Why one woman chose to be a sugar baby and not an escort

I asked my sugar baby of 3 years if she ever thought about being an escort and without a second of hesitation she answered, "Because I want to get married some day, silly!" She went on to explain, ". . .. If you're an escort you simply can't hide that, it eventually comes out. . . . . and the second it comes out 95% of guys cut you off the list of potential wives because they don't want to have to explain to their circle of friends at the country club why their wife was once a hooker."

I thought that was such an interesting response I had to share.

Interesting...

Just depends on the person I suppose...I would have no interest in marrying someone who wasn't understanding of my past experiences in hookerworld...

Just depends on the person I suppose...I would have no interest in marrying someone who wasn't understanding of my past experiences in hookerworld... Originally Posted by Valerie

I'd marry you in a second Valerie - just let me know when.

nothing wrong with being a provider, it is the rest of the world that needs to adapt to that fact.

I'd marry you in a second Valerie - just let me know when. Originally Posted by utr_guy_in_houston

Aww

nothing wrong with being a provider, it is the rest of the world that needs to adapt to that fact. Originally Posted by exoticdanceweardealer

ESP in the US

I fall in love with a hooker on every visit. Then I get separated
as I leave.

I fall in love with a hooker on every visit. Then I get separated
as I leave. Originally Posted by 45Colt

And she gets the house and all the money?

I don't think Valerie really understands what the man was saying. Doesn't matter really...

Just depends on the person I suppose...I would have no interest in marrying someone who wasn't understanding of my past experiences in hookerworld... Originally Posted by Valerie

Honestly I have never been interested in any type of SD/SB arrangement. Years ago I had two gentleman offer such arrangements and I am far to independent and strong willed to allow someone to put any type of restraints on me.

There is far too much fun and thrill in meeting new gentleman and I am simply not willing to give that up.

I feel more confident knowing I have my own ability to earn and work and be independent from another person and that includes keeping myself single. I have been in long term relationships the longest was an 11 year marriage. The last was a 7 year relationship with a gentleman who I met through escorting.

I have found I am much happier single. Relationships even in an SD/SB arrangement are too much work and I am not willing to be tied down in any way and not for any amount of money. (Unless of course we are talking hundreds of thousands of dollars, or even millions..lmao) That might make me reconsider..haha

But for those ladies who enjoy those type arrangements I say "do what you have to do to enjoy your life and enjoy others".

I asked my sugar baby of 3 years if she ever thought about being an escort and without a second of hesitation she answered, "Because I want to get married some day, silly!" She went on to explain, ". . .. If you're an escort you simply can't hide that, it eventually comes out. . . . . and the second it comes out 95% of guys cut you off the list of potential wives because they don't want to have to explain to their circle of friends at the country club why their wife was once a hooker."

I thought that was such an interesting response I had to share. Originally Posted by utr_guy_in_houston

I agree it is a silly notion that somehow she is not already escorting or prostituting through your relationship. It is just like the Porn stars who think they are not prostituting or having money for sex. The same thing applies to women who marry wealthy, rich men only for the money and to be a Trophy Wife. It all comes down to the same thing, money for her time and intimacy.

...because they don't want to have to explain to their circle of friends at the country club why their wife was once a hooker."... Originally Posted by utr_guy_in_houston

The trick will be explaining to the friend's wives at the country club why their husbands are so familiar with this lady already.

I have found I am much happier single. ... Originally Posted by Sensia

Damn. Dammit to hell.

I asked my sugar baby of 3 years if she ever thought about being an escort and without a second of hesitation she answered, "Because I want to get married some day, silly!" She went on to explain, ". . .. If you're an escort you simply can't hide that, it eventually comes out. . . . . and the second it comes out 95% of guys cut you off the list of potential wives because they don't want to have to explain to their circle of friends at the country club why their wife was once a hooker."

I thought that was such an interesting response I had to share. Originally Posted by utr_guy_in_houston

Well, it depends. If you work in your own town, city, or whatnot , I am sure it eventually does make "the round".

But I have some ex-escort friends who were married, and no one ever suspected they had been doing this as well. Not even their husband. But - of course, they were not "working" in their city. And they - of course - stopped , before entering this relationship which lead to marriage in the longer run.

And on the other hand: Strictly speaking, there is no "real" difference between escorts and SBs in the moral department. So the conservatives this girl thinks about don`t necessarily think of her as less than an escort, just because she is a SB. I think it`s a quite "immature" response and missing some relevant issues. Wives , who take money, or women in generally , who are financially dependent, as in the man taking care of them, are - generally speaking - morally judged at the same level like any other escort.

I don`t think people are "open" or smart enough (in the conservative world) to make a difference in these small social nuances.

In Europe women whose men take care of them, are also regarded as whores and frowned upon. So, they might as well work as escorts. No difference there. Such things might not be talked about loud, or even be an issue, as long as the relationship is well. But as soon as there are problems, or eventual divorces or any other issues, the departments of judging lean into that direction. Then the face of truth is shown, and the women won?t have much to laugh , usually. Because, most often the "friends in the country club" are polite enough to not say something as long as they see that the guy has the woman`s back. But once he doesn`t anymore, it does not matter if she is sugarbabe or escort, they will judge her the same.

Same is with strippers versus escorts, and whatnot. I think Maggie Mc Neill (The Honest Courtesan) was diving into that topic in one of her posts, which was exactly about the fact, that the conservative moralists don`t make distinctions within these realms.

Sure, a woman being taken care of is less frowned upon than a man being taken care of, because we still live in patriarchy and - oh once again - my favourite word - heteronormativity, but still - it`s not considered worth a medal of honour, specially by other women , who do indeed have a career without men.