Privider's revenge/ need your opinion

rjdiner's Avatar
This is going to be one of those "What do YOU think" kind of posts:
There is a situation that has aroused more than a little suspicion in just the past few days that I want people to weigh in on.

The facts are as follows: Local hobbyist and out of town provider establish a dating relationship for a significant period of time. Skipping all the details, we all know how this ends, right. Yeah, hobbyist breaks up with provider, provider takes it personally and starts posting venomous comments in open forums on this board.

The situation gets worse and eventually the hobbyist is outed to his wife. Around the same time, the hobbyist got texted by the provider with a vengeful message. After being outed the hobbyist checks his home phone caller ID to find a strange phone # from same area code as the provider, while he was not home (obviously it was not the same phone, just the same area code).

The key question is:
Is the above set of circumstances enough to accuse the provider of outing the hobbyist? If it is what would you do?
silvester91999's Avatar
"The situation gets worse and eventually the hobbyist is outed to his wife"

I would think so, but it also sounds like the hobbyist broke unwritten rules of the hobby and allowed the provider toooo much personal information.

rjdiner's Avatar
There's no doubt. But that doesn't give her the right to out him does it?
jj_cool's Avatar
This is the reason I have never seen anyone more than once. Don't want any emotional feeling to get involved.
johnnybax's Avatar
This is a private issue between two people that formed a relationship and it does not belong on this forum. As many relationships do when ties are cut, things got ugly. We get that. But it is a personal matter between the two parties involved and it will not be discussed on this forum further. Drop it.