- grean
- 10-15-2015, 02:45 PM
Ive had a number of different experiences with inital TCB.
One girl wants to see it & count it right off the bat.
Another, no bullshit, as soon as she closed the door behind us, whipped out her titties and grabbed my head and pulled me down and said " go on, lick it". Then she asked for the money. (yes, i know why. it's still funny and probably not the best practice )
Others want the money before we start, but dont ask for it. instead they just hover on the living room until, you realize what they want.
Others, and my prefered never say anything, I place it under an ash tray or coaster after we finish. (Requires trust or willingness to get screwed in lieu of being busted, I guess. )
The trick is figuring out which. I have been scolded like a nube for assuming they wanted they money and offering it as well as bickered at for not presenting it right away.
Can we have some consensus on whats best and acceptable if nothing has been discussed before hand?
Sometimes its just "play it by ear". I have a tendency to just set the donation down somewhere as soon as i walk in. The only time i wait until the end is if i really hit it off with a woman and don't want to ruin the mood by whipping out cash. Some of the "all business" providers namely on backpage will ask for it up front or will casually say "you can set your donation over there". I hate when they like to grab it and count it right in front of you. One provider i see never once discussed donation ever whether in PMs/texts or during the session since its clearly posted in her showcase. It kind adds to the GFE making it feel more like a meet up with a girl you just met as opposed a business transaction. Then at the end of the session i discreetly set the donation on the counter and we say our goodbyes.
My dentist, my lawyer and even the girls at bone daddy's don't ask for or get the money till I'm done. Same with my biz colleagues here.
Note I don't do bp so no data there
I tend to put the donation in a card/envelope. I also try to always bring a gift that is on their profile be it a bottle of wine, a six pack of cokes, a book, etc. I then put the donation envelope in the gift bag. I've been lucky enough to pick providers who trust me (or are very good at reviewing the donation without me noticing)
I feel like the general consensus is that we want it up front, but we definitely don't want you to hand it to us or talk about it unless you are an extremely trusted regular.
Just set it down with your keys and cell phone in a very organic way without saying a word, like it's just a normal part of setting your stuff down.
Also many ladies have grown leery of envelopes because sometimes they don't contain what they are supposed to!
I used to do the envelope thing, of coarse with it being rude to count money in front of one another there is a huge chance of being screwed over.
asking for it up front kills the mood but waiting for me to ask for it makes me nervous
getting it in a gift card you have to check the value and that kills the mood
a nice system has always been to just lay it out without mentioning it and have a nice visit
For a first time meeting a client I set the expectation up front before he walks in the door. Usually in a text message when I send my address. I ask in a nice but professional way and its because we've never met and I'd like to build up a little trust. It's never been an issue, just makes that first meeting go that much smoother.
I walk in and after the hug/kiss , place the envelope where they can see it , and go from there.
I usually pay in coupons so I always make sure they haven't expired.
Nothing more embarrassing than when a girl is in the checkout line at Walmart,
only to find her coupon for $1.50 off on a box of Tide expired the month before.
After a greeting and hello I place my keys and donation where they can be seen. For most of the providers I see that is enough as I rarely see someone new. I am always uncomfortable with new meetings to begin with, but having someone ask for, count, and mention or look for in anyway ruins the IOP right off the bat. If I was told what or where to place the donation in advance I'd probably cancel at that point. If it happens after I'm there it would be a big let down. Just my opinion though....
I play it by encounter. I almost never donate upfront, and never had issue. When I do leave it, it is prior to me getting dressed. So that why imo the lady is more inclined to know.I am not cheating her, as who will run out with thier junk swinging, lol
On a first visit, I put the envelope down with my keys and ask for a restroom to wash my hands. Then they can inspect the envelope when I am in the restroom and I can make sure we are alone.
I'm more inclined to leave a tip when nothing is mentioned. Especially when I get molested as soon as I close the door behind me lol
- Ashi
- 10-16-2015, 05:44 PM
Here is my MO and it works well: I prefer to initiate the TCB upfront, with a good smile and explaining that I could forget about it in the closing ceremonies since I am in a euphoric mood. It happened twice, not joking. Same girl and she was a good sport and laughed it off...to my embarrassment.... I had to turn back on the highway, midway home. So when I repeat this true story things get relaxed and I can really forget about it, while my companion can also relax about it. We all know the rules of the game, let's be open, relaxed and pleasant. If the tone and facial signs are right, talking about the donation should not be demeaning or in bad taste. No envelope, just as Milfy said. I also think Sophia B is right , you need to build the connection and trust. Being open about it makes things smooth and trust is built faster. Extra tip can be taken care of at the end as a surprise, as Goose says.
Everybody is different.
The consensus is to pay up front for incall.
99% of gentlemen set it down the moment they walk in, so it raises our suspcicions when we encounter that one in 100 who doesn't do so.
(For outcall, you can wait and pay afterwards, but even then, it would set the lady's mind at ease if you had the envelope in plain view. Nobody needs to say anything.)