you "appear" to understand, and will do whatever it takes to make him happy.


5. Make him feel special. Extra time, less money (jk), text messages......Anything to differentiate yourself from the other 1000 providers in Dallas.




The answer to this question may help some understand, "when the little head wakes up, what will make him think about you?"


Fulfill his fantasies and expand his horizons!


My 2cents

After wandering for years in what I considered to be the hobby wastelands of Fort Worth, seldom repeating, and, when I did, moreso out of convenience and familiarity than out of true desire, I now have three women that I consider myself to be regulars of.

In general, when I arrive, they treat me as if they are happy to see me. When I leave, they actually sound like they mean it when they say they hope to see me again soon. Afterwards, they either initiate between-session contact or respond to occasional e-mails (I respect that by trying to refrain from abusing their receptiveness). I've met one off the clock and am working on another.

In between the greeting and goodbye, it varies. One is a truly exceptional lover in all respects; I owe her a tremendous debt of gratitude for reawakening feelings of intimacy I never thought I'd feel again. Another gives an exceptional L2, but, more than that, she's just a very nice, comfortable, easy-going person to be around. A third gives one of the more erotic B2B sessions I've ever had, but, more than that, is one of the sweetest young women I have ever met.

All three are among the most beautiful women I've seen in Fort Worth, hobby or otherwise. That helps.

It takes either a natural clicking between two people, or a combination of a willingness to suspend disbelief on the client's part, coupled with a sincere effort (or really good client-retention skills) on the lady's part to let him know (or allow him to think) that she appreciates him, values his business, enjoys his company and wants to see him again.

As I've told all three, I saw them the first time because of how they looked; I keep seeing them because of who they are. I can go anywhere to have an orgasm; the true value of my relationship with my regulars lies in how I feel days after the post-orgasmic tingle has faded.

I think it has to be that "cool" chemistry--not girlfriend. I guess more "Homegurl" type thing.
I've met some cool providers but I've only known one that was my homegurl. But, full disclosure, we never fucked.
But she sucked the HELL outta my dick one time! Dear Lawid Jeevus!!

I had a mistress once that we were just cool. We fucked every weekend. I liked being around her because she was just the right kinda cool.

In order for me to be a regular, we have to connect in & out of the bedroom. We talk & laugh as if we have known each other for years, our BCD activities are top of the line & she makes me feel as if I am all she wants (at least for an hour). The BCD activities cannot appear scripted. It has to go with whatever flow we're feeling. It could sometimes be porn star like & other times nice & slow. Just my thoughts.

Fyi, I hope to one day be one of your regulars. Originally Posted by darkchoc6

Thanks Darkchoc, and Yes hopefully one day you will be one of my regulars. Thanks to ALL of you gentlemen for your responses. Great info!

Many variables come into play on your question maam. Jannessa, yes of course all of the above.

Obviously you both have to be for lack of a better term "on the level" and on the same wave length, and click etc.

Beyond that I think it is very important to have a nice in call in the right spot. It doesn't have to be the Ritz but it cant be some shit hole
apartment or motel in the Grove or South Dallas or West Dallas or Forest n 635 etc. Potential "Regulars" will just not make the trip. So pick the right area and the right property.

If you need help on that pm me. No axe to grind but travel and hobby all over DFW and can teill you where and where not to go, to attract regular, upscale business guys that can be regulars. As I said there are a lot of variables. Takes a bit of work.Good luck to you.

Convenience: I must be able to get to her easily, and (for me) not have to plan too far in advance.

Cost: must be reasonable, and probably less than the guy that is one and done.

Chemistry: we have to get along, and there needs to be some IOP.

Character: I have to feel safe and secure around her. I don't want to have to watch my wallet, worry about a pimp or BF, or look out the window to check on the car every five minutes.

A fixed in call helps because there's no wasted time finding where the in call is, getting room number, etc.
A safe in call
Chemistry is paramount.
She must be smart, kind and honest.
She must make me feel loved. Passion, passion passion.
She must be gorgeous according to my criteria.

Another thing to consider--

Some gents just don't come back--- they are one and done-- on to the next one. I have a gent that I talk to on a regular basis.... he talks to me about almost everything--- BUT.. he has never seen ANY girl more than once, not even me. He is in the hobby to try as much as he can try. His attitude has always been that he has a wife for everything else... the hobby is for variety.

I like the variety of women to chose from in the hobby also . There are a few I seen more than once but for the most part it's one and done.

Some gents just don't come back--- they are one and done-- on to the next one. Originally Posted by GracePreston

I just don't get that. Understand it...just don't get it. Some of the best sex I've had were on follow-up visits. We're more comfortable with each other which leads to better boinking.

And that's what keeps me coming back. When a lady somehow makes each visit hotter then our previous encounters.

The great thing about this hobby is you can have both. When I started, I never saw the same girl twice. The last decade I've started having an appreciation for regulars, and I've usually had one or two at any given time. I don't go seeking a regular, I just happen to meet them and when one exhibits the characteristics I previously described, then I'm back.

I still get to mix some strange in. Like a good GM, you always have to work the entire roster, not just the stars.