To the guy who wrote a PM asking for advice ...

There was a new guy who was asking for advice for a hobbiest who didn't have much experience. He wrote a couple of days ago and well, I just answered it a few moments ago.

I pushed send and the message was that he wasn't accepting PM's! Well, I just spent seven minutes writing this brief note down and I just thought that I would post it here.

If you're out there, and you know who you are, this is for you!

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Hi!

Thanks for writing me and I appreciate the compliment! Here are just a few suggestions. Take them with a grain of salt or consider them. Just a few quick notes!

Probably one of the most important things to remember is that we're real human beings.

For whatever reason, men think of us as either sub human or just someone who is from outer space. We're neither.

We are blood, flesh, have the same desires and responsibilities as you do.

My blog is in rough shape but I actually have written a few things about the above and other issues. Just excuse the free flow of ideas on there.

The other thing is to use lube or be careful when fingering a woman. If your fingers are dry, it hurts like hell.

The same things with oral sex. Some women LOVE to have their clit sucked or nibble. If you do that to me, I'll get tears in my eyes, yelp and push you away. You'll look at me shocked because I'll be holding back crying. Yes. It's that intense for me and I can get hurt easily. Some women are like this and others are not.

EVERY woman is different in the way that she likes to be held, kissed, pleased, etc.

And for that reason, this is in my blog as well someplace, when a man tells me that he is GREAT with oral sex, I generally wish to not spread my legs.

There are just some nice rules that you can find here and there that just helps. But no one has the final say. I'm pretty experienced but what works for me might not work for others.

Everyone says to be clean and respectful. Honestly, if you're a little stinky, I don't care. I kindof like the smell of a man. A masculine smell will make me melt.

And if you're cute about it, you can pull my hair and call me a dirty little slut. But all of this needs to be in context. If I answer the door and you start to do things like this ... it would scare me to death!

I also like pubic hair. So what if a little hair gets in my teeth. Natural dental floss, I say.

And if you get frustrated with a woman, move on. Don't dwell on it. There are plenty of fucked up men AND women on this board and in other places.

If one doesn't work out, the next one could be a complete dream.

Always feel free to ask me questions. Good luck!

Sincerely,
Elisabeth

Great little blog elisabeth. Too many guys and gals on here seem to forget that we are all human and as such have our own likes and dislikes and preferences. I have hobbied for a long time and have always tried to be respectful of the lady I am with. Luckily I have had the pleasure of meeting some great women who gave me more than I ever expected.

I always like reading your posts. Thanks for the honesty.

Thanks for the reminders of the basics Elisabeth, for some reason I always enjoy your posts. I too am one of those guys who think I'm pretty good at giving her oral, but it never occured to me that it might hurt -- I am usually pretty good at watching her body language to see what she likes and don't mind some direction while down there. Then again I have always thought if it is not fun for one or both, why do it!

Never been with a provider but I've always made it a point to ask a woman what they like and where the like it the most. We're all different and like different things. One exgf would constantly use her teeth cuz she said it made me guys feel good even after i told her to stop doing it. What made me feel good was when I lied and told her I wasn't into receiving oral.


To be honest... I f'n love a good bj

Hey bbwhunter, I saw that you have not been with a provider yet, be careful, its like a drug, very addictive, and what a wonderful addiction it is, so many lovely woman, so little time.

Great little blog elisabeth. Too many guys and gals on here seem to forget that we are all human and as such have our own likes and dislikes and preferences. I have hobbied for a long time and have always tried to be respectful of the lady I am with. Luckily I have had the pleasure of meeting some great women who gave me more than I ever expected.

I always like reading your posts. Thanks for the honesty. Originally Posted by elgato111

You're welcomed! A lot of people will write or call and ask for some general advice in one fashion or another. I really didn't know what this guy was asking and so I just threw a bunch of thoughts together. Hopefully, he'll read this and wish to participate in this forum, which I think would help him a lot if he is nervous.

Thanks for the reminders of the basics Elisabeth, for some reason I always enjoy your posts. I too am one of those guys who think I'm pretty good at giving her oral, but it never occured to me that it might hurt -- I am usually pretty good at watching her body language to see what she likes and don't mind some direction while down there. Then again I have always thought if it is not fun for one or both, why do it! Originally Posted by FishGuy13

Honestly, a lot of women will grin and bear it if oral (or whatever activity) really isn't very comfortable for her. One of the advantages of being older and that I don't mind expressing my wants anymore. I used to be nervous doing so.

Also, and this isn't meant to sound as rude as it will, women will often offer men suggestions (especially with regard to oral sex) and they'll change for a few minutes and then go RIGHT BACK TO WHAT THEY WERE PREVIOUSLY DOING! Which doesn't work very well for the individual involved.

But if you're good with reading body language, then you're probably great!!!

