Dressing for Success -- Provider's Edition

I have been curious about outfit choices for the first impression. On my end, the clothes I decide to wear (or not to wear) when I open the incall door and how my decision fits my clients' expectations and how I pair up with other professionals. On your end (boys) how you want a lady to greet you for a date. And ladies, what the hell do y'all do?

When I started out many moons ago, at a much younger age, I didn't put a lot of thought into my presentation for dates. I put some thought into it, absolutely, but I usually went with something semi-casual with some decent hair and makeup with something nice underneath and a few options for outfit changes, but asking in person sometimes was awkward. After my first handful of dates I went with classy/semi-coverage lingerie for the door-opening reveal and I've pretty much stuck with it. For repeat clients, I sometimes threw in a LBD reveal or incorporate variations upon something he's mentioned as a favorite (and still do). The patient boys who brought wine usually wound up with a fashion show of several lingerie outfits. However, 18 months into my lingerie greeting, I got a lecture from the head of an agency I worked for about how risky it is to open a hotel door (that agency was hotel-only work) in lingerie. Her argument was that it could be housekeeping, management, wrong-door, etc and by welcoming a stranger in lace with open arms is simply asking for trouble.

So! Gentlemen. What do either most of the ladies greet you in or what do you expect or hope for a greeting? I'm interested with your fantasies of how you'd like to be greeted as well as how you expect to be greeted and of course, stories about how you were greeted and felt "meh" or "uhh..." Ladies! How do you dress for your incall dates? I am always SO INTRIGUED by how other girls run their business. incall decoration, toy stash, etc. This is why doubles with new ladies are always incredibly informative. For what it's worth, I always ask a new client for any outfit requests, but they're generally unanswered or vaguely answered with "uh...I dunno, something sexy?" Hey, they're dudes talking about clothes. Can't expect much. =)

(Outcalls are another beast all together and I have strong opinions. If it comes up I'm sure I'll say many, many words about them.)

I have had women greet me anywhere from nothing at all to elaborate lingerie and everywhere in between. Women can be equally as sexy in jeans and a t-shirt or a slinky dress. For me as long as some effort is put into your appearance I will like it. That being said I am not a fan of the caked on makeup look. Also it feel it is important for the lady to be comfortable as they will feel confident and confidence is sexy. If I ask you to wear a thong and you think your ass is big you may not feel comfortable/ confident. Even though I think you ass looks great, that matters not.

You can say anything with that avatar and I will want to giggle my way into bed with you. Damn. Swoon. Younger Jenns didn't think she'd ever have a sexual response to Chevy, but she does. That being said, Younger Jenns had NO IDEA about how deep Older Jenns's love would run for Steve Martin. Seriously. Steve, are you listening? Freebies FOREVER! Bring your banjo, please. And read me that passage from your short story about how you paid off that girl's student loans as a romantic gesture. Ugh. I digress, but it was worth it. Did you feel it too?

Anywho, you're totally right. Whatever a girl needs to feel herself (or her alter-ego) is probably just about right. Being awkward in a slutty get-up isn't nearly as sexy as being comfortable in a flattering casual outfit. Any provider should be at the point where she is fully comfortable in her sexuality in some form or fashion, so whatever that expression is at that point in time should be well received by the gents.

The trouble comes when a girl is fully comfortable in many aspects of her sexuality and sensuality and can't figure out the best fit of that and how it relates to the majority of the gents.

You can say anything with that avatar and I will want to giggle my way into bed with you. Damn. Swoon. Younger Jenns didn't think she'd ever have a sexual response to Chevy, but she does. That being said, Younger Jenns had NO IDEA about how deep Older Jenns's love would run for Steve Martin. Seriously. Steve, are you listening? Freebies FOREVER! Bring your banjo, please. And read me that passage from your short story about how you paid off that girl's student loans as a romantic gesture. Ugh. I digress, but it was worth it. Did you feel it too?

Lets do a role play. I will dress as Billy Gene King from Bug Busters and you can dress up as Becky Culpepper, curly blond wig and all.

Anywho, you're totally right. Whatever a girl needs to feel herself (or her alter-ego) is probably just about right. Being awkward in a slutty get-up isn't nearly as sexy as being comfortable in a flattering casual outfit. Any provider should be at the point where she is fully comfortable in her sexuality in some form or fashion, so whatever that expression is at that point in time should be well received by the gents.

