Asexual all of a sudden?

Duthgar1976's Avatar
I believe im using that term right.... think i have been let down so much in the hobby i dont care for sex anymore. 13 years of no sex and a year of not bad but not what i am wanting has seemed to have killed my sex drive. I am tempted to delete my account but not sure if its just a phase or what.......

Im just rambling here dont mind me just thinking out loud.
bistraight69's Avatar
Try a sexual surrogate -Since many sexual problems are psychological rather than physical, communication plays a key role in the therapeutic process between a patient and the sex surrogate, as well as between the surrogate and the therapist. Surrogates offer therapeutic exercises to help the patient. These may include relaxation techniques, intimate communication, teaching social skills, and some sexual touching.
Chung Tran's Avatar
could be a phase... might help if you stick to a particular Provider who didn't disappoint you.. what was going on in the other 13 years? were you Horny all of that time?
bojulay's Avatar
Still better than being transexual all of a sudden. LOL


What Chung said, find someone you can click with.
Probably a mature lady with more experience.
It might be low testosterone.
Do you have other symptoms? Hair loss, mood change, low energy, fatigue, reduced amount of semen, irritability, reduced muscle mass?
A blood test can measure your levels.
Duthgar1976's Avatar
could be a phase... might help if you stick to a particular Provider who didn't disappoint you.. what was going on in the other 13 years? were you Horny all of that time? Originally Posted by Chung Tran
nah man 13 years of trying to get laid gf married and nothing i couldnt get laid in a fucking morgue was the shitest 13 years of my life.

i understand finding the girl i really click with but i think i do then its just not what i was wanting.... sigh i dk anymore. im not depressed just like not intreseted in getting laid with any o the ladies here anymore it seems. even my dream goddess of pistol marks dont do it for me anymore either. no i havent seen her but she was my , endgame, as i call it. ya know gotta get all those refs to get to her, all well dont care anymore.
Chung Tran's Avatar
try to adjust your thinking.. there should not be an "end game", no single Provider is the top of the mountain, so to speak.. the fun is climbing the mountain and enjoying the scenery along the way..
TinMan's Avatar
Don't disable your account, but just commit to not logging in for at least 3 weeks. Then use the time for something productive that you enjoy. By the end of that time you'll either get the urge again, or you'll find you really don't need this hobby. Either is preferable to your current predicament.
daty/o's Avatar
Look on the bright side; you're saving a ton of money. Enjoy it while it lasts; I doubt if it will for long.
blowmypop23's Avatar
I feel your pain bro but I agree with daty. You can look at this as a positive. Just think about all the $$ you've spent hobbling and now can save.
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  • 10-04-2015, 04:49 PM
HoneyRose may be right. I was feeling little urge for sex when I found my testosterone levels to be in the dumps. Still getting things worked out but there is a light at the end of the tunnel now at least.
Duthgar1976's Avatar
Look on the bright side; you're saving a ton of money. Enjoy it while it lasts; I doubt if it will for long. Originally Posted by daty/o
yeah we shall see and yes i am saving money, well sorta goin towards other things right now.
Duthgar1976's Avatar
I feel your pain bro but I agree with daty. You can look at this as a positive. Just think about all the $$ you've spent hobbling and now can save. Originally Posted by blowmypop23
yeah i know, whats funny normally your little gif gives me a stiffy an i wanna go molest mysef. now im jsut like meh.
TexTushHog's Avatar
Are you still getting pleasure out of other things that you have typically gotten pleasure from? Reading, food, exercise, etc.? If not, the inability to derive pleasure from things that are usually pleasurable for you is called anhedonia. It can be a symptom of depression or of other mood disorders.

If you are still getting pleasure from your normal pursuits, then the lack of desire -- called low libido -- can be from aging, low testosterone, depression (though probably not if you don't have some other symptoms), etc. Talk to your primary care physician and see if she (or he) things a referral to a psychiatrist is warranted. But it may just be normal.
Duthgar1976's Avatar
Are you still getting pleasure out of other things that you have typically gotten pleasure from? Reading, food, exercise, etc.? If not, the inability to derive pleasure from things that are usually pleasurable for you is called anhedonia. It can be a symptom of depression or of other mood disorders.

If you are still getting pleasure from your normal pursuits, then the lack of desire -- called low libido -- can be from aging, low testosterone, depression (though probably not if you don't have some other symptoms), etc. Talk to your primary care physician and see if she (or he) things a referral to a psychiatrist is warranted. But it may just be normal. Originally Posted by TexTushHog
i am diagnosed with Major Depression Disorder. i take my meds and have to tae viagra when i hobby, but what it is to me least is that i build up all this excitement and when the time comes im generally disappointed with the out come. there are still a hand full of ladies i want to see but at this point i am not sure if i ever will.

I have been told to get checked for low T i jsut keep putting it off. why i dont know.