client screening providers?

I have a question and Im not sure if this is the right place for it but is it normal for the guys to want to screen the ladies? I am not completely new at this and I have had my days from going utr. I do have reviews and p411 so what does it mean when the guy says that he should be screening me?

Is that normal? I only ask because that is a lot. of what I've been hearing.
I understand safety goes two ways, but I don't feel like I should be of a threat or make anyone nervous. With the holidays I have been more than understanding.
Is there something more I can do to make guys see that I am ok to see?

Am I missing something?

He screens you by checking to see if you're a member of P411 or by reading your reviews.

P411 screens ladies by their reviews, and then keeps them on the site only as long as they behave.

Some clients may consider reading your posts a type of screening, to see how you present yourself, if there's drama, etc.

I have a question and Im not sure if this is the right place for it but is it normal for the guys to want to screen the ladies? I am not completely new at this and I have had my days from going utr. I do have reviews and p411 so what does it mean when the guy says that he should be screening me?

Is that normal? I only ask because that is a lot. of what I've been hearing.
I understand safety goes two ways, but I don't feel like I should be of a threat or make anyone nervous. With the holidays I have been more than understanding.
Is there something more I can do to make guys see that I am ok to see?

Am I missing something? Originally Posted by perfectblulady

It depends, if their asking for personal real world info, I'd tell them to fuck off, although with a bit more tact. A lot of guys want to collect real world info for nefarious reasons. Other than reviews, a showcase, and contact info, I don't think anymore information should be needed.

There's some information I refuse to give because I'm not comfortable giving it out. I just accept that I can't see some providers because there are some hoops I won't jump through. Some guys think they every request they make should be granted and try to lord money over people because they're a customer. I deal with clowns like that in the business world.

We typically call it research. You screen to make sure a guy is legit, won't cause problems, will pay, etc. Why is it surprising we would do the same?

The more legit info on you out there the better. Outstanding TCB skills helps a lot. Just as with providers, some guys are more careful than others. P411 tells me your legit but not if I will enjoy my time with you.

I have a process l use. Though I have been burned a few times, I typically have a great time with the ladies I see if I stay on script

Thank you. I was not sure if I was supposed to do something more. I will not give away personal information to anyone. I don't ask for anything either other than references. So far that is the most common response I get. I am a mother so patience is one thing I do have. I just don't want to be gullible though, so I figured I would get some advice from others who know better. I am learning and don't want to make any mistakes of meeting someone bad. It can be a nerve racking at times. I am grateful for any advice that can lead me in the right direction,

Your profile has everything I would need to make a decision by the way. All it needs is more positice reviews

He screens you by checking to see if you're a member of P411 or by reading your reviews.

P411 screens ladies by their reviews, and then keeps them on the site only as long as they behave.

Some clients may consider reading your posts a type of screening, to see how you present yourself, if there's drama, etc. Originally Posted by HoneyRose

I understand the P411 is free to the ladies. Not having it is a huge red flag to me. I had a girl send me what looked like a job application. I started to ask, "Are you serious?" but decided not to waste any more time on her.

Thank you. I was not sure if I was supposed to do something more. I will not give away personal information to anyone. I don't ask for anything either other than references. So far that is the most common response I get. I am a mother so patience is one thing I do have. I just don't want to be gullible though, so I figured I would get some advice from others who know better. I am learning and don't want to make any mistakes of meeting someone bad. It can be a nerve racking at times. I am grateful for any advice that can lead me in the right direction, Originally Posted by perfectblulady

Smart girl. Ask questions and NEVER give out any information about any clients. Don't even give other providers as references unless they OK it first. You made a good impression with your posts on this thread

It depends, if their asking for personal real world info, I'd tell them to fuck off, although with a bit more tact. A lot of guys want to collect real world info for nefarious reasons. Other than reviews, a showcase, and contact info, I don't think anymore information should be needed.

There's some information I refuse to give because I'm not comfortable giving it out. I just accept that I can't see some providers because there are some hoops I won't jump through. Some guys think they every request they make should be granted and try to lord money over people because they're a customer. I deal with clowns like that in the business world. Originally Posted by Roger.Smith

I agree with Roger on this one, Real world info isn't necessary. But a guys a fool if he doesn't learn what he can about a provider legitimately. I think we discussed this once. I have a propensity to being ripped off and taken advantage of. That's as much my fault as anyone one else. No provider has ever hit me or threathened me with a weapon to get things from me. It hasn't been necessary. And unfortunately the the biggest scorers (besides an ex-wife) have been verified providers here and P411. There was one woman I saw a year or so ago. I had seen her several times and was comfortable with her in my house. She had Registered member status here and wanted to be a verified provider. I thought things were cool for the most part then I got a call from my bank, A friend of her's had tried to cash one of my personal checks. The bank had called the LE not me. I tried like hell to keep her from getting verified provider status, Because I spell so poorly I compose just about all of my post in word before I paste them here, I wrote 40,000 words worth of PMs to mods trying to head this woman off. Not being a choir boy myself LE is not resource I turn too for less than armed robbery, But in this case I had a police report number, Regardless all she needed was some other hobbyist as a referral and she was in. My only recourse was a review once she had it. That's not what eventually happened but the reason it didn't had nothing to do with me. So hell yes especially if you like outcalls. find out what ever you can provider or hobbyist. Much more often than not providers are like everyone else, Just women trying to make ends meet and every so often you get lucky and meet one like Priscilla aka perfectblulady, She came over was very nice, very pretty and very sexy. The only thing she had when she left that she didn't have when she came in was the donation. If it wasn't for providers like that I could have given all of this up a long time ago.

I think indirectly guys will screen the ladies they choose to contact. That's not true of all guys, obviously. But for those of us with low review numbers I think you will find us very careful in who we see. I have had only the best of experiences on Eccie and I attribute that to limiting my contact to only the very best providers. Quality of the provider I see is way more important than trying see lots and lots. Quality is more important than quanitity.
So, I will screen the lady using what is written about her on her profile, in her ads, comments on her ads and her reviews, if any.
Photos are very important. They tell alot about a person.
What is written by the lady in her profile and ads is important.
Hope this helps a little.

thank you boomvang. I had a really nice time myself and happy to have met you. From taking all the advice I can understand so far that everybody has concerns, so it is nature. I felt getting unbiased advise and broader opinions it will help me relax some. It has helped me greatly. I think it can be worrisome for everyone first time meeting, even screening I am careful to take caution. I am thankful and feel better knowing there are nice people that are helpful. I was kind of intimidated when asking someone for references at first, but I know it is necessary. We all need to be comfortable. This is quite different for me but is exciting at the same time.

I like to read reviews on providers. That way there are no surprises. It really sucks for us guys when we spend a lot of time and money going to visit someone‚ and they turn out to be rip off artists or upsellers‚ or just not very fun.

If he is asking you for personal information, it is highly likely he is up to no good.

Gents usually verify that I'm real and legit and not involved with any type of law enforcement by my 143 Reviews

But those reviews could have been written by other officers.