Turning a non-pro to the dark side? WWED?

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Seeing a CUTIE of a 24 y/o. She doesn't care for guys her age. All I gotta do is drive to her, get a nice room, wine/dine her and treat her like a lady of times gone by. She IS a firecracker in bed.

Problem. She's fresh outa college. No job, not a penny to her name.

Since I've spent a helluva lot more on pro-ladies and this woman could certainly use tbe help.

Well my gut says stay status quo, my conscience says I should help her out with a $ donation that might insult her and/or turn her to the dark side.

What Would Eccie Do?
Shes clearly able to at least feed herself... I say keep it the way it is... maybe throw some feelers out there to see if she's already in the biz.
  • Junky
  • 02-17-2011, 09:46 AM
How about... just honestly approach her about the subject. Ask her if she could use some financial assistance from you, and talk to her about providing. If she shows interest, help her pursue it, if not drop it.
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How about... just honestly approach her about the subject. Ask her if she could use some financial assistance from you, and talk to her about providing. If she shows interest, help her pursue it, if not drop it. Originally Posted by Junky
What concerns me is I've taken this approach with DANCERS before and got my ass handed to me. Evidently I'm not very tactful when I've got a hard-on.
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What concerns me is I've taken this approach with DANCERS before and got my ass handed to me. Evidently I'm not very tactful when I've got a hard-on. Originally Posted by Hercules
Then, I think you already know the answer.

Enjoy it while it lasts.

Regards,
Why don't you introduce her to me, and after a while I will test those waters. Be glad to help! (lol)
fletch's Avatar
if it ain't broke don't fix it.

i need to get me one of those...
I'm sure some folks would love you to bring her to the site but if she ain't askin', don't go suggesting. This is really hard to get out of, the $ is addicting and it makes it difficult to maintain civilian relationships, and a host of other long term issues. Think with the big head on this one.

If she is hurting for money and seeing you, then help her out. But don't hand her the money and then say, "hey I know about this great site...". Keep her to yourself but don't turn her into a full blown (heh heh) provider...do her a favor and leave her out of this life. It is an uphill battle to permanently leave this alone.
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if it ain't broke don't fix it.

i need to get me one of those... Originally Posted by fletch
If she's indicated she needs financial help then I'd offer some and make sure she udnerstands that it's a gift from one friend to another. Period. If you expect "favors" in return for your $ then you've already made your mind up where this needs to go to keep the $ flowing.

If she hasn't indicated she needs financial help then you risk insulting her pride or worse. If she's simply a sweet young lady that enjoys your company then I don't see how you can compare this situation to that of a "Dancer" (I presume you mean a woman that gyrates on stage without a top so men can gawk at her boobs and pulls her g-string out so you can slip in $, right?). Good to get opinions from others that might have had similar expereriences but they're of limited value since nobody here is in your particular situation. Good luck.
Treat her like a lady, don't corrupt her with this motley crue (and I include me in that degrading comment.)

Surely there are ways you can offer a helping hand without telling her here is $$ for that great session in the sack with you. Take her car to dinner, notice it is low on gas, fill it up for her. Buy some groceries to fix a meal at her place, and way over buy the groceries. Take her clothes or shoe shopping. Perhaps she needs something for that job interview, offer to get her a new outfit.

Don't insult her, but surely you can find little ways to help her out. Nice birthday presents, other holiday presents can surely be done without her feeling like she is a 'kept' woman. Hopefully you done her right for Valentine's day?
Hercules's Avatar
If she is hurting for money and seeing you, then help her out. Originally Posted by Dannie
My fear here is she'll add it up and realize she can make easy money and give up her true dreams (which I want her to follow despite it taking her away from me).

And Dannie, you ain't the first lady (and I'm guessing not the last) to discourage it.
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I like tigercats comments. I'd recommend the same. Been there, done that, it works and traditionally no ones upset.

Be a friend. Talk to her like a friend. She'll never regret that.

Occasionally check her pulse on the doing and giving as attitudes do change, especially with your suggested age difference. Be preparred to modify your relationship as it will change in time.

By the way.....respectfully.....lucky bastard!
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Must agree with the majority. Follow your gut and leave well enough alone. Sounds to me like you have a good thing going that if you mess with involving her entry into the hobby she could leave you high and dry because she was insulted that you offered to pay her for her "services".

I agree, you are one lucky bastard!
Hercules's Avatar
Thanks for all the opinions. Think I'll just start spoiling her with practical gifts like luggage and travel goodies for when she does hit dream pay-dirt.

To be honest it was a provider that initially got me started in with the large group of drunken reprobates. And trust me when I say I hadda deal with a couple of whacky doodle nut jobs before this Cutie literally fell in my lap.