premature ejaculation..Help!

Bancroft1957's Avatar
Maybe it's the excitement, maybe it's the providers skill. My problem is shooting off so quick as to make it embarassing. I have warned the ladies that I pop off quickly, and with very little stimulation. Is there anything I could do before, or during a session to keep from losing it? I am open to any and all suggestions. Exercises that work, self stimulation prior to appointment, food, OTC medications?
Whats your refractory period? Are you ready to go again in 15 minutes?

Turn this into a good thing. See providers that offer MSOG. Get the first one out of the way via bbbj. If even that is too fast, ask for cbj.

When your ready for round two, you won't be quite so hair-triggered.

Other options: ask for two condoms to reduce sensitivity. Spend a lot of time in foreplay with the lady before she grabs your willy: back rubs, breast worship, daty.

Most importantly, Talk to your provider. She's seen this before.
Eccie Addict's Avatar
They make numbing lube I think lol.
SpiceItUp's Avatar
+1 on communicating with the lady beforehand, they're like sex therapists they've seen it all and don't judge.

Also I agree if your refractory period is sub 15 minutes no big deal at all, round two should be underway with plenty of time left. Of course for civilian sex that doesn't fix the issue right? At various points in my life I've had some issues with this temporarily, something like 30% of men of all ages do. In my case I had an underlying issue that was the primary cause which got straightened out and now I'm back to normal the vast majority of the time.

You can do some things though to desensitize and prolong. I'm sure you've tried rubbing one out like an hour beforehand?

Try to relax anxiety makes it worse. Specifically, Learn to relax your PC muscles during sex, do Kegel exercises to strengthen them first, yeah kegels aren't just for women There's also the squeeze technique (google it) you can try.

Medically you can do things also. See a Urologist if you want to go that route. Viagra has been used to treat Premature ejaculation and it shortens refractory period as well, it's not just for old dudes!. The antidepressant Paxil among others helps with PE also.

Good luck!
pickupkid's Avatar
try thinking of something other than sex ...baseball
i get my big black strap on out and an empty bottle of lube. I set it right in plain sight and then tell him ill introduce them if he pops before the 59th minute lol!! Works!!
MSOG an option for you? Usually the second pop is longer. Try finding and researching for MSOG providers. Good luck!
Alyssa XOXO's Avatar
Usually, we'll get the first pop out within the first 10 minutes, orally or sexually..... Even if you can't pop the second time I do my damnest to get it out of you.... Some have even popped 3 times The fun is in the trying and not being a clock watcher.....
Usually, we'll get the first pop out within the first 10 minutes, orally or sexually..... Even if you can't pop the second time I do my damnest to get it out of you.... Some have even popped 3 times The fun is in the trying and not being a clock watcher..... Originally Posted by Alyssa XOXO
+1 Alyssa!
TonyDucks's Avatar
There is a fairly new medication on the market called dapoxetine that is being used for the condition. It has not quite made it through the FDA requirements for release here in the US yet, but it is available overseas, and it does work, with little or no side-effects. I tried it and my normal 15 minutes or so went to "had to work to get it done in the hour".

You will be able to relax and savor what is happening, instead of being so worried about coming too quickly that you can't enjoy it.

You can get it here, among other places (these guys are safe and reliable):

http://www.bmpharmacy.com/mens-healt...1161,2287.html Dapoxetine 60mg

You can pm me for more info.
jerky's Avatar
  • jerky
  • 01-07-2014, 02:32 PM
Thanks for having the balls to ask this question, about 30% of men suffer with this problem. There is also a new FDA approved drug available without a Rx. It is called Promescent and is bad ass. This stuff is for real and can be ordered at Promescent.com. I first heard about it when I was in my urologist office and since then I heard it discussed on a talk show.
They make numbing lube I think lol. Originally Posted by Eccie Addict
If you choose this option, please inform the lady you're with that you are using it.
All good suggestions so far, best one being to find someone who allows MSOG.

You could also try someone experienced at "edging" if recovery time is an issue, A lady who is good at edging could perhaps teach you to hold back on those pops too.

Just a thought.
Ur_1_only's Avatar
Usually, we'll get the first pop out within the first 10 minutes, orally or sexually..... Even if you can't pop the second time I do my damnest to get it out of you.... Some have even popped 3 times The fun is in the trying and not being a clock watcher..... Originally Posted by Alyssa XOXO
Now how can anyone give any better advice...
Its all in the control of the lady generally...
MSOG way to go...
With Alyssa XOXO...!!!
It's a problem and opportunity on both ends of spectrum, right?

Bob Hobby blows off that first load inside 100 seconds... Joe Hobby can fuck and fuck but has trouble climaxing and ejaculating, in a word: finish. Male porn stars 'stunt cock' judged by ability to ability to hold it off, but also deliver the money shot on time. Best guess that 80% skill development, concentration/self-control and 20% natural in most men. Making up that 80/20 but just sayin' our species highly trainable.

Training flew out the fucking window with XOXO Karla, however. Went a week without getting any; a few minutes on XOXO Karla made Trees spooge like a 15 year old school boy (during DATY on her!). See, http://eccie.net/showthread.php?t=776505 There was no contact whatsoever between she and my cock, look/taste/smell/chemistry sometimes we just lose it.

The can't cum problem is the harder one to solve. One way to solve it is to have less sex, less frequently but that method sucks ass. Or not.

19Trees
Beau Derierre's Avatar
Using a cock ring helps delay the first pop...