I want to start a "been-there-done-that vs. bucket-list" thread -- this being posted in the Alternate Realm forum and all...
However, I am afraid that if I start with my complete been-there-done-that list I may scare away respondents. Actually, I am proud of my been-there-done-that list -- if one does not seek, one does not achieve. Anyway.
Let me start with my first been-there-done-that:
Long ago while living in Seattle as a young husband, I bought a silicone dick for me from a head shop. When my then-wife found it in our closet, I told her it was a novelty gag for my soon to be married friend. Thereafter, my then-wife loved using it on herself -- and me on her too! This was my awakening that I//we could be sexually satisfied if I//we asked for what we want. Some will say no -- that is to be respected. Some will say yes.
I am hoping this thread develops so that we can also discuss our bucket-list.
Ed