Alpha sub

I've been trying to figure which type I find most attractive... and this one is still a mystery to me..

First, of all, I would prefer a man who listens to me and actually does what I say ...or at least the most important things... but a man with no will/mind of his own, spineless ... would be a burden to me

I remember when one lost his job and asked if he could move in with me have me take care of him... and I was like ...cute. My damsel in distress *eye roll* ...No... you have to get up on your feet and be a man

I've done this my whole life ...made weak men stronger... I deliver speeches, lectures, scolding... for years, until snap... I see them changing then I completely cut off contact because I want them to evolve on their own

I met one who I believe was one of these, alpha sub, types... he had a very strong self assured front in his day/worklife ...but behind closed he melted into me, like a kitten

I think this is what I want...

But I don't mind other types for just a meeting... I enjoy & appreciate all

But this is all still a mystery

There are those out there who are going to argue "alpha" is a made-up word. Then again all words are "made up", but that usually escapes their notice...

There are people like this out there. Some dommes seem to have a hard time landing one because they aren't willing to invest the time in earning the trust and devotion of people like this. They think that simply because they are a domme submissives should be begging to serve them. Except the type of person you are seeking is not normally going to throw himself at your feet.

Why? Because you are asking for a man who is both willing and capable of standing on his own two feet, who is successful on his own and while he might crave feeding his submissive side, he isn't going to throw the rest of himself away just to feed it. He has too much pride and respect for himself to do so.

The question is, what are you willing to do to land a partner like what you seek?

This has been a problem for me. I am very submissive in the bedroom, and I would love to find someone who would want me to be a permanent sub. But, I would not want to be a "kept" man or anything like that, or give up my job to be a live-in sub and just keep house for my mistress during the day (I would be fine with serving a mistress that way every now and then, but not to the point of doing it all day, every day.)

So, I guess I'm at least partly an "alpha" sub.

This has been a problem for me. I am very submissive in the bedroom, and I would love to find someone who would want me to be a permanent sub. But, I would not want to be a "kept" man or anything like that, or give up my job to be a live-in sub and just keep house for my mistress during the day (I would be fine with serving a mistress that way every now and then, but not to the point of doing it all day, every day.)

So, I guess I'm at least partly an "alpha" sub. Originally Posted by Lhornbk

It is a dream of many subs...to live 24/7 with his Mistress.