Married Man Guilt. Does it exist as a Hobbyist?

jscottdfw18's Avatar
If your a married man. Have you ever felt guilty sleeping with escorts on a consistent basis. if not, do you ever feel like it may come back to haunt you in the future? like your wife finding out about your escapades. Your thoughts!!
offshoredrilling's Avatar
na
The guilt follows getting caught, not playing.
Sir Axl's Avatar
Surprisingly no.
Not a bit
greyghost48's Avatar
Mostly after, and there is always the getting caught issue.
Yes, I do feel guilt, but not enough to stop. I have a wonderful wife of 50+ years in every way except no sex for the last 15 years. I don't like the lying and cheating. It would be devastating to her if she knew and I don't want to hurt her. Devastating to me also if she found out, but I live with it and keep on seeing a selective few.
ck1942's Avatar
1) no sleeping unless it is an overnight

2) "forbidden fruit" is always sweeter

3) don't let your subconscious get control and out you by accident

4) exercise your "excuse management" properly and avoid "sudden" urges that compromise your embedded patterns.
pyramider's Avatar
If your a married man. Have you ever felt guilty sleeping with escorts on a consistent basis. if not, do you ever feel like it may come back to haunt you in the future? like your wife finding out about your escapades. Your thoughts!! Originally Posted by jscottdfw18

If you are feeling guilty then you should run away from the hobby. Or speak to the SO and get a hobby pass from her.
Does she feel guilty for not having sex with me? NO!
mitch p's Avatar
Does a SO feel guilty using sex to get what she wants by holding it over your head?
Whenever my SO goes out of town she says please behave yourself and don't cheat on me. I say well honey if you think you take really great care of me you have nothing to worry about. That drives her crazy.

She never seems to want me but she doesn't want anybody else to have me either. Now that's screwed up. So f--k guilt blue balls suck.
CubanAva's Avatar
Interesting thread. I’ve always wondered this but never thought it appropriate to ask.
kevcar's Avatar
I don’t want it to have to be this way, but I don’t want to go the rest of my life without sex. I don’t feel guilt or shame. I do worry about getting caught, but not enough to stop. I feel I am up to the task of managing my “secret life” without discovery.
Does a SO feel guilty using sex to get what she wants by holding it over your head?
Whenever my SO goes out of town she says please behave yourself and don't cheat on me. I say well honey if you think you take really great care of me you have nothing to worry about. That drives her crazy.

She never seems to want me but she doesn't want anybody else to have me either. Now that's screwed up. So f--k guilt blue balls suck. Originally Posted by mitch p
This is why i am happily single, so i don't have to worry about my SO holding Diddly squat over my head.
aminanawaar's Avatar
I agree this is a great thread. From a woman's perspective if the SO is taking care be of every area then I can see where guilt might sneak in but if lacking in any area especially sexually since sex is on the 1st level of
Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs then no guilt should follow. Just my thoughts.