I noticed when I watch porn with women they only casually make mention of the guy's dick, but talk a lot about the woman. When men watch porn, we focus our attention on the woman wishing we could fuck her. I suspect women also focus on the woman, but their attention is on how she is getting fucked and they imagine her (the pornstar) being them. Kind of like the way most women love to watch themselves getting fucked in the mirror.
As usual, the first 10 responses will be from men ... but, hey, it's ECCIE ... what would you expect.