The trouble comes when a girl is fully comfortable in many aspects of her sexuality and sensuality and can't figure out the best fit of that and how it relates to the majority of the gents. Originally Posted by JennsLolli

No trouble here. That speaks to my original point. Most guys don't care as it will all be coming off shortly. It is all about the sex appeal. If you are comfortable enough in your own skin to answer butt naked then that is hot. Most women have that part(s) of their body that they don't like. If you need to conceal that area or accentuate your best assets to feel confident then do what you gotta do. Either way it all ends up in a pile on the floor

I like this thread, Jen! I never know what to wear either. I like to know ahead of time. It makes it more fun, unless you don't have what is requested at the ready.

And that is so dead on about the usual dude response! Sorry guys, it's true. Most guys just say to wear something sexy, Lol! I remember getting ready for a date once while at my civilian friend's place. He asked why I was getting all dressed up. He remarked if he were going to hire an escort he would want her to look like the GND.

I can go either way with the dramatic, "look like an egyption" eyes and glam wear or wet crazy hair and naked with hardly any make up.

I have come to believe guys like to unwrap their packages, but after all this time I honestly still don't know. You are all so different and the thought of getting it wrong is nerve racking to me!

I know on out calls, I dress very business like or jeans. I too, am a curious cat when it comes to the way other ladies' run their biz. I wonder if they solicit guys or what their collections look like or even how many guys they bang in a day or week. I think that is a million dollar question, but I digress. I think it is only natural to wonder about those things.

It's not like we have seminars or board meetings or union meetings!!!
If we did, that would rock though!

I definitely like to unwrap the package myself.

I appreciate it when you're fully clothed to start. It doesn't matter too much whether it's nice casual or dressy clothes. Remember that first impressions count.

Underneath, nice lingerie is a plus. Stockings and a garter belt are also good.

Don't take it off too quickly. Let me take it off you. This is one thing many ladies miss. Even when I ask them to let me undress them, they often will take off the clothes themselves once we get started.

Start making out without taking anything off.

Don't take it all off unless I want to. It can be a great turn on to leave some of the clothes on through the whole process. Especially sheer stockings with a garter belt. Something like a light lacy short babydoll is nice. (I'm not sure what all these things are called.)

Changing into your working clothes, for instance, putting on stockings and such is a turn on, too.

Of course, take cues from the guys, too. I suspect some guys want you naked on your knees behind the door when they come in.

When I did outcall only I always requested nice dress, with sandals, nothing else. But for in calls I like a soft silky dress with nothing under, I like to feel a body for the first time like this, and plus I don't get all tangled up in the unwrapping.

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I definitely like to unwrap the package myself.

I appreciate it when you're fully clothed to start. It doesn't matter too much whether it's nice casual or dressy clothes. Remember that first impressions count.

Underneath, nice lingerie is a plus. Stockings and a garter belt are also good.

Don't take it off too quickly. Let me take it off you. This is one thing many ladies miss. Even when I ask them to let me undress them, they often will take off the clothes themselves once we get started.

Start making out without taking anything off.

Don't take it all off unless I want to. It can be a great turn on to leave some of the clothes on through the whole process. Especially sheer stockings with a garter belt. Something like a light lacy short babydoll is nice. (I'm not sure what all these things are called.)

Changing into your working clothes, for instance, putting on stockings and such is a turn on, too.

Of course, take cues from the guys, too. I suspect some guys want you naked on your knees behind the door when they come in. Originally Posted by GneissGuy

Being a dancer is a plus for some ladies, because they have mastered the art of the tease! Taking a little off here, letting him take a little off there, undressing him....But, sometimes it comes across non organic, imo. It's a hard balance to strike for some, myself included.

Great thread. I'm like a lot of guys in saying 'wear whatever makes you feel sexy'. If you feel confident and sexy, you'll be sexy, and that's all I ask for. I do like to help you undress (and I like it when the lady helps me undress, btw). I've been greeted in everything from a cocktail dress to lingerie to a sheer sundress with obviously nothing underneath (yum) to nothing at all. One lady greeted me at my request in a sheer bodystocking; it stayed on for all of 30 seconds. Another, who I was seeing for the first time, greeted me in a lovely white cocktail dress; I handed her a bottle of red wine that I'd brought as a gift. She looked at her dress, then at the wine, then back at her dress. Then she did the only sensible thing. She unzipped and stepped out of her dress, and clad now in just panties and heels she handed me a glass of wine. Hmm, there is a trend toward nakedness there, isn't there. Ah, memories.

Having said all that, my preference is that you not be all glammed up. Even if you are a high-end escort, I prefer the GND vibe. The casual sundress is gold. But lingerie is good, too. I guess I'm just easy to please.

