I come from the school of thought that communication is always the key. But, hobbying is a discreet pastime where clear, fully descriptive requests are often frowned upon or simply met with a complete lack of response. My gripe is that if I'm going to spend my hard earned (ok... at least "earned") money, I want to get exactly what I want. Put two and two together, though. If I spell out exactly what I want, I don't get a response. I've thought of a couple answers to this little conundrum, and I thought I'd share those with you to see if I could get some insight from hobbyists and providers alike.
Answer 1: Rather than being descriptive and elaborate in an ISO, just research and find a provider who lists the services you want, then discuss it in person during your session.
I find a couple issues with this answer. First off, while P411 allows you to search services, ECCIE doesn't, and wading through thousands of posts isn't effective use of time to find what you want. Second, as I browse through P411, I find a large amount of providers who don't list any services at all. Third, what if the request has nothing to do about a specific service, but rather how you want the session to go? What if you want a provider to come on to you during the session? Is that acronym SSSTRGYA for "Sensual Seductive Stripping To Really Get Your Attention"?
Answer 2: You're over analyzing things! Just get in there, bang away, and get out!
I thought the point of hobbying was to pay for what you aren't getting elsewhere. If you can get laid on your own, but you want a specific experience, isn't that what hobbying is for? Which comes back around to the original issue; if you want a specific experience, why is it so difficult to request it?
What do you guys and gals think? How do you get that specific encounter without scaring off the provider with a detailed description?