Ok so I tried setting up appts with some providers but they all need at least 2 references which is totally understandable. I am new to this so I do not have any and was wondering how will I ever get a reference if I can never meet anyone without one?! Any tips (besides going to bp) on how to get around this! Originally Posted by htown123Look for a newbie friendly providers.. all of the ladies should screen to protect themselves. We all started somewhere so be patient!