That point when everything changes

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I was listening to a radio show the other day and it was regarding your personal "end of innocence" moments when everything changes. The discussion centered around historical eye opening events such as presidential assassinations, 9/11 etc but it got me thinking about this world too. I know this hobby can be a lot of fun but there are moments that are more sobering and remind you that this is not a game. What are some of those moments for you? Just curious to hear perspectives on this topic if you have one.
I know for me personally there have been a few. I can think of one time at a hotel on northwest highway where in the middle of a session the provider began getting out some foil and partaking in some activities we can't talk about. Another was when a provider hopped on uncovered for the first time.
What say you hobbyists?
For me everything changed on my very first hobby experience. one of the worst yet most interesting sessions ive ever had. I'm surprised i decided to continue to hobby after that 1st visit. i'll try to keep it brief but here i go. So many, many months ago i was in a deep depression. one day, while drunk and as a joke, i randomly started texting women on BP. Finally one of them said she was going to get a room. Oops it just got real, i dont want to make her get a room and i dont show up. so i had agree to meet cuz i felt bad. she asked me to meet at a near by fast food chain, i pick her up and we head to the no-tel. 1st rookie mistake, i got the room in my name. we get to room and didnt have any condoms so her TS friend comes to the door (WTF) to give her one. we get started and she smells bad so i couldnt keep my hard on. She said its OK we can try again later and since i got the room, she didnt ask me to leave. a few minutes later her "salesman" shows up to sale her some stuff. then she says she'll be back, shes going to the corner store. Mistake #2 i should have left then and there but i stayed. she came back with cigs and a friend. they started chatting for a while and then her TS friend came back and later some crack head lady and her BF show up. they are all sitting around talking and thanking me for the room. I'm thinking WTF have i got myself into, this is not how i want my life to be. I quickly make an excuse to leave rush home and shower for like an hour. lol Side note: that experience very quickly knocked me out of my depression.
Frique-Me's Avatar
For me, that experience very quickly knocked me out of my depression. Originally Posted by bobo1cg
Damn bob... Dayum!!! So glad you made it out of there to share this story Bud.
Damn bob... Dayum!!! So glad you made it out of there to share this story Bud. Originally Posted by Frique-Me
Yep, I waited a few months before i even thought about trying this again and i did major research first...thats how i found out about ECCIE. so I guess thats the silver lining of the story. lol
doug_dfw's Avatar
I was 31. Had an affair. Loss of innocence.

The Mother of our 3 discovered and divorced me. I paid alimony and child support for 15 years until she remarried. I was lucky. She allowed and encouraged custody;I grew up with my kids. But she held me at bay.

When she remarried, the Mother of my children allowed entry into her world. We are best friends forever today. We have annual family reunions.

I am a Hobbyist to assure my commitment to my children is not impaired.

I hope I am on the thread. I regret my loss of innocence. That in my view is the same as acknowledging quilt. Sort of quaint conservative view I suppose.
The one for me so far were the news stories about Schoolgirlz by Jazleen. I had one of their providers booked about 2-3 weeks or so before they were busted, and they NC/NS on me, and now I am so thankful I did. I know a lot of providers have tough circumstances, but I don't want to see anyone in or support those kinds of conditions if I can help it.
Iron Butterfly's Avatar
My first real hobby experience, it was with Nikki Knows, she blew my mind and from that day on sex has never been the same (a good thing).

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