Kids at a wedding question

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I recently went to a very elegant wedding that the bride and groom took over a year to plan. Every detail was perfect. It was by far the most beautiful wedding I have ever attended.

Now the invitation CLEARLY stated it was an adults only affair...The bride stated that she called the guest who had the nerve to RSVP with a +1 and remided them that due to the venue size they could not accomodate more people than already invited. I imagine the cost per head was well over $700.00. She also stated that all through the year they mentioned it was an adults only affair..

So this one family- her fiance's cousin shows up with her husband as indicated in the RSVP , PLUS 3 kids in tow......There was a little baby who cooed and "talked" during the ceremoney at the church, the mother encouraged it, the 2 year old who ran around and screamed like a hellion th entire time at the church ruining the vow ceremony, and a 5 year old who fought with the 2 year old at the church.....This woman even tried to interject her kids in their pictures! The bride was livid! So she asked me to do her a favor and let the family know it was an adults only affair and that everyone left their kids at home with a sitter to enjoy the night sans rugrats! I kindly asked her after the ceremony to please return for cocktails and dinner without the kids as they did not have seating prepared for them and the menu was not child friendly. I even stated it would not be great to have kids around adults who have been drining.....This WOMAN behaved as if I decided this and not the bride. She demanded to speak to the bride. Thank God the bride's father took over and they left..

I have been to plenty of kid friendly weddings before and they have been ok but some kids are hellions and one stuck their finger in the cake. The parents thought it was so cute.

What get's me as rude is that they asked if the kids could come and were told it was an adults only affair......They KNEW and still showed up anyway.....She even asked if her oldest could be in the wedding stating that he " had enough practice having been at 3 other weddings". She was politely told NO and it was not mentioned for months......

Do you think the bride is wrong for wanting it to be HER day?

Oh yeah and she showed up looking like a prostitute! I know what prostitutes look like and she gave the ladies a bad name with that tacky red excuse for a dress. Was I wrong to ask her to leave and do as the bride asked? I mean she knew i would have no problem telling tacky to get moving!
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Oh yeah and she showed up looking like a prostitute! I know what prostitutes look like and she gave the ladies a bad name with that tacky red excuse for a dress. Originally Posted by sofiaofhouston
Is she into BBCR?

(When did this site turn into Dear Abby?)
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Same day it turned into the AM Sports station...
I think kids are great, but... there are those times when kids should not be allowed.

At my brothers wedding his soon to be sister-in-law was part of the wedding. The stupid part is that she was carrying her 2-yr-old kid the whole time she participated in the ceremony! I thought that was the stupidest thing. And it's not like her husband or other relative wasn't there to hold on to the child.
The most stupid thing is to have something which costs $700 per head.

The second most stupid thing is to have an adults only event.

Compared to those stupidities, the actions of the family are small meat.

But children should indeed be kept in order, but surely that is the duty of not just the family, but all adults present? When did we get to the stage where an adult was not allowed to tactfully admonish other people's children? I know some parents go into a foaming mouthed vampire if anybody says boo to their child, but that is their problem and they need to get over it. Children are not just brought up by their parents.

Generally IMHO the longevity of a marriage is inversely correlated to the cost of the wedding.

ps. if I remember right, the three purposes of marriage are:

- prevention of fornication (i.e. allows you to have sex)

= procreation and bringing up of children (i.e. consequences of sex)

- mutual comfort and companionship (i.e. lots of sex).

Some people forget these things.
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Parents are shits. Weddings, restaurants, grocery stores, etc and the brats are running amok. No controls . . . And then the mom at the grocery store accuses me of not liking children when I asked her to control her children . . . I politely informed her that I love children . . . deep fried. I walked away.
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Is she into BBCR?

(When did this site turn into Dear Abby?) Originally Posted by chicagoboy

Dear Abbey is into BBCR? Interesting . . .
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Abby was nothing compared to her sister; Ann Landers was a freak.
I BBCR'ed both of those dirty skancks.
or pics
I recently went to a very elegant wedding that the bride and groom took over a year to plan. Every detail was perfect. It was by far the most beautiful wedding I have ever attended.

Now the invitation CLEARLY stated it was an adults only affair...The bride stated that she called the guest who had the nerve to RSVP with a +1 and remided them that due to the venue size they could not accomodate more people than already invited. I imagine the cost per head was well over $700.00. She also stated that all through the year they mentioned it was an adults only affair..

So this one family- her fiance's cousin shows up with her husband as indicated in the RSVP , PLUS 3 kids in tow......There was a little baby who cooed and "talked" during the ceremoney at the church, the mother encouraged it, the 2 year old who ran around and screamed like a hellion th entire time at the church ruining the vow ceremony, and a 5 year old who fought with the 2 year old at the church.....This woman even tried to interject her kids in their pictures! The bride was livid! So she asked me to do her a favor and let the family know it was an adults only affair and that everyone left their kids at home with a sitter to enjoy the night sans rugrats! I kindly asked her after the ceremony to please return for cocktails and dinner without the kids as they did not have seating prepared for them and the menu was not child friendly. I even stated it would not be great to have kids around adults who have been drining.....This WOMAN behaved as if I decided this and not the bride. She demanded to speak to the bride. Thank God the bride's father took over and they left..

I have been to plenty of kid friendly weddings before and they have been ok but some kids are hellions and one stuck their finger in the cake. The parents thought it was so cute.

What get's me as rude is that they asked if the kids could come and were told it was an adults only affair......They KNEW and still showed up anyway.....She even asked if her oldest could be in the wedding stating that he " had enough practice having been at 3 other weddings". She was politely told NO and it was not mentioned for months......

Do you think the bride is wrong for wanting it to be HER day?

Oh yeah and she showed up looking like a prostitute! I know what prostitutes look like and she gave the ladies a bad name with that tacky red excuse for a dress. Was I wrong to ask her to leave and do as the bride asked? I mean she knew i would have no problem telling tacky to get moving! Originally Posted by sofiaofhouston
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Yeah little man....I would REALLY post her pics here......NO!
Absolutely not; the parents should have been embarrassed. I missed some of my brother’s ceremony because I took my daughter out of the sanctuary when she couldn’t hold still. I don’t know where modern society took, in my opinion, a wrong turn with manners and the niceties in life. Not everything has to be family or kid friendly. Some things are kid friendly and some things aren’t. I love children and young mothers, but I love my adult fun.

Also, I don't believe in dressing in anything flashy formal affairs where there a lady is the center of attention such as a wedding on a coming out party. It's in the poorest taste.
A few pinches used to work, they don't leave a lasting mark, but nowadays if you pinch a child they are likely to bawl into tears or accuse you of child abuse in a screaming voice.
A few pinches used to work, they don't leave a lasting mark, but nowadays if you pinch a child they are likely to bawl into tears or accuse you of child abuse in a screaming voice. Originally Posted by essence

If you must take a child to a wedding...




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ps. if I remember right, the three purposes of marriage are:

- prevention of fornication (i.e. allows you to have sex)

= procreation and bringing up of children (i.e. consequences of sex)

- mutual comfort and companionship (i.e. lots of sex).

Some people forget these things. Originally Posted by essence

Shit. It is not all the stuff in the chick flicks or the old black and white films that makes you feel all sentimental and crave chocolate?