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should have titled this...sexy??...just out of curiosity what do you find the sexy...I don't mean appearance, personality those we have all covered before..i mean things like cuddle time,conversation,time at the beach etc...for me is a walk along the beach with a clear sky and a full moon....wearing a mans shirt with his cologne on it when i greet him at the door.....

I know this sounds kinda courney but I like being held during downtime. Kinda weird for a guy huh...

I like when a provider is aggressive/initiates activities. I like it when she talks dirty without talking dirty (if you know what I mean). I've tended to notice that in the hobby, the providers seem to expect the guys to initiate activities. Also, I've noticed that providers tend to repeat the lame screenplay lines from bad porn-- i.e. "give it to me" or "deeper" or "I want you to cum inside me". That is so lame. For once, I'd like to see a provider "slam" me into a chair and the do a nasty striptease/lap dance to get things started. And as for dialogue, how about something like this, "I like it when my inner thighs are kissed," or "I love the feel of your hot breath on my neck." Nothing contrived there and very personalized.

I like when a provider is aggressive/initiates activities. I like it when she talks dirty without talking dirty (if you know what I mean). I've tended to notice that in the hobby, the providers seem to expect the guys to initiate activities. Also, I've noticed that providers tend to repeat the lame screenplay lines from bad porn-- i.e. "give it to me" or "deeper" or "I want you to cum inside me". That is so lame. For once, I'd like to see a provider "slam" me into a chair and the do a nasty striptease/lap dance to get things started. And as for dialogue, how about something like this, "I like it when my inner thighs are kissed," or "I love the feel of your hot breath on my neck." Nothing contrived there and very personalized. Originally Posted by Cpalmson

: cheers:

Bearskin rug in front of a fireplace with her wearing only a flannel shirt from my closet

Dear Irish, as you say, "a walk along the beach on a clear night with a full moon” is pretty damn sexy indeed. But I try not to think about it because I live in the *#%&-ing Midwest. Here we have lots of movie theaters ... to take our mind off the fact that we have no mountains or beach. (Sigh.)

Anyway, there seem to be two categories of response that your question has received so far: what's sexy to us in the abstract; & what's sexy to us from providers. Here are ten for each category...

What’s sexy in the abstract?

1. A wink or a twinkle in her eye, just for me.
2. An expected kiss in the middle of a conversation, mid-sentence, out of the blue.
3. When she unconsciously touches her hair, ear, etc. while we’re conversing.
4. When she smiles & blushes, looks away, then looks right into my eyes.
5. Dancing cheek to cheek. (Cole Porter was right.)
6. Laughter, bubbling up lightly like champagne, at one of my dumb jokes.
7. Shapely, silky-smooth legs (like yours!) slowly getting out of the limousine.
8a. Her wanting to slowly undress for me. 8b. Her wanting to slowly undress me. 8c. Both of us just wanting to be naked together, we don’t care who undresses whom, we just want these clothes off NOW!
9. With her lying on her tummy, naked but for a pair of bikini-style panties, me slowly peeling them down just enough for that first glimpse of her pretty bottom, that first soft kiss right there, and watching her lift her pelvis just enough for me to slip those panties down her legs.
10. Sweet nothings, whispered in my ear, in the dark, in the wee small hours.

What’s sexy from a provider? Let’s call her a companion...
1. A big, happy grin on her face, just for me. Just for me.
2. (Momentarily) wearing clothes that leave something something to the imagination.
3. For her to look me over, smile at me & lick her lips. (Corny, cliché, phony? Who cares. That shit turns me ON.)
4. DFK. That’s just me. If it’s not her thing, I will certainly respect that. But in that case, let her just give me one soft, simple kiss on the lips at the beginning of our time together, and one before I leave ... and I’ll be calling again!
5. Saying everything with just her eyes. Eyes bright & attentive when we’re chatting. Eyes half-closed with lust & pleasure when we’re ......... Eyes widened in mock surprise at an abrupt thrust. Eyes peaceful when we’re cuddling after.
6. Flirting. Teasing. Touching my arm when we’re first talking. Touching, & liking to be touched, in nonsexual ways is SUPER SEXY from a companion.
7. Being called Daddy in the heat of passion. NOT “Big Daddy.” And I’ve never ever said, “Who’s your daddy.” Please. But just being called Daddy, in a sweet, small voice, does it for me. I also love being called baby and (I’m embarrassed to say) darling.
8. For her to use first-person possessive, not 2nd-person talk: “_______ my _______ !” not “_______ that _______ !” It's much more personal.
9. Feeling her breath on my body ... anywhere.
10. For her to make me feel that I’m not the only hungry, horny person in the room.

Thanks for the fun thread, Vixen. “IRISH” I were with you right now. (Ugh, how lame was that?)

Eye contact.

Irving Berlin wrote "Cheek to Cheek" not Porter

Ulp! You're absolutely right! & Fred Astaire sang it in "Top Hat."

Sorry, Mr. Berlin. Thanks, GT.

I like when a provider is aggressive/initiates activities. I like it when she talks dirty without talking dirty (if you know what I mean). I've tended to notice that in the hobby, the providers seem to expect the guys to initiate activities. Also, I've noticed that providers tend to repeat the lame screenplay lines from bad porn-- i.e. "give it to me" or "deeper" or "I want you to cum inside me". That is so lame. For once, I'd like to see a provider "slam" me into a chair and the do a nasty striptease/lap dance to get things started. And as for dialogue, how about something like this, "I like it when my inner thighs are kissed," or "I love the feel of your hot breath on my neck." Nothing contrived there and very personalized. Originally Posted by Cpalmson

Agreed. I also like DFK............

Bearskin rug in front of a fireplace with her wearing only a flannel shirt from my closet Originally Posted by jughead1171

A coy smile, warm inviting eyes, relaxed atmosphere and causal clothing- nude is better.

In my years of hobbying a woman's smile always leaves the lasting impression on me. I wished more girls smiled in their pictures..It sooo sexy!!

Thanks for the fun thread, Vixen. “IRISH” I were with you right now. (Ugh, how lame was that?) Originally Posted by Sorghum

She has that kind of effect on men! Nice post!

a good kisser, if the kiss is no good usually the rest of it doesnt matter.