account editing

I set my account for privacy a few weeks ago.
i cant get back into it to change back to , show i am online, private messages, etc.
could you please direct me to where i need to go on the site to make these changes

thank you

User CP
Edit Options

well you have a green dot. so it shows your on line.
go back to cpuser/edit options then Messaging & Notification block then Private Messaging block