Never been with a provider but I've always made it a point to ask a woman what they like and where the like it the most. We're all different and like different things. One exgf would constantly use her teeth cuz she said it made me guys feel good even after i told her to stop doing it. What made me feel good was when I lied and told her I wasn't into receiving oral.


To be honest... I f'n love a good bj Originally Posted by bbwhunter

Who doesn't? This may be a gross over-generalization, but I would imagine if you enjoy that activity, that some of the ladies here would be first rate in offering you a wonderful experience. There are plenty of women in the real world who are good with this. But in "this" world, women know what to do because they practice , pay attention, they have experience and well, most of the collective "us" will be able to do exactly what thrills you. And you will wish to come back and visit!

Hey bbwhunter, I saw that you have not been with a provider yet, be careful, its like a drug, very addictive, and what a wonderful addiction it is, so many lovely woman, so little time. Originally Posted by MUSHROOM MAN

Yeah. If I were a man, no woman would be safe from my attentions.

Thanks for the input!

Sincerely,
Elisabeth

Probably one of the most important things to remember is that we're real human beings.

For whatever reason, men think of us as either sub human or just someone who is from outer space. We're neither.

Sincerely,
Elisabeth Originally Posted by ElisabethWhispers

Bingo.... I hate it when people forget the person behind the persona.

(I am from planet BOB... if anyone gaf)

Bingo.... I hate it when people forget the person behind the persona.

(I am from planet BOB... if anyone gaf) Originally Posted by ~Ze~

Yes. As a result of MY personae, men are often scared to see me and I just don't understand it! I'm just a regular woman. Very regular!

As an example, and it follows what's above, I wrote this blog post as a response to a person that I've seen from this board. He's a wonderful man but when he was new to "this", well ... he had similar ideas to most guys who start messing around with escorts.

Here is the blog post from late August:

August 29th, 2011
Escorts are human. They really are!

Yes. Escorts are human.

One of my clients who is new to this demimonde was telling me the other week that he was just so pleasantly surprised to discover that escorts were actually real people.

And he clarified what he was saying with an additional comment of, “You know, Elisabeth. You eat, pay bills, have families and personal lives, you read literature. You’re just like normal people except that you do this!”
“I mean, you’re a real person, aren’t you?”

This wasn’t as comforting as he probably meant it to be but I understood what he was telling me.

You see, most people don’t consider escorts human. I’m sure the majority think of us as the ever present succubus who devour men in their sleep (metaphorically and otherwise) and suck the spirit, money and morality out of him while doing so.

It’s hardly the man’s fault when he is dragged into this situation of wickedness. After all, he is being seduced and driven into the direction of these wicked women with a general lack of morality.

But let’s get back to the “are escorts human” part.

This isn’t the first time that this general philosophy has been thrust on me by various people. The one female that I told what I was doing sincerely thought that I had bodyguards and men wearing purple hats with feathers who would be waiting outside the door of my workplace.

When I finally invited her over and what she saw were average women, in a nice home and having absolute fun doing what we’re doing, she was shocked. It wasn’t the Sodom and Gomorrah (although sometimes it can seem that way with a little luck!) that she imagined. There wasn’t an orgy going on. It was just regular guys who wanted a little personal enjoyment knocking at the door. In other words, just plain human activity.

Oh. And good looking men, too! Not a drooling pestilent in site. No, sir. All that showed up that evening, and it was a fun evening, were healthy corn fed men who were looking for some entertainment and my God, they got it!

So who are we? Just like every other woman that you know except often we carry more secrets. Yes, we are human beings with the same needs and wants as everyone else.

Promise.
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From the planet BOB...what Zombieland galaxy is that in??? And we always gaf)) LOL

Never been with a provider but I've always made it a point to ask a woman what they like and where the like it the most. We're all different and like different things. One exgf would constantly use her teeth cuz she said it made me guys feel good even after i told her to stop doing it. What made me feel good was when I lied and told her I wasn't into receiving oral.


To be honest... I f'n love a good bj Originally Posted by bbwhunter

I'm curious, you say you have never been with a provider.
So what are you doing here, do you plan to see one?

I think it is a good idea for a guy to tell the girl he is with to let him know right away
if anything he may do with her hurts, or is uncomfortable for her.

I always do. That way a girl wont feel like you might be offended, or possible have
it kill the mood or something, or maybe hurt our fragel ego.

And you have to remember guys to listen to what she is telling you.

Most importantly remember that everyone is different. I've known some
girls that would get frustrated if you were'nt doing something rough or hard enough.

You need to listen to her if she's telling you that as well.

I'm curious, you say you have never been with a provider.
So what are you doing here, do you plan to see one? Originally Posted by Kandy Kelly

No ma'am I haven't but ask me that tomorrow afternoon and I'll have a different answer for ya.