I realized that a look on women that always gets me going is when they are in a bikini. Never had a provider wear one, but I've never asked (but I will in the future). Lingerie is nice but I think of all the times I've seen sexy women in bikinis and really wanted to find out what was underneath. I also like the idea of letting the guy "unwrap his present". Question for the ladies, do you like the guy to undress himself or do you like to do the unwrapping?

I definitely like to unwrap the package myself.

Don't take it off too quickly. Let me take it off you. This is one thing many ladies miss. Even when I ask them to let me undress them, they often will take off the clothes themselves once we get started.

Start making out without taking anything off.

Don't take it all off unless I want to. It can be a great turn on to leave some of the clothes on through the whole process. Especially sheer stockings with a garter belt. Something like a light lacy short babydoll is nice. (I'm not sure what all these things are called.) Originally Posted by GneissGuy

Thank you for the insight GneissGuy and Jenn for asking the question in the first place.

When I first started in the business, the lady I worked with told me never to take off my heels... I thought it was some sort of house rule, so I never took off my heels. Later when doing a double with her, she asked, "why didn't you take your shoes off?" I responded, "you told me not to." Apparently, the rule "never take off your heels" was something her grandmother told her so that her calves and feet would always feel comfortable in heels. It wasn't to never take them off, it was to always wear them so your arches don't fall. hehehe

Still, I enjoy being dressed in something classy and keeping my heels on through the whole experience. There is something about being naked and having nothing on but a pair of black heels. (I do take them off when the heel begins to get dangerously in the way).

I also just did an outcall to a home dressed in a business casual dress and heels only to find out he would have preferred me to wear jeans and a t-shirt. While I love wearing jeans and a t-shirt, I always feel like I'm not living up to certain service standards and I don't want him to think that I didn't care about what I was wearing to come and visit.

Great thread! Extremely helpful!!!

One of my favorite sessions..... Sigh....

I have a lovely gentleman who enjoys a hot soapy shower
before we start his FBSM. 15 minutes before our appointment time,
I receive a rather sheepish text from him asking if I would consider joining
him. Unknown to me at the time, he LOVED wet hair, to watch water cascade
off the body, especially the breasts and nipples. I never responded, but did hop into the shower, wet my hair, then soaped my body. I heard the knock, and I answered my door covered in bubbles.

It was interesting because he was so pleased and excited, but still fully clothed
and couldn't really touch me! In a moment's time, his cloths were off and all
over the room! I had bubbles all over me, all over him, the carpet, my mat, the kitchen, my dining room table! Then we got into the shower...

If you can meet a special request like this, it really electrifies the air, and can
make the time together extra special.

i LOVE sexy outfits that enhance her best assets.
i think scarlett would look amazing in something with deep deep deep cleavage to show off those beautiful and natural wonder of the hobby world, and cut very high on the hip to show off that nice round bottom. a nice set of heels also tend to "stretch a ladies physique givie the appearance of being 5-10 lbs thinner.
there is something about sitting with a lady dressed in a sexy outfit just for you, knowing it will soon be coming off. sitting on the couch, her legs draped over your as you massage her inner thighs, working you way up to no mans land. carrying on a conversation all the while imagining unwrapping your present and all the things you will do to her and her to you.
But, the reality of this world. is that time is money. and most either dont have the time, or dont have the money. so unfortunately the romance and seduction gets thrown by the wayside in favor of the action.
But, what wonderful action you ladies provide !!!

Ha! That sounds pretty hot indeed, Mia. On the last trip I got to entertain a favorite gentleman's request to wash my hair. I was thinking "sure, sounds hot enough" but goddamn. It was ridiculously sexy. Sexy enough that going into more detail feels like I'm sharing a secret I shouldn't be =)

But that being said, showers are totally one of those things that go either way -- super sexy or fairly awkward/boring. Sometimes you just want to quickly scrub the important bits, I guess. I'm always happy to oblige if the gent wants a hand, I just don't generally volunteer. Too many times before I've asked "want me to lend a hand in there" only to be standing in the cold corner with goosebumps (which makes your legs get stubbly!), wet hair (I spent 25 minutes blowing it out for nothing!) and no play when I've tried to initiate. Additionally, there's the pre-session shower and the post-session shower so a mid-session shower just wreaks more havoc on the skin and hair, especially if you're doing multiple appointments in a day.

And Fletch, I'll take you up on your role playing if you entertain a second go where I can be Bernadette Peters and you can be Steve Martin. You bring a ukulele, I bring a trumpet. We can flip through the phone book between rounds if ya want.

hiccup...double post =)