Once again last night a great GFE provider was roughed up. This is happening way too often for me. I can’t understand why on earth any man would treat a woman that way. Hitting the face is not a playful spank. Leaving her unable to wear contacts says that things went way too far.
We should be so happy that these ladies are here working hard to make us happy and feel connected to another human being. Most of us value the great service providers do. Yet there remain among us men that do not understand these women are people with feelings. They are working in a profession that requires not just physical and mental skills, but a superior emotionally ability that most women couldn’t possess. But they are someone’s daughter, sister and even mother. They deserve much better.
Many would say that an incident like this is just part of the hazards of working in this hobby. Bullshit. There is a big difference between an accident that happens in a workplace, which was not purposeful, and someone intentionally doing harm to another person.
This event was perpetrated on one of the nicest ladies that I have ever known, in or out of the hobby. I have seen and heard of way too many great providers retire after receiving broken bones and other workplace injuries. I lost one of my all-time favorites after a broken leg. What a true loss to all of us clients that is so grateful for these beautiful souls.
Let hope that these abusive perverts are driven from the hobby as soon as they are identified as having these tendencies. If you want to play rough then find a fetish provider that is willing to engage in those activities. Don’t try to introduce them suddenly in a GFE session.
Shame on whoever it was. I hope that all the providers here find out and he can’t make another appointment.
Very much so and unfortunatly the world we live in.. I always wonder about guys who are constantly pointing out that they think a provider has a pimp or driver.. I wonder if the provider was their SO, daughter or maybe just a good friend, how they would feel about appointments with no backup or protection.. .suffice it to say that whoever did this to your friend is much more dangerous than any pimp or driver..IMO..
Apparantly and hopefully she is ok or will recover shortly..but once again I can understand why over time a provider would get hardened.. I believe it's called self preservation.
I've been fortunate over time to have met and made friends with some outstanding women who sought out this profession to support themselves and/or their families. I've learned many things about Human nature and have learned to understand why caution and screening is so all important. Problem is, even with that caution...scary people sometimes slip through the cracks.
There are many many good folks in this covert world and we need to stick together wherever possible..sorry you had to share this but I'm glad you did.
Maybe report it to the police? I've never understood hitting a woman. Hope she recovers quickly.
Sobering. Very sobering. I just don't get some people. Shakes his head...
As STL and MW pointed out, solidarity and safety should be above all, folks.
That is unacceptable. Everyone be safe.
I agree, search, this should never, ever happen to a young lady, regardless of the circumstances.
Not only in society, but also in this sub-culture there are acceptable norms of behavior and what happened to this fine, young lady, is completely outside of those boundaries.
As the old saying goes, "Karma is a bitch", so I hope what goes around comes around to the low-life who harmed a member of our community.
Very sad and theres more providers than her that this has happened to and wasnt reported. Safety should always be the number one thing here, but unfortunately its not because were not allowed to say certain things due to board rules.
- Steev
- 07-02-2013, 01:49 PM
Oh wow, that is a drag to hear
I hope she gets well soon
Stay safe everyone!
Encourage her to call the police, and to alert other providers of this criminal. Stay safe and screen.
I agree with Malwoody on this. I have also met some fantastic ladies in this line of work. I don't understand how a man can do this. Call and ask for a date only to abuse her and think it's okay because he gave her a little cash. Sometimes guys think this is cute and sexy but to play in any matter where marks are left is unacceptable. I hope she heals and tells the world who this badass is.
I am so sorry to hear that any provider would need to be exposed to this darker side of the hobby.
Now here is a dude, that definitely should rec'd some "bare knuckle" treatment.
Whoever this provider is....first off, of course,it is totally not her fault that some creep did this to her.
However I would suggest, she might take a look at her screening process...and if she is not experienced, reach out to some of the ladies who have been around for security and reference tips.
Sadly, this is a darker side to the hobby that even with proper policies continues to exist. I can imagine one's reaction might be to just push this experience aside, and move on. I'm sure the pain, fear and not wanting to stir things up even more i.e. just putting it behind ya...can sometimes be a tempting thought
(Actually, the truth is I really can't even imagine the feelings a provider would have in this situation, so my apologies for even stating that.)
But please don't let that happen. Work with whatever site you may have met this creep
from, talk to the ladies about this creep...and rely on suggestions from the other providers for guidance.
Sometimes we all can be drama kings and queens on Eccie...but playing those games on a SHMB is one thing. Disrespecting and harming a provider is truly the douche bag, chicken shit, good for 'nough side that we all must attempt to unite, protect and "out" of hobbyland, the best we can...here is one area we all can put our Eccie differences aside and agree upon!!!
Just like a cockroach problem, sadly we can never totally eliminate all of them. But when one comes out into the open...that's when we take the opportunity to squash it.
I have never believed in hitting women no matter what their profession, why would someone think a little cash gives them the right to hurt someone? Men as a whole are larger and stronger than women, not always, but mostly. I believe mother nature made us that way to PROTECT women NOT to hurt them.
Men such as this one sicken me to be honest, my heart goes out to the lady, I hope she's okay and for the rest of the ladies, be careful please! Asshats like this are all too common
That's a shame! Who got hurt?
This indeed is sad. Best wishes to the provider for a speedy recovery.
I'd rather know who the motherfucker was who did it