Have you ever turned and walked out or refused a seesion because of looks?
I'm not talking about bait and switch operations here. But for the guys let's say you haven't seen a pic or are seeing the girl on a recommendation from someone else. Your buddy or recent provider tells you that you have to see this lady and you go sight unseen.
You get there and you just can't go through with it because she looks too bad for you or has some physical feature that you can't get past. Have you walked?
Providers rarely get pictures of the guy they are going to see. Have any of you decided to not answer the door when the gent knocks or asked him to leave?
I ask because I recently met a young lady on a chat line and seemed to hit it off well. She is close to McKinney so a daytime rendezvous would work nicely for me. She really wanted just some company once in a while to break the stress of caring for a sick relative. She was bright, cheerful, and sounded oh so sexy. She sent me clothed body pics but never a face shot. We finally traded numbers (thanks for google voice) and she was too good to pass up.
I skipped out early on work to run up 75 to see her one day. I got directions to her place and she talked to me the whole time I was driving. She was extremely playful on the phone that day so I knew my day would end on a happy note. She told me she would wait outside for me so she could get a quick ride to the store before we settled in her room.
I turned the corner and saw her standing there. The body was exactly as I had seen in the pictures. But the physical features of her face and head because of obvious surgeries was more than I could look at. She asked me if that was my car coming up and I quickly told her I was in another car. I passed her and then told her I had to take a quick call from my boss. I then called her back and told a lie of an emergency that required my immediate attention.
Even with a knockout body, I couldn't do it. Call me shallow or an ass, but I couldn't stop. I did send her a donation in the mail (since I had the address already) with my apologies and that I was going to take on a new job out of the area so I wouldn't be calling anytime soon.
Can't say as I have myself, but I will never forget a co-worker who once took a blind date to a formal event. His comment on the evening? "I kept on drinking hoping I would get drunk, but every time I looked at her, I went stone cold sober."
I answered the door last fall to a man with a nice enough smile and well, he looked like a troll. Honest to God, he did. Well, I did what a good escort would do and went upstairs with him.
He preceded to fuck me, kiss me, stroke me, lick me every way but loose, for three hours (he only paid for one and I didn't care) and he came back to see me two other times.
It was obvious that I was crazy about him. Not his looks. Look wise, most women would have been somewhat repulsed.
But I would have let myself be chained to the end of the bed for days on end if he would come back and visit me again. Still would. I'd wear his brand. He could USE me as he sees FIT. It was that great. Still, when I think of him (like now while writing this), I smile and there is a faint yearning between my thighs.
Judging people on their looks is so foolish. One NEVER knows what can happen when two people meet and the chemistry is just right. Of course, if you're paying for it, there is a different component there.
Good question, though. It's certainly has happened when I've answered the door, or had a guy answer his door, and the look on our faces betrayed our thoughts. It seems normal enough to have that happen.
Even when I've seen a picture of a potential client, I've answered the door and went "what"? The reality is so often different. Shrug. It's generally not a problem for me, though. Men are men and women are women.
Elisabeth
You never know....she could have screwed your brains out and gave you the BJ of your life.
Nice that you mailed her the donation though.
I guess I have been extremely lucky. I was burned in an accident when I was 5 yrs old and have a rather large scar on my arm as a result of it. Although I do try to camouflage in my pics for cosmetic purposes, you can see it if you look close enough and it has been brought up in a few reviews. I try to remember to alert new clients of this before we meet so that they can make a decision on whether they still want to see me and as far as I know, not one has turned me away because of it. I have always been self conscious about it, but thanks to the wonderful gentlemen here who have kissed it and made me feel like a beautiful creature every time you walk through the door, I am not as worried about it anymore. Thanks you guys! Hobby love you all!
I have walked because of fake pictures and being greeted by her SO. I don't care if she has one, but something about him telling me to have a great time just ruined the experience.
And I do prefer all the used condoms on the floor are mine.
