If you are meeting a provider for your first GFE, treat her like she is a real date. Being clean and acting like a gentleman goes without saying. I like the advice about being confident, but you don't want to be an overbearing jerk. I don't know how long your date is planned for, but if you have the time, try to get to know the provider before engaging in any BCD activities. Ask her what she enjoys both in and out of the hobby. When it comes to BCD activities, unless you are a complete virgin
, I think you as the guy should make the first move. For me, I really enjoy removing her clothes. To me, it is like unwrapping a Christmas present as it builds to the anticipation of the fun I'm about to begin. I also think it is very intimate as a way to slowly move into the BCD activities. After you've made that first move, let her take the lead. Maybe she'll lower your pants and start a nice BBBJ, or maybe she will want you to perform DATY. From there, just let things flow like they would on a real date. The goal for you and the provider should be that everyone enjoys themselves to the point where each of you would be comfortable in seeing each other again. To me, that is how a GFE session should end. After all, when you finish having sex with your real girl friend, you want her to still be your girl friend and have sex with her again
Also new to this, looking to visit this weekend, any suggestions on choosing a provider for your first?
Originally Posted by scoobysnax
You have to do your research-- here and on other boards. There are a lot of providers who are newbie friendly and will say so in their ads. Two things to avoid. First, don't see an agency girl as your first experience with a provider. Second, don't see a backpage/craigslist girl (unless she advertises on boards like ECCIE). The reason I say that is two-fold. First, both type of girls are probably going to expect a client who is experienced when it comes to seeing an escort/provider. They don't want to deal with someone who might be skiddish or uncertain of the "rules of the game". Second, agency/BP girls are probably less likely to be true GFE providers. They will probably be clock watchers and try to up sell services/activities. That is why you should first look into Indys who clearly indicate that they are Newbie Friendly. Other sites besides ECCIE that could help in research include P411 because more oft than naught, the providers will say if they are newbie friendly.