10 habits of highly sexual people

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10 habits of highly sexual people

April 29 2011 at 07:29am
By Romy Wilde

Pre-orgasmic. Someone who's not yet had an orgasm. It's astounding to think that Marilyn Monroe, that absolute icon of sexuality, fell into this category despite three husbands and a long line of highly accomplished lovers. Until her psychiatrist told her about masturbation, that is - after which she waxed lyrical about female orgasms to him.

Off-screen and on, Marilyn oozed sex in a way that few could ever hope to emulate. She used sex to boost her career and attain rich and powerful lovers - yet the ultimate sexual pleasure, sex for sex's sake, eluded her until she neared the end of her 36 years.

While most could never dream of attaining her luminosity and sex icon status, all of us have at some stage or another come across people who similarly ooze sex appeal, whether or not they meet our personal criteria of sexiness.

Some people are simply highly sexual. They tap into a sexual energy that vitalises them - to the extent that you can spot them a mile away. And without being able to put your finger on why, you know they'd be superb in bed. What habits do highly sexual people have that set them apart from the milling crowd of sexual wannabes?

1. They think of sex frequently and surround themselves with stimuli that trigger desire. Dwelling on thoughts of sex arouses desire, which is communicated non-verbally and heightens their sex appeal.

2. They pursue - and usually attain - frequent sex. Sex is good for our health, both physically and psychologically, and the results show. It's also self-reinforcing because the more sex we have, the more we want it.

3. They practise spontaneity, seeking sex whenever a good opportunity arises - and even when it doesn't. This often involves some risk-taking, especially when it comes to sex outdoors or in semi-public places. The thrill of being caught in the act adds sexual tension and heightens sensation.

4. They are sexually adventurous and constantly seek new sexual paths, which keeps things fresh. Their openness to explore new techniques, new venues and new positions makes them an exciting partner.

5. They laugh frequently and use humour in the bedroom to dispel any tension or to defuse potentially embarrassing situations, which are inevitable with sex. People are drawn to laughter, and it bonds them as partners.

6. They're not afraid to ask for what they want in bed, no matter how risqué or taboo the sexual activity may seem. They're confident enough to be themselves and risk rejection. When faced with a negative response, are likely to think of another risqué request.

7. They look after their bodies in an effort to attract mates. They usually exercise and eat healthily. How they look is important - because if we look good, we tend feel good. They often dress to flatter their best assets and pay attention to personal grooming.

8. They are highly tactile people who squeeze, cuddle and kiss their partners frequently even when not initiating sex. This intimate contact out of the bedroom reinforces their prowess between the sheets because it conveys love and affection.

9. Instead of worrying about their physical shortcomings, they focus on giving and receiving sexual pleasure. Their self acceptance gives them confidence and sexual self-esteem, which increases their success between the sheets.

10. They relish pleasure in all forms, devouring food that delights their senses, pursuing relaxation activities with gusto, admiring and appreciating beauty for beauty's sake. Their passion for life draws people to them, especially potential lovers, and further enhances their sex appeal.
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  • 05-04-2011, 12:41 PM
They forgot about PORN!
They forgot about PORN! Originally Posted by WTF
I would consider myself highly sexual. I'll bet you are too . I assume your joking. There are those that would think porn would be in the list somewhere, but I think those that get their kink on don't need a road map lol.

I think it's a comprehensive list. Though, I would disagree with spontaneous seeking of sex. If it doesn't mean picking people up then never mind, but I think picking people up off the cuff has its basis more in psychological needs than sexual ones.
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  • 05-04-2011, 01:14 PM
but I think picking people up off the cuff has its basis more in psychological needs than sexual ones. Originally Posted by OliviaHoward
Thats to deep for my nuts and weiner to grasp!


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They forgot about PORN! Originally Posted by WTF
They covered it in number 1.



1. They think of sex frequently and surround themselves with stimuli that trigger desire. Dwelling on thoughts of sex arouses desire, which is communicated non-verbally and heightens their sex appeal. Originally Posted by ninasastri
5. They laugh frequently and use humour in the bedroom to dispel any tension or to defuse potentially embarrassing situations, which are inevitable with sex. People are drawn to laughter, and it bonds them as partners.OMG yes!!!!! I thought I was just weird.


6. They're not afraid to ask for what they want in bed, no matter how risqué or taboo the sexual activity may seem. They're confident enough to be themselves and risk rejection. When faced with a negative response, are likely to think of another risqué request.Ummmm, 50/50 on this. Not afraid to ask for stuff that other people think is freaky. My secret freak tends to stay that way.

7. They look after their bodies in an effort to attract mates. They usually exercise and eat healthily. How they look is important - because if we look good, we tend feel good. They often dress to flatter their best assets and pay attention to personal grooming.Yes on dressing, NO on eating healthy.


10. They relish pleasure in all forms, devouring food that delights their senses, pursuing relaxation activities with gusto, admiring and appreciating beauty for beauty's sake. Their passion for life draws people to them, especially potential lovers, and further enhances their sex appeal. Aww yeah! Originally Posted by ninasastri
I love this list and was expecting to be all "whatever" about it but it is eerily accurate.

f it doesn't mean picking people up then never mind, but I think picking people up off the cuff has its basis more in psychological needs than sexual ones.
Originally Posted by OliviaHoward
I know that you didn't mean this in this way but that really smacks of the whole idea that promiscuous women are mentally disturbed.

Or maybe you did, in which case that is pretty hypocritical.
I like that list too, i think its valid when you work with sex magic. I do not "pick up people" from the cuff, but as it works with synchronicity you connect with like-minded spirits. I meet them over the internet much more often than when i go out. :-( But that is because my whole life is in transition right now
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  • 05-05-2011, 11:39 AM
Shit, now I"ll have to have words with Romy about plagiarizing my thought processes.