I like the ones that love their wives. Some encouragement

There are too many times I've asked someone if they are married in small talk (usually based on something they have said) and they sorta bow their heads and say, "umm yes." in the softest voice they can. I wanted to encourage you guys with this thread.

We are all here for some reason. A very large percentage of my personal clients are simply starved for physical affection at home, but they are madly in love with their wives. I love hearing that. It's ok to love your wife around here. When you wrap yourself in light and the pride of being married to someone you really love, it just adds something extra special to your life. We, as providers, can totally relate to the S.O. not understanding very well. You've come here to patch an open place in your life and ease the pain that keeps compounding. If you didn't find a release valve, the family would suffer in the end. When the main bread winner is very stressed it affects every one in their household.

When you come here (alot of the time in guilt) you are seeking a way to ease the pain. A way to be a better husband and father by opening a release valve. We can patch that place inside that has been baron and exposed to the harsh world for so long all the pain runs together. BUT when you pro-actively look for a release without getting involved in another relationship, you are helping your family by helping yourself and not betraying the ones you love.

My view of this may be a little one sided but for most of the people I see, this is exactly what they go through. So you are not alone my friend! There are many, many people in the same position as you.

Let go of the guilt and accept the patch. Guilt will interfere with your ability to release. What keeps alot of guys out of the hobby is knowing they will feel so guilty after the fact. Don't. We can send you back to your family with a spring in your step and a song in your heart.

Lastly you guys should know that it's quite impressing and wonderful to hear a guy say out loud he loves his wife. I get great satisfaction knowing I'm helping someone that has proven he is a great guy by saying something like that (when it can be very uncomfortable for some.)

Have a great day everyone. Be good to yourself and relax.

Thanks, SPTL. I do love my wife, and I know I could never replace her with this hobby. However, she could replace this hobby anytime she wants. I am glad that there are so many great women that can fill the void for a period of time, then we both move on.

I agree 100% with this!

Wow i couldnt have said it better.

I agree 100% with this! Originally Posted by Ivy Chick

As do I!

I think there are many ladies here who should get a psychologist degree without ever having to go to college....'-) We know and understand the needs of the wonderful gents we see. We are not judgmental and while making money is a main goal for most, know that most of us understand your needs, emotionally and physically, and are happy to fill a void doing what we do, as opposed to you risking everything in a "real world" or "vanilla" affair, that will more than likely lead to the end of the life you've built. Happy Hobbying to All!

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The force is strong with this one it is. Watch her we must.

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The force is strong with this one it is. Watch her we must. Originally Posted by Iaintliein

LOL... a true Hobby Master, or is it a Jedi Master...hmmm A Jedobby Master, maybe?

LOL... a true Hobby Master, or is it a Jedi Master...hmmm A Jedobby Master, maybe? Originally Posted by M A X

Actually. . . baiting is my specialty.

Ahhhh......so that would make you a Master Baiter, yes. Aren't we all? LOL

Actually. . . baiting is my specialty. Originally Posted by Iaintliein

ah... a master baiter eh? you're fast MAX.

JPdM

LOL,
Thanks Max, I'm glad flirting is free!

Back to the salt mine now,

Have a great time. . . and yes, the OP and others make great points, the view you ladies have inside the minds of men is like no other, you see where wives no longer care to look.

Thanks for the post. I'm on my 2nd marriage. Both to SAH wives. Both totally focused on kids w no energy leftover for hubby (who is paying all the bills so she can SAH w her kids). While dating, she went out of her way to have time and energy for me. She was happy to have alternate weekends free when her ex had her kids so we could spend time together. After a trip to the courthouse, it's deja vu all over again. She wants her kids every weekend and holiday w little interest in time alone w her new wallet (I mean husband). So I returned to an occasional monthly hobby trip. This post helps, as do all the girls. 60 min of acting like you're interested is more than I get in a month at home. I don't know if/how much I love my wife now that I've figured out I'm being used because I'm a great stepfather to her kids, pay all her bills and make 3x more than her ex. Maybe 1 day I'll buttdial her during a session and end it. But until then, thanks to all the girls for helping us (me) out.

Hey, Softie! I wonder how many times I've told you how much I love my wife. How could I not? She has the ability to clearly see the best in me but be blind to my many, many faults. Maybe that's why she wears such funny-looking glasses. Ha.

I do love my wife, and I know I could never replace her with this hobby. However, she could replace this hobby anytime she wants.

That's some sad truth there my friend. Sad truth.

+1 to the bunch of you. Freakin' little yap-dog outranks me.