Asking for a friend…

I have had some not so good luck on the indie circuit but I’m no quitter and momma didn’t raise no punk @&$#! lol But for real how as a hobbyist do you approach verifying a provider is who they advertise? Do you just ask them for pics or references? I mean in terms of not just reviews but looks and advertising. I have been catfished 2-3 times recently.

For the providers how can a hobbyist be respectful and how should we approach these issues? Finally another for the providers how should we handle just not vibing with you when we meet?

Again asking for a friend.