SERIOUSLY ladies GET REAL some time!

chrissy's Avatar
Ok ladies WE ALL know of p411 and KNOW what it takes to get on the site...

My complaint is to the Ladies that keep asking for more info when verifying clients from the site..If the gent has his ok's in order what is the purpose of emailing some of the ok's to ASK if he is ok? Especially at 6am!!!

Seriously a lot of us stay on tour not to mention it is not your business how a session went during our time together...If the ok was given then that simply means the PROVIDER logged in her own account and manually has given the ok..WHY ask what does NOT need to be known other than the obvious stated?????????????

This baffles me?

If you do not trust the site for verification GET off it and go old school...I really do not think the designer of the site intends for the verified ladies or gents on the site to keep receiving "can you verify him/her please"

ok Im done venting.
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  • 08-20-2012, 08:00 AM
Several of us in Oklahoma have chosen NOT to see a few ladies for this exact reason. If my 16 P411 okays cannot stand on their own merit, then you're not worth my time or money. Hell, some girls even want our occupation.

Riiiight.
TheAntichrist666's Avatar
I agree with you.
I agree. Some ask too many questions. I don't mind being contacted if the guy is new and may have only 1 or 2 references. But I will not give out personal info or specifics of our visit. The issue of a guy being a time waster or cancelling frequently may be a concern and reason for contact but if he has been a member for 3 yrs and 22 okays from reputable ladies dont ask me for personal info on him or what we did BCD
I must respectfully disagree. Saying he is OK really doesn't tell a lady enough about the stranger she's about to see in an intimate setting. How was he? Rough, gentle? Sloppy? Can he perform or is he limp even with blue steel? Does he sweat like a pig? Does he look like Quasimodo? And on and on, there could be MANY things that someone needs to know.

A P-411 OK is basically saying he (a) is legit and (b) won't rip you off. Is that all you really want to know? I'd want to know more than that were I in the shoes of one of the fine ladies that I like to visit with.

An OK doesn't tell you ANY of that or other things that may be important not only to whether a lady can pull off the act of making him feel like he's a stud but whether he might not be a good fit for the kind of guy she wants to see.

Now I do understand the 6AM business, that is a bit unreasonable. Sounds like she's making a last minute appointment with someone new. Perhaps it would be a good idea on your profile/website/P-411 page to state that references are by e-mail only and no calls between X and Y. Then just do NOT answer your phone.

Yes it's about security but it's about more than that, too. I encourage the ladies that I book with to find out about me, I want her to be sure she is OK seeing me and there are no surprises when I walk in her door.
1CuriousGuy said it best except for the 6am email stuff.


If you're this upset about a fellow provider EMAILING you at 6am, I wonder what you're like if awaken by the phone? Sweet jesus, its an email that could've been responded to at any given time by you. Maybe she wakes up that early and starts her day then. I'm up at 7am and have sent emails to other providers at that time. I'm not expecting them to return the email right then and there, but at least I know I sent it.


Nice looking out for your fellow providers btw.
Brooke Wilde's Avatar
I agree. I had a provider text me 3 times within 3 hours a few weeks ago asking about a reference. 3 times in 3 hours is rude and obsessive. Then when I finally had the time to text back and give her a reply, she has the nerve to ask me if "I am sure"? Well fuck, if you don’t trust my word, don’t contact me for a reference.

I can just see some of these girls working in a office setting, not doing a damn thing and waiting on everyone else to help them get their job done.

I am seriously considering a no reference policy. I screen my clients though other methods as is, so I rarely, if ever ask providers for references.
Brooke Wilde's Avatar
Some ask too many questions. Originally Posted by LadyRed
Yep, the questions are getting out of line. Wanting a complete description of him, does he use enhancers, does he tip, how did he act, what did he do for a living, ect? God damn, this isn't match.com.

I will not answer any of those questions .... my reply is always the same ... if he was nice and I enjoyed our time, all I will say is ......

"Yes, I have seen him recently. He is a great guy and if he contacted me again, I would see him again."

That's all the provider needs to know.
pyramider's Avatar
Several of us in Oklahoma have chosen NOT to see a few ladies for this exact reason. If my 16 P411 okays cannot stand on their own merit, then you're not worth my time or money. Hell, some girls even want our occupation.

Riiiight. Originally Posted by Roger Murdock

What about the fucknut that has over a hundred OKs on P411 and then goes nutso and hurts a provider? Ladies screen for a reason. If one does not like the screening process then move on.
LaStang's Avatar
I have been a member for a few years on P411 and only have a few ok's . its not that i cant get them its mostly i stay off the radar . I dont ask for an ok if the lady goes and adds one on her own after i seen her its all good , if she doesnt its all good too . Its a screening tool like everything else , if they wont see me with what is there than oh well there is always another that will . I use it as a tool myself and i would hope my 7+ years on the boards and my own reputation would count for something
Ah...love the Irish in you. Feisty as hell. And I'm part Irish too LOL. I totally agree with you!
waverunner234's Avatar
Recently was rejected by a lady who said my 6 ok's where too old.
Latest was 9 months and she wanted 6 months.

What the hell? What happened in those 3 months difference?
Everyone screens differently. I don't rely on screening sites to keep me safe. "oh officer, the man who robbed raped me "and put me in the hospital" is so and so on p411, go get em!" I care about my safety and won't risk seeing a guy just based on a p411 profile. I'm not knocking p411. I advertise there, but won't see a guy just because he has a profile and some OK's..

And why would you care about how ladies screen? I check OK's anyway, I will email ten ladies if I feel like I need to. That's pretty tacky of you to tell ladies how YOU want things done......

That's like telling a lady to change her rates, that's a no no...
What about the fucknut that has over a hundred OKs on P411 and then goes nutso and hurts a provider? Ladies screen for a reason. If one does not like the screening process then move on. Originally Posted by pyramider
Thank you!
Bomb Pop's Avatar
Brooke, the funny thing is if the provider would read the profile of the man in question (if the guys half-way honest) it states if he uses enhancers, facial hair or his likes and dislikes, etc.
I've only had 1 provider read and take my likes into consideration for our meeting. And right now she is my atf partially because of it.

Pyramider, we all take chances every trip out into the world, whether here or to the mall. The girls have their own side here and I believe on p411 too just for that reason.

In the end its all a giant crap-shoot and we all hope it works out for fun.

p.s. Chrissy next time your in kc we need to get together