My first time with potential pain

Hoping to get some advice....and maybe tips on what to expect from you more experienced players.....

I have a provider I've been seeing for some time, now. We're very comfortable with each other, so no trust issues. So far, I've only seen her for her cute & cuddly GFE services. But she does advertise services like BDSM.

So, I've set up a multi hour role playing session: shes the jilted wife, I'm the husband that has been "whoring around", she's found my hobby stash and used it to hire a professional lady to come and service me. The two of them are going to subject me to a multi-hour hobby version of "good cop....bad cop."


I've specified no restrictions other than no severe pain. This is my first time with a session like this. What should I expect? Watch out for? Ask for?



LOL.....I'm totally fucked...aren't I?

Yes

Look, who knows what 'totally fucked' means.

Establish a safety word/system. Discuss with her in advance what your limits are, as best you understand them now. Then explore.

You really can't say no restrictions except no severe pain. That is too subjective of a requirement. I know you don't want to spoil the fantasy, but you should at least discuss the activities in a very broad sense. For example, will there be restraints? How do you define humiliation? You also have to set your threshold for pain and what does that really mean. When I contemplate any intense session, I let the provider know that I'm into stuff as long as there are no discernible marks left-- i.e. no hickeys, scratch marks, or even odors from oils or perfumes. You also need to develop trust with a safety word.

just remember "ouch" is not a safe word!!!