Close Unexpected Encounters-What would you do?

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Ladies-What would you do if you happened to see one of your cleints unexpectedly at a Mall,Grocery Store or Restuarant & he is with his wife or girlfriend. Would you just ignore him, give him a wink or wave? Or give him a discreet acknowledgement?

Guys-Would you be sweating bullets! Would you try to make a dart to the nearest exit with your wife/girlfriend? How would you handle this situation. And what if you gived her a bad review? Would you trust her not to say anything to you & your wife/girlfriend in public?

It has never happened to me, but hopefully I'm prepared when it happens!
It can be a very awkward situation. Main reason I don't play close to home or usually see mainly traveling ladies.
PAPA JOE's Avatar
if i'm with another lady, just a discrete acknowledgement and move on.

you brought up an interesting point about the bad review. outing someone in the hobby, male or female, with their family or friends is an unforgivable sin. whether over a bad review or even if you are mortal enemies, this is a secret society.
  • hd
  • 06-08-2011, 01:26 PM
I believe the majority of the ladies on here would know better, as would any of us guy if a reverse situation. Of course there is always a bad apple in the bunch that could screw things up!

I have had women look at me, whether they think they know me or, for God's sake, think I'm good looking, but I just tell my SO they must think they know me from some place?

Myself, unless I know for a fact that she is by herself, I won't say anything.
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This has happned to me on a couple of occasions. Once she was alone, and I was with the SO. On the other occasion, I was alone & she was with her kids. In both cases, the unaccompanied person treats the accompanied person as a total stranger (i.e. ignores them) unless given a clear signal otherwise.
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I passed an ATF in the mall once while walking with my SO. We glanced at one another. No big deal.

I have experienced something weirder. Showed up to an incall once and the provider was a girl I went to high school with. That, my friends, was weird. And she was just as annoying as an adult as she was in high school
Correct response to meeting someone else you know from the hobby out in the real world:

NOTHING. No acknowledgement, no nod, no wink, no drooling.

(I recognize that an erection may be hard to prevent, but hopefully it is not visible)
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^^ Well said
Ladies-What would you do if you happened to see one of your cleints unexpectedly at a Mall,Grocery Store or Restuarant & he is with his wife or girlfriend. Would you just ignore him, give him a wink or wave? Or give him a discreet acknowledgement? Originally Posted by hobbyprojb
Nope, I'll mind my own biz and make absolutely NOOOO acknowledgements of ANY kind. That's how I roll
  • npita
  • 06-08-2011, 03:32 PM
Guys-Would you be sweating bullets! Would you try to make a dart to the nearest exit with your wife/girlfriend? Originally Posted by hobbyprojb
No. My fiancee knows I've seen providers and I haven't hobbied since she and I started dating.
How would you handle this situation.
Well, the first thing I'd do is keep in mind that she probably doesn't want me to acknowledge her in public, so I wouldn't do anything. If she came up and said hello, I'd say hello and chat if that's what she wanted to do. My fiancee would wonder who it was, but she'd probably have it figured out pretty quickly. At worst, my fiancee would feel a little weird about it, but other than that, she wouldn't be upset or anything.
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WITH HIS WIFE OR GIRLFRIEND???.... see if they're game for a threesome?
I would be suuuuuuper upset if anyone came up to me in public and called me Lilianna. Regardless of who I am with or where I am, if you didn't book time with me, I don't know you.
Only one person in my family knows I am doing this and it would devastate my mother if she ever found out.
I have had someone try to out me in public in a very silly way. I was at a really busy bar and realized that someone had been shouting LILIANNA for a couple of minutes. Now, maybe just coincidence but I've never heard of anyone with that name EVER.
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I would be suuuuuuper upset if anyone came up to me in public and called me Lilianna. Regardless of who I am with or where I am, if you didn't book time with me, I don't know you.
Only one person in my family knows I am doing this and it would devastate my mother if she ever found out.
I have had someone try to out me in public in a very silly way. I was at a really busy bar and realized that someone had been shouting LILIANNA for a couple of minutes. Now, maybe just coincidence but I've never heard of anyone with that name EVER. Originally Posted by SillyGirl

Ah Silly Girl, I bet there was a LILIANNA in the house. I'm thinking like most men that see you... their rendered pretty much speechless
Say nothing and keep it moving...Talk about it the next time you meet up. This is a different environment and certain social circles should probably not intertwine...
EXACTLY....
Correct response to meeting someone else you know from the hobby out in the real world:

NOTHING. No acknowledgement, no nod, no wink, no drooling.

(I recognize that an erection may be hard to prevent, but hopefully it is not visible) Originally Posted by tigercat