First, NO - I have never "walked" from a scheduled appointment and doubt that I will ever do so. Those who focus on physical appearance as a sole factor in deciding to see someone or not are shallow thinkers and are missing out on some of life's treasures. No one is "perfect" (certainly not me) and there is something that can be found to criticize in everyone, IF you allow yourself to think like that. Personally, I prefer to seek reasons to compliment someone rather than find fault. [I will now make a sidebar comment here to a good friend of mine - "seems like I had this conversation already once today!"]
SAS
Nope, never have, and won't. I understand, however, what you did. And you're a gentleman and saint for living up to your word. PM old Gonzo, though. At times, I'm a body man. And you mentioned her personality and that overrides any, and I mean any, problem she may have. In fact, most of the time when I'm on this board, I'm scouting for hints of playfulness, sexual appetite and a generally good attitude in providers. But look, dude, you shouldn't feel bad. You're in the hobby for you, so get what you need.
I knew I would take a shellacking for this but I wanted to know if I am the only one and I guess I am.
She isn't a regular provider just wanted a little help at the time. I could have used her just for her body but wouldn't that have been just as wrong? I did send her what she would have gotten had we played the time out.
I am nothing to look at myself. Elizabeth"s troll may have been my twin. Kudos to her for doing what she did. Reese is gorgeous to start with. I usually don't notice some scars and even tattoos as I am directing my attention elsewhere. I am talking facial and cranial deformities.
Had she said something up front, I may not have been so surprised. Someone spank me??
She had facial deformities? I must have not read closely. Not that it's different but really, if she had some major facial scarring, or something that causes others to stare at her, she really should have mentioned it. But you ended up doing the right thing and helping her out, regardless.
That "troll" that I mentioned? And he's not on this board (I pray) was one of the most remarkable men that I have ever met. For me? That is saying a hell of a lot.
I've never cottoned much to looks, anyway. But it's always been the men that I least expect that have been just the diamonds...and sometimes in the rough.
Never know. That's kindof one of the perks of this job.
Elisabeth
I've had some bad outcall situations where I paid the lady a nominal cab fare to leave the hotel as she did not live up to the phone gals description. On another ocassion I saw a agency gal that was about 50 lbs heavier than advertised, I went ahead with the session and wrote about it in the review. The owner of the agency gave me a credit to use on my next visit.
I' also am +1 with monkmonk about the SO don't want to know it.
Reese dont you know scars are sexy!!!!!!!!!!!!!
First of all: Scar? What scar?
Back on subject: I have walked out only on one occasion, and it was a case where the girl was not the one pictured in her ad. In fact, I have also stayed on several occasions when the girl wasn't the same as her ad as long as she looked okay. The only time it was bad enough for me to walk out over looks was on an outcall, and it was MY ROOM. Funny thing was, it turned out to be fun, although large quantities of adult beverages were involved.
Only once. Was in Las Vegas. Stupidly called agency out of one of those street corner mags. Looked hot in the pic, called herself Sky,showed up, not like the pic, not hot and mechanical. Plunged on in and honored the deal.
Next time in LVegas, once again called the magazine. This time Stormy shows up at the door. Not only not the one in the picture, but in fact Sky from the last time! I am thinking, you gotta be kidding, that was 6 months ago. Could not believe it. Gave her cab fare and half donation and a drink. Oh wait, she just helped herself to the drink.
Since I started trying to do my homework here and other boards, have not abandoned ship. I don't think I would because the lady is taking a bigger chance on me, despite p411 references.
Cheater, at least you sent the money. That says something about you....
- CDL1
- 06-10-2010, 10:43 PM
That is the reason why I will not see a provider that does not have a face pic. Not going to happen with me. She keeps her face hidden and I keep my money.
I agree with Judge Smails in that you sent the money and that is honorable. You did decide to see her without a face pic and that was your choice. She relied upon your actions and showed up and got stood up. Her choice.
Very admirable and congrats for doing the right thing. Nice to see.